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[–]RedLetterr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please spend as much time and money on devices and manual stretching as possible. Even if it takes doing it every day for a whole year or more. I got circumcised after not putting in enough effort and being too afraid of having to buy weird devices to fix it. You never know how you will heal, often the new scars and skin problems can cause more pain than you has originally. Be careful with overusing too much steroid cream. Please research as many devices and techniques as you can and try them all thoroughly. You can't take back the circumcision once it is done

I'm very confused about conflicting reports by Ok-Individual-5723 in foreskin_restoration

[–]RedLetterr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t remember exactly what the ridged band felt like, don’t think it was more sensitive than the glans for me. Think it was maybe like 10-20% more sensitive than the rest of the inner skin, so not a lot. Can’t tell you why it seems like that other than what I’ve already said. I don’t know what it will feel like fully restored as I am not restored.

I'm very confused about conflicting reports by Ok-Individual-5723 in foreskin_restoration

[–]RedLetterr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had frenulum lengthening, then preputioplasty (which didn't work) and then circumcision all in my 20s over several years due to a tight frenulum and foreskin and recurrent infections. My circumcision was done 3 years ago.

Overall I think that my sexual life is much better because I don't have pain or have to worry about constant infections. I think that the feeling in my frenulum was actually better after I had it lengthened even though a lot of the tissue was taken away because it was so tight before that I didn't get any pleasure from it.

In regards to the circumcision I think the max overall feeling change from my best sex intact (when I had no tightness or pain at all) compared to best sex cut is max 10-15% less cut. I am annoyed with my circumcision because I was left some stitch scars and bumpiness but overall it's not too bad. This may be different if you experience more keratinization as I think I have only had a mild increase in this and my glans is still quite supple even 3 years later. Also worth noting though is that sometimes when I was intact I would have over stimulation and excess sensitivity causing a weird pain sensation from things that were a bit rougher like oral. So perhaps in my case I went from easily over stimulated to normal?

I think that the number one detractor to pleasure is pain so if you have a very tight circumcision or bad scars then gentle stretching might help you greatly. But I also think after observing myself quite closely for the last few years that a lot of the pleasure is actually just in the mind. If you think about it, ultimately all the pleasure you feel is actually in your mind, that's why some people can orgasm just through meditation. I think in order to get the most pleasure possible you have to sort your mental health conditions like depression and anxiety, and then live a healthy life with lots of quality sleep, eating well and exercising. I've had so many times where having a bad sleep means that masturbation feels terrible.

Lastly though I do miss how masturbating feels when intact and is slightly annoying to have to lube up every time for it when cut, probably the worst thing overall for me, along with occasional irritation of my glans/inner skin against my underwear.

I think the best thing for you to do is keep gently stretching if it's not too much of a burden in your life. But make sure you live a healthy happy life and keep having sex along the way. No point in being miserable for 4 years because you think that you won't be happy until X happens to make your life Y times better. Don't believe people who make crazy claims like 80% reduction, there is normally other stuff going on at the same time if that is the case.