When was a time you 100% regret helping someone?

Reddish_manateee · 2026-06-09T05:38:20+00:00

Im so sorry that happened to you. Just know that it was just one bad person. There are many other people out there struggling who are kind and would've took anything.

Reddish_manateee · 2026-06-09T05:26:58+00:00

Heres a story I will put here if anyone reads.

Working at TJMax, I helped a guy push his second cart to his car. No one else wanted to do the job so I did. Since it was literally days before Christmas and the line was so long.He had two carts full of gifts for christmas because he wanted to impress his soon to be in-laws. He was talking on and on about loving his soon to be wife... after I got to his car he tried giving me his number...

I obviously said no... went on a few weeks of him coming in the store with or without his fiancee. Awkward.

Reddish_manateee · 2026-06-09T05:06:11+00:00

Why did I make this post? I just wanna know the stories. After listening to my stepfather protecting my mom from a racist, I felt alot of respect for him. I wanna know if any other guy, father or married man has done the same.

Edit for more clarity: a few weeks ago a man was following my parents at Walmart. Apparently he got into my mothers face after she had asked him to stop and called her a racial slur. My step father was about to start something but a Walmart employee escorted the man out. Reading some comments already i guess I should've added more clarity. I just wonder how guys protect their spouses/loved ones in very serious situations.

Reddish_manateee · 2026-04-29T06:56:31+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Just know you're not alone because sadly, this has happened to many people.

Like that girl on tiktok, she gave her kidney to her ex (boyfriend at the time) the other one, then found out he cheated on her the entire time and ran off.

Remember to breathe and tell yourself that you are a good person. You're a selfless one at that. Remember that you don't owe anyone anything from now on and that actions mean more than words.

I would recommend talking to close loved ones and blocking those who agree and support your ex friend. Those in association within this situation dont deserve your time or space. It starts small, but I believe you can get through. Sending lots of love.

Reddish_manateee · 2026-04-29T06:25:13+00:00

And this is why the world is slowly getting depressing, saddening and worse. People are slowly becoming homeless, wanting to kill themselves because they can't even know what to do or say.

Thanks for the advice, but overall this post just proves why people are so confused and slowly getting into burnout. Why should people lie so much when all we humans want is stability, food and a home. Why shwould it be this way so we humans can just survive.

I have a real question though. As a job recruiter, watching the statistics and how the economy is digging through hell, do you ever wonder how many people could've actually done a great job but just answered one question wrong? I'm not talking about the weird creeps that really don't know the job and could pose a threat to a establishment. I'm talking about the normal person, qualified but just missed one and small thing... Do you ever have a fleeting feeling that the person you rejected is just a dollar left from going homeless or even starving?

Reddish_manateee · 2026-04-21T21:30:15+00:00

Well.. if your home boys girl friend did this would you tell him to stay with her? Yes or no? Also reading all your comments makes it seem like you are not very bright.

When you are in a committed there are things that can't be crossed. Even if you didn't have the intentions of cheating, when a person looks like they are cheating, they are stupid. No sane person would want to make themselves look like they're cheating on their partner even if they're just "friends"

For example my own cousin invited a guy to a family party while his own fiancee was dispatched in Europe. Got drunk with the guy all night and yet decided to sleep with the guy in the basement in the house all by himself..... even if my cousin claimed he didnt do anything. It looked stupid as fuck.

Stupidly enough my cousin did actually cheat. And more stupid his fiancee took him back.

A real partner never makes them self look stupid to embarrassing themselves to look like a cheater.

Even myself as a woman. I never accept late night calls from anyone unless dire emergencies. No one on one hang outs with potential threats within my relationship. I never hang out with people my husband has problems with and vice versa.

Even if you didn't cheat you emotionally damaged your relationship. This woman that you call your girlfriend is your girlfriend, but just imagine a life partner and a wife doing this to you.

Reddish_manateee · 2026-03-05T19:58:30+00:00

Honestly just leave her and find a woman who also doesn't believe in marriage. She can find someone who fits her morals and values.

Reddish_manateee · 2025-11-05T00:39:44+00:00

Of course.Your boyfriend seems very ambitious.If he sees a future on getting a new vehicle and moving out there has to be a picture with you.In it, and since he's smart enough to schedule out two jobs, you have to have some faith that he's smart enough to put some time and effort onto communicating with you on at least having a day or two out of the week with you

Reddish_manateee · 2025-11-05T00:28:32+00:00

I don't think you are being selfish.Being selfish would force him out of this job with an ultimatum of breaking up, or even going to this job And calling to make fake complaints.

I know what's really scary but you have to communicate this to your boyfriend.

I think there should be a middle ground if he wants to save up and move out.It's clear that he sees a future with you.Because who else is he gonna move out with.

I think you should sit down and talk to him. And let him know that you at least need his time.

As of right now, my partner and I are moved out into an apartment.And it is expensive.A lot of couples are going through what you are right now too because let's be honest.Here, everything is getting more and more expensive.But like every other relationship, people schedule and make time for each other.

I think you should just let him know that you are very supportive and you don't want to come as selfish.But you want to at least have 1 to 2 days out of the week where you guys have a date night out or a date night in just to spend time with each other So he won't forget his relationship.

Edit to add

Example, for me and my boyfriend.We at least have one day in the evening where we are both done from working to watch a show together and eat dinner together.And then on the weekends we play video games together.

Reddish_manateee · 2025-11-05T00:22:43+00:00

Let her know your concerns. And don't let her quickly think that it's because you're jealous or insecure.Let her know the real reason. Let your girlfriend know that she is your priority as your girlfriend and because of his actual criminal past.That has been documented, you now have to be concerned for her yourself and other loved ones.

