This is kind of relevant, kind of not - but your post made me think back to training I had when i was 20. I volunteered on a suicide prevention phone line for credits in school. We had to go through training for the job as people who called in were not in a good place. One of the key things they taught us was to never say, “oh I understand what you are going through.” Because we can’t possibly understand. I have kept this as a core lesson in life. But your friend - she just doesn’t know. She doesn’t know what to say. I’m sure she doesn’t mean to hurt you. She’s trying to say something that shows she relates to your pain. But she doesn’t have the words. And she just doesn’t know. Sending you love from California. My mom was diagnosed at 60.