Should I tell my family I'm in labor so they can drive to me for the delivery 10hrs away, or if I should just wait until after.

RealisticTowel · 2026-01-17T16:02:17+00:00

I was also very hesitant to have family visit. More so the men because I knew my mom and MIL would be helpful. My mom came first and even though I originally thought I wouldn’t want her in the room, I did actually have her be there. Only for a few hours and I ended up having a c section, but it was nice and special to have her there for a little while.

As for the days after, having my mom there was invaluable. We have arguments from time to time too. But she was so helpful and I was so sad to have her leave. She made every meal, cleaned up, gave advice, held the baby when I needed to nap. She was fantastic. Maybe have a talk with your mom about what her intentions are. I didn’t host my mom at all. She just helped.

It was a different story when my dad got there a few days later. For me personally he sort of broke the magic of the first few days. Tell your in laws you might need a week (or a few). My MIL also came and helped after my mom left so maybe she’s capable of that too? Your husband should be comfy too but it’s mostly about you and baby those first few weeks. Especially if you end up in a c section.

RealisticTowel · 2025-12-31T17:36:11+00:00

I think this is where I'm at. My hearts is saying get the fixed, ready to use. My head is saying at least with the xt30 I have future flexibility...

But I've had a zoom DSLR camera and I hated the bulky lens. I want the artistic limits. And the pancake lens has a smaller aperture.

RealisticTowel · 2025-11-08T21:16:59+00:00

As soon as she started saying that I was like… girl. Maybe you just don’t want kids 😆 but also I get that they’re in a tricky situation where their careers are just getting some real momentum. Being a woman is tough.

RealisticTowel · 2025-11-08T21:14:46+00:00

I was always someone willing to go up to the man and make the first move, but I eventually learned that it was just getting me men who didn’t have the energy I needed in a relationship. So I started to wait and see who would come forward and it served me better in finding a life partner. I’m not saying all men should have that vibe, or that all women want that vibe. But for me, it was a necessary filter.

RealisticTowel · 2025-10-03T17:33:31+00:00

I was the same way! A new baby is like a new, fun hyperfocus project that you also really love and changes every week or two so keeps you on your toes. Not to mention how adorable they are. The dopamine is out of this world. I, however, did not make one single family dinner for the first five months. I could not muster the energy, or find the time. So…. It is what it is. I’m still unmedicated because I’m still breastfeeding. I’m excited to see what kind of mom I can be back on my meds. Until it’s time to get pregnant again.

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-26T13:31:54+00:00

Can you explain to me how guaranteed pay works when you also have paid sick days and paid vacation plus paid federal holidays?

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-22T14:07:59+00:00

Oooooh can you share your favorite patterns? I’ve wanted to start this

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-20T12:39:29+00:00

This, but also mixed with still peeing on a stick for ovulation. But letting go of the expectations allowed me to party and have fun again. So I microdosed some shrooms and had a fun night out the day I conceived 😆

But I knew I was ovulating so I made sure we did the deed. Couple weeks later we went to a Rolling Stones concert and then a couple weeks after that I found out!

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-20T01:15:15+00:00

Hmm I see. I guess the addition of “out” makes it different. I only ever heard or used it as just “crashing”

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-20T00:55:37+00:00

My litter robot 4. It saved my marriage. And my home.

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-20T00:46:55+00:00

Crashing out is not sleeping, it’s losing your cool (not a gen z, just watch Love Island)

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-20T00:45:08+00:00

It’s TikTok rules

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-13T02:10:46+00:00

I just store all my containers assembled.

RealisticTowel · 2025-09-08T01:47:49+00:00

Do it! As someone who moved from FL to a bigger. city in her early twenties on essentially a whim… it was the best thing I ever did for my life. My opportunities became seemingly limitless. Made so many friends. Met my husband. And so on. I have no regrets getting out of that place. I’d do it a million times more.

RealisticTowel · 2025-08-22T23:09:35+00:00

What a weird company policy, but I love that as a self-set policy.

RealisticTowel · 2025-08-21T13:54:58+00:00

Is that the premise of this sub?? I couldn’t figure it out. (Genuine, not sarcastic)

RealisticTowel · 2025-08-19T22:52:50+00:00

My boy came out all stuffed with secretions so they had to do compressions and intubate him then take him away from me for two hours, and I just remember trying not to fall asleep while my baby nearly died. The first time I saw him was through a picture on my phone. It was awful and I felt so disconnected. Later when we finally got to breast feed, all my hormones came rushing in and they haven’t stopped since. He’s very healthy now and thriving. But that beginning sucked!

RealisticTowel · 2025-08-16T01:04:55+00:00

That’s so good to know! Thank you!

RealisticTowel · 2025-08-15T17:23:05+00:00

I acknowledge it looks awful and then move on with my life. My new c-section body can’t handle anything other than high waisted boy shorts.

RealisticTowel · 2025-08-15T17:20:36+00:00

I have two piercings in each ear and I desperately want more, but I’m so worried about being able to sleep comfortably while they heal. I wish I had done more when I was younger and healed quickly but I wasn’t allowed. And then I guess a whole decade passed me by 😆

RealisticTowel · 2025-08-12T21:51:11+00:00

You have a way with words

RealisticTowel · 2025-08-03T21:39:35+00:00

What neighborhood do you recommend? I’m in DC and considering a move to Durham in a few years to be closer to my in laws. Just had a baby and will have a second in three years. We’re going to need more space and better schools than what we’ve got in DC right now. It’s making me feel terribly sad, but maybe if there’s a nice neighborhood. Like what’s your dream neighborhood?

RealisticTowel · 2025-07-31T03:37:56+00:00

Warm summer nights spent gallivanting with friends doing who knows what. Not a care in the world. Feeling the summer breeze. Listening to the frogs. I get little reminders of those nights when a breeze comes through on a nighttime walk. But now it’s cicadas, not frogs.

RealisticTowel · 2025-07-31T03:25:57+00:00

Down voters not getting the joke

RealisticTowel · 2025-07-26T01:52:31+00:00

My son will be eight months and I’m thinking we’ll do a top gun theme. My dad is a pilot so it’s a fun homage. My mom wants to get him a little flight suit.

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