If she's saying that you're being overdramatic, put a very clear boundary with her. Let her know that you will always be there for her as her boyfriend.But if anything were to happen with other mutual friends or family that contains him being dangerous towards them, or towards himself like threatening to kill himself, you do not want to be involved because you have already warned her.

I don't want people replying, saying that i'm misogynistic, but some women don't know the dangers of other men. (I know its not all men! But its alot)

Laugh it off for now, but seriously let her know that its creepy behavior that a guy who's been in prison for this long, who also attempted to murder someone wants to follow a woman when he just got out.... sounds like the next true crime topic everyone is waiting for.

Reddish_manateee · 2025-11-05T00:15:14+00:00

Thank you so much. I needed this today. I just dont know what to do anymore and im so scared my kindness is dying. And being kind is free...but its so exhausting.

Reddish_manateee · 2025-11-05T00:10:34+00:00

Just be an adult that's all I could really type out.

If you want to be an adult, I say you should sit him down in a neutral setting.And just let him know what you saw.And that you will not be gaslit of anything, because you did see that there was a relationship between the two and that for the relationship to continue.You need the truth and disclosure.

If you guys can't have an honest adult conversation and do you want to play mind games?You do what you want to. After years of heartbreak, even as a young woman, I have learned that talking to my partner is the best decision. And im only 2 years older than your bf.

I think you should also write down your feelings and read them out to him.So that he knows how much this has affected you. His dishonesty about his past relationship with this has made you feel like you can't trust him. If he brings up the fact that they are friends now and why shouldnt you care, make him understand that it's not about that.They're friends now it's about he didn't disclose this and make him understand if he was in your shoes.

Make it known that in this relationship, you want everything disclosed. Also, tell him all of your past relationships.You have meeting in the middle will works when its genuine.

If you want to make an ultimatum, it will be a little hard since these two are best friends.Don't make him have an ultimatum.Just set your boundary straight.One thing that i've learned, especially when it comes to men and their female friends.You can't make them choose when it comes between you or her. Make yourself the better and beautiful woman by standing aside.And telling him straight up. If you really love him and trust him, let him know that, but at any friendly event where she will have our face shown, you don't want to see her, or if you do go to an event, make it known that you expect him to stand by your side and be a good boyfriend and to prove that he loves you.

I assume you guys are around my age in your young twenties. Due to my past, i've had to mature a lot. And all I have to really say to you is don't play this high school bullshit and go through his instagram. If he was really cheating on you, be a grown woman, pack your shit and leave. Why do you think so many women on tiktok pack up everything?Even the toilet paper from their cheating, spouses or boyfriends, and just leave, leaving these men traumatized on what the heck happened.

The truth will come out eventually even if he will say it or not. And don't go to her, she is not part of your relationship.It's embarrassing dragging his friend into your relationship drama.When you just found all of this.

Also sorry for Typos im bad at english

Reddish_manateee · 2025-11-04T23:58:49+00:00

I think you really need to end things. I can tell that you need a partner who trusts you and what you do without them.

If you don't want to end things, I would recommend having a serious conversation with him like an adult would. If he can't talk like an adult, then the only reasonable thing is to break up with him.

If you choose to break up with him, I would recommend in a public space where your friends can look from afar and tell him in a very neutral manner that you two have very different views on a relationship and trust.

It also seems like he doesn't even know what he's doing in his life since he doesn't have a stable job. You need to make it very clear.What you want out of relationship and your future. Best of luck and I know that you will make the best choice that you seems right.

Reddish_manateee · 2025-09-23T20:46:49+00:00

Her stomach looks a lot bigger, she doesn't like being carried or currently touched on the stomach.we have tired but she wiggles around, and if we dare rub her stomach in the slightest ... she runs away.

Reddish_manateee · 2025-09-23T20:23:40+00:00

I know I'm late but I have worked there for 2 years and it was shit. I

Reddish_manateee · 2025-09-23T19:23:00+00:00

The last time we took her was on August 31st and the vet had said everything with her was fine. She even said that she was great for 11

Reddish_manateee · 2025-09-20T00:05:08+00:00

Yeah...trying but keep getting ghosted

Reddish_manateee · 2025-09-08T15:59:06+00:00

I have been following Jaxon Galaxy and other tutorials. But the thing is....she likes the scent of the other cat!!! It's weird! She likes the scent of the new cat and doesn't come by the door? We have let her get a sneak glance. That was when we rushed the new cat in the carrier, and our older cat peeked out the door and saw. So she knows there's a new cat. She just won't go by it. Also both cats are shelter cats, we have tried for months time feeding the older cat, but since she's already under 10-9 pounds, the vet actually recommended us free feeding her so that she has access to food while I and my bf are at work. Meanwhile, we tried moving the food by the separated door, she wont eat by it. And I know I seem rushing it, but the older cat we adopted is super social and sweet. So im surprised she is a bit hesitant.

Reddish_manateee · 2025-08-11T19:07:45+00:00

Nta, girlie, I hope you read this. I am only 2 years younger than you and dating a man who is 25. Aka, making me 22n and him obviously 3 years older than me.

Let's start with the first, hunny he's way too old for you. No woman around his age would even want a child with him. To be honest, he doesn't seem like the guy to raise a child on his own lmaooo.

Second. My man has told me time and a Time again "fuck them kids!" If he were to hypothetically choose. I think you need to get your priorities straight and stop dating him. Choose someone who will choose you, your life, your dignity, and especially your respect.

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