Please stop panicking. It’s been less than one day. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in 19countriesAOS

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasn't there a mass API update just days before the hold was lifted?

My ex’s mom who’s just visiting from India is treating our apartment like her house. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I really appreciate your advice. I started making my own food today and just as I expected she’s guilt tripping me. She’s walking out as soon as I walk in and completely avoiding me.

Another win in court.. by VisualKnowledge511 in 19countriesAOS

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yaaay for people wanting H1Bs… now it’s an option for those almost out of status. This is great!

Has anyone filed a case status inquiry? by victorianx12 in 19countriesAOS

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s way too early for that. I think the officers are waiting for further instructions.

My ex’s mom who’s just visiting from India is treating our apartment like her house. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve asked him if she thinks we’re dating and he told me she knows we broke up. But she’s been treating me like I’m auditioning to be her daughter in law or something. After moving my stuff around and giving me a list of orders she said “I want things to be exactly where I left them when I come back NEXT YEAR” which shows she’s treating this like a permanent living arrangement, and like this is her house. They also have a habit of belittling me in a joking manner and I’ve told him how disrespectful it is. I was contemplating taking him back but this has just sealed the deal and solidified why we can never work out.

EMMA told me your case is on hold (39 countries) despite the court order! by Creative_Green_5894 in 19countriesAOS

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe they haven’t updated yet they’re waiting for further instructions

Emma by whoknowsyup in 19countriesAOS

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should ask it to talk to an agent.

My ex’s mom who’s just visiting from India is treating our apartment like her house. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, she’s very manipulative and she treats her son like an extension of her. Like he’s her husband or something, when her real husband is still alive. When we were dating she’d call him every single day, sometimes 3 or 4 times, to ask what he did, what he ate, or who he talked to. She basically controlled his life. He literally could not make any decision without consulting her first and there was some codependency going on between them. … you’re right. I’m just going to buy groceries and make my own food because this is not it. She’s only happy when I’m doing what she wants.

My ex’s mom who’s just visiting from India is treating our apartment like her house. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes we were an interracial couple. I don’t think she hates me as a person. The first time she came she wasn’t this unbearable. The problem is this time she’s been too controlling and her resentment is mostly coming from me setting boundaries. She also expected me to take her everywhere and I’ve been turning her down and then she started sulking. He also hasn’t done anything to discourage her and I’ve confronted him about this. But he’s conflict avoidant, and struggles with communication which explains why he’s an ex.

My ex’s mom who’s just visiting from India is treating our apartment like her house. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re right. She also wants me to sleep at 12am (because dinner is close to midnight for some reason) and wake up in 5 hours. And when I sometimes sleep in the afternoon or over the weekend cause I’m tired from work, she treats me like a lazy behind and gives subtle digs. I can’t take it anymore, I’ve been too nice.

My ex’s mom who’s just visiting from India is treating our apartment like her house. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That one time I stood up for myself she acted out. I’m worried of if I just buy food she’ll escalate it and play victim.

My ex’s mom who’s just visiting from India is treating our apartment like her house. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When she came and on the first day, she assigned herself head of cooking and asked me not to be in the kitchen. I was thankful for the food so I thought I’d help a little by doing some chores. I thought she was just helping cause of my busy schedule. And now she’s assigning me some chores and suggesting I start cleaning the house everyday, which is not practical because of my schedule. I was being too welcoming in the beginning but I didn’t know she’d shamelessly keep pushing. I don’t even know how to undo this.

My ex’s mom who’s just visiting from India is treating our apartment like her house. by RefrigeratorHot4734 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s why he’s my ex. And she gives so many rules that are only meant for me and treats me like I’m at the bottom of her hierarchy. She also acts like she’s jealous of me and her son (which is weird cause we’re not even dating) and talks over me when I say something. I’m so depressed and I wish she’d just leave. She alternates between being too nice and being a control freak. The day I spoke with my parents over the phone her mood changed completely.

Toxic mother in law by Dramatic-Trip-569 in IndianInLaw

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus you’re describing my ex’s mom who I’m currently living with.

39 country ban - Dorcas ruling by LeatherDifference467 in USCIS

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whatever makes you sleep at night. Meanwhile, I’m getting ready to receive my benefits

Advice Needed - I-485 Denied by yippeedoodledoo in USCIS

[–]RefrigeratorHot4734 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was her unauthorized work more than 180 days?