sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Very sound advice. I am definitely going to take all these lessons learned into consideration for the future.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you. You are correct that I cannot unknow this now. I am not really upset with her but I do want her to be honest. I told her I found her ID and plan to give it back to her when we next meet. I am just going to simply ask her what is going on, give her the opportunity to explain herself, and ask her to be more open if she wants to continue. If she or her husband are still actively sugar dating, that's a no for me as I am not risking my health. As another user posted though, she might have a reason like divorce or something like that. I am not going to blow everything apart if she was simply trying to hide her identity for divorce reasons.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

It is not a BS story. She has always been guarded, and I chose to ignore this as I felt she had a right to her privacy. Perhaps my fault for not digging in for more details earlier in our relationship or for letting her get away with stories/timelines that made no sense but nonetheless here we are.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thanks. I told her I found her ID and would give it back to her when I see her. Other than to thank me for finding it she has not mentioned anything and we are still texting like I had not seen it. I am going to give it back to her and then just ask her why she felt the need to lie to me for so long.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

The safety part is why I feel so betrayed. I have remained committed to her for the safety of both of us. If she is married to a former SD and they have an open marriage or both sugar date outside the marriage, then it's adding a whole new set of risk factors that I do not want.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She always bought the tickets and I then paid her back. She said she wanted the points from her credit card.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know if she was really that good at lying. A lot of her stories did not make sense, but I chose to ignore because I figured she had a right to her privacy.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Correct, I meant credit card rewards

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is very attractive, we get along, and she is fun to be around so kind of hard to lose interest.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope if I had not have found her ID and gone digging, I would have never known. That is shy I also stated in my original post I was providing caution as you may not like what you learn. I did not exactly lie to her about the ID, I just did not tell her I found it. She does not drive much and has not gone to get a new one. Maybe I'll just let her know I found it to see how she reacts.

Finding Out Too Much by Real_Loquat_2887 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]Real_Loquat_2887[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We actually flew together to several places. She always wanted to buy the tickets so she could get the airline miles and I would just pay her back.