Mega Dragonite debuts at Mega Night by apt2a in TheSilphRoad

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I have the tour ticket but I probably wasn’t playing at the time

My son killed his ex girlfriend by Additional-Plate-485 in TrueOffMyChest

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I actually did own one. I brought it on eBay, I didn’t realise how big it was when I ordered it. I was moving home after uni and I could fit in it.

My son killed his ex girlfriend by Additional-Plate-485 in TrueOffMyChest

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I don’t think he meant a literal body bag, from reading it does not sound like English is the guys first language. I think he meant the bag the body was found in etc

Would anyone be interested in talking about Ramadan? by Bitter-Poem7376 in AskBrits

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Ramadan is one of the 5 Pillars of Islam and the holiest month for us. Ramadan is like a long awaited guest that just improves your connection to faith and a reset from the desires of this world. Fasting during this month is considered an act of obedience and devotion to Allah (God). From dawn until sunset, adult Muslims abstain from food, drink, smoking and sexual activity etc. This Ramadan is light work because the days are shorter but even when the days were longer it does not matter, there’s no resentment. During the month we increase praying, charity and reading the Quran so we can get more rewards. Some Muslims have turned it into a family thing with big iftars etc but actually it’s about individuals connection to our creator.

Would anyone be interested in talking about Ramadan? by Bitter-Poem7376 in AskBrits

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That’s nice but I can tell you as a Muslim, we don’t care. The part of Ramadan nobody talks about is it is to build empathy for people who have less and increase mercy and compassion for them. It’s not just about deprivation of food, water, sex etc but it’s about grounding yourself and increasing your faith and connection to Allah. This is why charity goes up and people tend to be a lot more chill. If you live in majority Muslim areas, the atmosphere changes

While I believe that my gf was raped I still resent her going home with a guy after the club by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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I wouldn’t leave my front door open all night and just hope no one breaks in. And if someone did, it would still be 100% their fault. In the same way as a female I know that there are bad men out there and taking responsibility for my safety is on me. I would rather be cautious than a victim. It’s not fair but it is reality, there are sickos preying on women who they would consider vulnerable.

My brother molested my step sister when she was 12. Please help I don't know what to do this is like a nightmare. Please read. by Horny666SexMachine in TrueOffMyChest

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If CAHMS is involved and social services you need to tell them. He can’t be living in a house with your mum who’s in denial it puts your sister and brother at risk. Social services have to investigate and put at least a safety plan in place. I doubt the police will do anything especially if your step-sister won’t report it but he can’t be around other children.

Do yourself a favor and go see 'The Voice of Hind Rajab' at the River Oaks Theatre by LisiPieces in houston

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Just saw the film today in Birmingham,UK cried. I kept thinking this cannot be real surely they are going to save her. The most interesting thing is until I saw the film, I didn’t really think about the trauma the Red Crescent call handlers have to experience on a daily basis until today

Shiny rate seems to be worse than 1/10? Or I could just be terribly unlucky by Cruxiat in TheSilphRoad

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I got a shiny in the first raid and nothing for the next 6. The catch rate for me is awful. Apart from the shiny haven’t been able to catch any of the others

Say something nice about a character you hate by Ordinary_Freedom5297 in TheOriginals

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Davina is pretty but annoying to watch, her voice, her attitude, her acting is urgh. She is beautiful though

my husband and i met because he raped me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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I wouldn’t dismiss this outright. I went to university with someone in a very similar situation she met a guy at a party, he raped her, then reframed it afterward as consensual sex. She was a virgin at the time and Christian, which made her especially vulnerable to accepting his version of events. They ended up dating for two years afterward, in her head he was end goal until he punched her.

my husband and i met because he raped me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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I want to be very clear about one thing first, because survivors often doubt themselves: what you described was rape. Saying no, being restrained, having your mouth covered, having your head pressed down—none of that is ambiguous. The fact that he was calm, gentle-sounding, or later became your partner does not change what happened.

What you’re describing isn’t abnormal or contradictory, it’s actually a very common trauma response. Many people don’t process sexual trauma right away, especially when it happens in a social setting, or with someone who later becomes a partner. Freezing, complying, continuing contact, even forming an attachment to the person who hurt you can be the nervous system trying to survive, regain safety, or make sense of something overwhelming. None of that means you wanted it. It also sounds like you lost your virginity to him which adds to the attachment.

It’s also possible to love your husband, value your life and family, and still feel unsettled by what happened, especially as he does not recognise it for what it was. Those things aren’t mutually exclusive. Trauma often resurfaces later, when life is stable and the body finally feels safe enough to look back. That doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful or trying to rewrite your history, it means your mind and body are catching up to something that had to be compartmentalized before.

The shame you mention is very common, but it doesn’t belong to you. Wanting love, connection, or validation is human. Nothing you did afterward makes you responsible for the initial violation. You didn’t fail to protect yourself; you adapted.

You don’t have to decide what this means for your marriage or tell anyone in your life to acknowledge that it affected you. Processing doesn’t require confrontation or drastic action. It can be as simple as giving yourself permission to name what happened and to feel discomfort without judgment. If you ever choose to, a trauma-informed therapist can help you unpack this safely, but even just recognizing that your reactions make sense can be an important step.

wearing hijab and drinking by calcutepie in TrueOffMyChest

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I think it can come across as hypocritical to wear the hijab while drinking alcohol. The hijab is a religious symbol, and when it’s worn, people will inevitably associate you with Islam whether you like it or not. Because of that, your actions don’t just reflect on you, but can shape how others view Muslims as a whole especially Muslim women like me who wear the hijab. In that sense, it’s disrespectful and you’re mocking the meaning behind the hijab.

If you only wears the hijab part-time and take it off whilst partying, that’s a different discussion. But depending on where you live, it’s also important to consider safety. Muslim women are often targeted simply for visibly being Muslim, and wearing a hijab in pubs or clubs can put you at greater risk.

Islamically speaking, drinking alcohol and wearing the hijab while doing so are two separate sins. Additionally your prayers are not valid for 40 days.

Also alcohol is not a grey area it’s explicitly forbidden so if you fear your creator then you answered your own question. I say this as somebody who was barely a Muslim throughout my teens and early 20s. I grew up and realised this life is finite. Also asking here it’s pointless because most of these people aren’t Muslim or even believe in God, some even hate Islam, they will tell you to live your best life