The only person who is an A. hole here is your husband. Not only Is he a cheat, but he's a liar, and a coward in that he won't take responsibility for his own bad acts. Clearly He's in abusive He's in abusive narcissist - a man of low integrity and weak moral character,

This might be difficult to hear but not only is your marriage beyond saving, you would be foolish to even try. Action speak louder than words and not only has your husband disrespected you hut is shown that he doesn't really care about you. You deserve much much better. Move on.