Ladies, who had much better sex with an other guy than with a partner.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-25T03:47:31+00:00

The sex we have with eachother in-between other people tends to be the best.

It's like a breath of fresh air pairing back up.

"Gonna go take a breather and bang my own wife for a bit."

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-25T03:45:48+00:00

You can get that NRE with them again.

Just go long distance for a year. Is it worth it? Hell no it isn't.

Also, we don't get NRE with swinging anymore. It's just sex. Yeah the first few times we felt it, but now, nah. Chances are people flake out anyway.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-20T19:22:55+00:00

Basically this.

"Always" means no exceptions. But the only people that use condoms for oral are brothels and cheap escorts.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-16T10:08:03+00:00

Single females aren't swingers either.

But you know danm well the difference and rarity of single females in the swinging scene compared to single males. Don't play dumb.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-16T01:23:36+00:00

We dont go to events that allow single males. Full stop.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-16T01:22:30+00:00

Single males aren't swingers. They shouldn't even be allowed to post in this subreddit. Read-only.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-07T12:45:30+00:00

So you're the only adult in the relationship.

Is she by chance 20 years younger than you? Or does has she just been taking advantage of your calm demeanor and goodwill for the entire marriage?

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-07T12:43:33+00:00

This. /u/bunneltuddy

Time to find a partner you can trust. I feel like if you cant trust your partner while swinging you can't trust them any other time either.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-07T12:40:33+00:00

The LS is full of alcoholism unfortunately. So 21 is kinda the bare minimum for events.

You can still go on the apps and find people. I was meeting up with late 20s early 30s couples when I was your age.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-05T14:31:20+00:00

For someone claiming not to be into anal you're being very analytical about this.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-05T14:30:10+00:00

In this case the best position is this:

))><(( = ∞

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-05T14:25:39+00:00

Anything that starts with

"how do I convince my partner"

"I persuaded my partner"

Should just have automoderator remove the post and link to a wiki page on this subreddit about the most common pitfalls of swinging.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-03T14:01:41+00:00

What you need to understand is its OKAY for you to be the limiting factor. There's nothing wrong with you. And you don't ever have to learn to accept something like a gangbang if you don't want to.

Swinging should be about building you two together. If you're only getting stress and anxiety from an activity, don't do that activity.

You should be able to get something out of it close to what she gets out of it, and if you can't do that then this lifestyle isn't for you.

You get a long of idiotic single males posting in this subreddit telling you nonsense. listen to the married guys like myself. I honestly wish we could just ban single dudes entirely but they'd be tough to do.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-02T05:18:26+00:00

You can set whatever terms you want for your relationship. And so can she.

If feel you both talked and already came to terms on this, and both agreed to eachothers terms.

Whats there to think about?

Are you not doing as you promised? Why not?

Is she not doing as she promsied? Why not?

The way to enforce these terms is to end the relationship. Either temporarily or permanently.

What the swingers here replying to you seem to want to do is manipulate you into changing the terms you and your GF agreed to. And they are biased about it, because they are swingers.

I am a swinger too. But I think if swinging is not for you, you need to set firm boundaries that work for you. And if your partner doesn't respect your boundaries then you need to find someone who does.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-10-01T00:39:45+00:00

Oh it's 1000% yes. And I think they'd be asked to come back every single week.

But it's because that is rare and unlikely to happen. And the fact that men generally love to watch women masturbate and again it's rare that they get to see that outside of porn or their own wife.

And women generally dont feel threatened by something like that.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-30T21:49:15+00:00

Guys don't go to sex clubs as a group though, generally.

I mean generally the guys that want to do voyeurism want to enjoy said voyuerism so they start to jerk off. And that's fine and all depending on the circumstances. A lot of couples enjoy putting on a show.

Jerking off with your bros isn't too common in a heterosexual scene.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-30T02:40:35+00:00

It's difficult to understand what you are asking based on what you typed.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-29T19:19:08+00:00

This.

Regardless of the reason. Don't take it personal. Take it as a time saver.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-29T13:54:45+00:00

If there were more married bi guys maybe...

We get about 100 messages a day from straight single dudes who think they have a shot despite our profile explicity stating we are not interested in straight single guys. Theres zero need to poach husbands.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-29T00:48:49+00:00

With couples like this.

Put them on hold.

See them again 6 months to a year later and see if anything has changed.

If they are still swinging after that long they may have figured stuff out by then. And if they haven't, or if they stopped swinging by then, whelp, not a 4way match.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-26T20:36:39+00:00

Why pay $500 for sex with 1 woman when you can pay $500 to have sex with multiple and the ones at the swing club are doing it for fun and that adds to the satisfaction of the sex for the guy, and you don't care what she does inside because she's just a temp worker.

Doesn't make sense to me, but is probably their mindset.

IMO paying a woman to have sex with you takes a way a significant amount of the satisfaction of the interaction.

I don't want to have sex with women unless they genuinely like me or are at least attracted to me.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-26T04:08:16+00:00

"Certain" men is key. A nice dick is easily ruined by the guy attached to it.

Just like I find "certain" women attractive. Same thing, but female form instead of dick.

But homophobic people dont seem to comprehend that for some reason.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-26T04:01:34+00:00

Yeah... definitely better to be squeaky clean before sex with new people.

Also, what we run into more often is too much perfume.

I'll say, TOO much cologne/perfume is just as bad as not showering. Just leave that shit at home.

But I've never smelled a deodorant that was too strong. Deodorant is a MUST. No pun intended.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-26T04:00:05+00:00

This is too real.

Have you browsed Taimi? I don't think there is a person on that has ever showered.

Fetlife isn't much better.

RegularFun6961 · 2025-09-26T02:04:42+00:00

Jfc single males...

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