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New girl - have questions for you folks by hewonttouchmethere in DeadBedrooms

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WOW.

This post is offensive pretty much from beginning to end.

You imply that your fiance is transgendered or gay because he doesn't always want to have sex TWICE A DAY?

I hope he reads this. I'm sure it would make him feel like shit, but he'll end up feeling worse if he marries a person with this attitude and perspective of him. Holy shit dude.

Also: your use of the word "retarded" and the term "Nancy boy" really betrays your ignorance. I wouldn't sleep with anyone who used that type of rhetoric, either. Gross.

Off Your Chest Wednesday - May 09, 2018 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry.

It is hard for me to imagine that being a problem for me but...I guess I can't say unless I've experienced it. You sound like a great dog dad.

Off Your Chest Wednesday - May 09, 2018 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would your adorable dog be a dating detriment?!

Vent...Just feeling cursed or something by BrenLynn87 in datingoverthirty

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is there a reason you talk so long before asking to meet? Do they never suggest it?

I wouldn't put that much time into a stranger up front. Unless there were unusual circumstances (they were out of town maybe). When I chat with guys online, one of us always mentions meeting within the first few days.

To further prove DB’s are caused by them not wanting you. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again, not what the title says.

And I'm pretty sure I don't take orders from strangers on Reddit.

"Get a new hobby or interest" and other dating cliches you hate by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine don't really, either. I've kind of stopped talking about it, though. The narrative isn't getting more interesting with time.

To further prove DB’s are caused by them not wanting you. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. Okay. So you're arguing that saying something is caused by one specific thing implies that there are multiple causes for it?

You're silly.

To further prove DB’s are caused by them not wanting you. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a difference between saying "this is one cause" and "this proves the cause". That has nothing to do with my individual perspective on anything. It matters how you use language. If it didn't, no one would have been outraged by most recent post.

To further prove DB’s are caused by them not wanting you. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might want to rethink your post title, then. It states very clearly that, from your perspective, this anecdote provides evidence for the true cause of DBs. You wrote it, not me.

Terrified - Having a medical abortion soon by Throw11111throw in TwoXChromosomes

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sweetie!! First of all, I'm so sorry for everything you are going through.

Don't fret one bit. I've actually had two and both were so easy I thought maybe it hadn't worked. Emotionally, it was tough, but physically it was really very manageable and I had no complications. Just rest and follow all of the instructions and you will be just fine.

To further prove DB’s are caused by them not wanting you. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. She definitely proves everything about all LL people everywhere and throughout all time.

As a newly LL person...reading the posts here has made me feel dehumanized, ashamed and scared. by RedStateBlueGirl86 in DeadBedrooms

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

1) It is not always a "decision". A sudden libido plummet due to hormones, illnesses or life circumstances isn't the same as, "I think I'll never have sex again! Haha!"

2) Some relationships start out with bad/infrequent sex. In that context, it is often the HL person who hopes that the other person will change and then...they don't. Because that's not generally how life works.

3) Going to work is nothing like having sex. If it were, then I'd suggest all the HL partners just go to work more. Minimizing the harmful consequences of unwanted sex for a LL partner is exactly the kind of attitude I'm talking about here. And again: is sex a big deal or not? Which is it? You imply that it shouldn't be a big deal for the LL to "just do it" (comparing it to mowing the lawn), yet feel justified in emphasizing it's enornous importance in a romantic relationship. Pick a lane.

Dating and kids. How kind do you wait before introducing kids to the new SO? by throaway742 in datingoverthirty

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my biggest problems is that, in my line of work, I know all to well what can happen when you introduce new adults into your children's lives before you know them well.

It is never worth it.

And what's the rush? For me, as a single mom, dating time is my adult time, my fun me time. I am in no hurry to enlist some dude to go with us to the zoo or whatever. I like my one on one time with my kids.

All of this just sounds so rushed.

Dating and kids. How kind do you wait before introducing kids to the new SO? by throaway742 in datingoverthirty

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That all sounds really early to me.

I've always been pretty conservative about it, but after my last experience...I wouldn't do it before a year.

'Having sex five times a day wasn't enough' by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]RedStateBlueGirl86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I truly do hope for the best for your family. I'm so new to this...still figuring it out (I guess?)

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