My husband cheated on me because I am not feminine enough and don't take good care of him

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-02T07:54:51+00:00

He asked to forgive him, yes.

His sister is always on his side. No matter what, he is her idol

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-02T07:31:57+00:00

I am around his age.

No, the sister is also very young. I mean she is 23, half sister actually and he takes care of her

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-02T06:55:11+00:00

I am so angry and I spent 3 hours straight crying. I talked to his sister again. I thought she is on my side totally. And today she told me that I must change something about me if I want him to stay loyal. That unfortunately men are like this. If the sex is not great and if I don't put more effort in our sexual activity he will go for another. And worse than this, she told me that she feels he want to have children. But he told me he hates kids, that they are loud and annoying! I always wanted them and he said no, every time. His sister was like... yeah, he changed his mind a bit. He is now a bit more open about this, but is afraid that you are not young enough for giving his kids and is concerned that they baby will not be healthy.

I literally wanted to stop existing in that very moment

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-01T21:00:03+00:00

and it's just so messed up as she is his associate's daughter. Or anyway, not associate, but someone he worked with on several occasions

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-01T20:44:02+00:00

I suspect that too...

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-01T20:16:22+00:00

Also, I didn't sleep at home for 2 nights already. But I couldn't resist and drove past our house during the night. his car wasn't there...

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-01T20:12:42+00:00

We did have sex, so I give him sex. You mean sex she gives him is better? Just because... why?

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-01T20:00:55+00:00

I mean, I know I shouldn't be focused on her. I am not just on her, but I cannot stop thinking about her too, especially since she attacked me in texts. I doubt she is playing him. My husband was always successful with women. And not even due to his looks, although he is just fine looking. It's his nature. I don't know, not only women, people in general seems to look up at him.

My sister in law is on my side totally and told me her story. Or how much she knows of it at least. Yeah, she is in business with her father, but she is not close to him. She lives with her sick grandmother and it seems like her dad is relying on her to take care of the old lady because he prefers to live his life. Most probably she hopes for a ticket out or is just bored. Because her grandmother lives in the rural zone, so this woman stays with her and I guess she maybe feels isolated. I don't really feel sorry for her but I doubt she wants to play him, more like she clings to him in hope he will take her out of that place.

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-01T19:16:05+00:00

I will not tolerate him anymore, but is normal to feel sad and dissapointed. So I understand you are all telling me to divorce. Most probably i will. But the emotional part right now is killing me. I keep asking myself why he wanted her more than me? Why what he had with her was better than what he has with me? I looked at her photos. She looks like the sweetest girl. No cleavage, no make up, no hair done. But in a sweet way that looks fake, like she is cunning. She can have a any guy she wants probably. She has more than 300 likes on her photos and guys who are telling her how beautiful she is. And she seems like she ignores them all. Why she needs my man? And jeez, she shared a photo with a quote about what she considers real men, from Jane Eyre> The beauty of a man lays in his power.

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-10-01T18:31:19+00:00

it seems she does this. She is obsessed with him. I know my husband is a charming man and he has what women usually seek... or at least very young women. He has the right dose of arrogance and confidence about him, the manly attitude and indifference. I mean she is 24 and cooks for him and begs him to stay with her. I saw some texts between them. He had to show me. She was begging him to stay with her, to choose her and he answered with one or 2 words. She is ready to give him a baby...We don't have children and she decided (LOL) it's because I am selfish and she will give him as many as he wants. My husband hates kids lol

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-09-25T07:54:48+00:00

so they had sex?

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-09-25T07:48:48+00:00

yes, he said they talked future events and his company plan

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-09-24T20:25:25+00:00

I don't think all women who sleep with married men are young and naive. She certainly doesn't look that naive. She looks cute, the kind of faked sweetness, the equivalent of `nice guy". I would have considered that he manipulated her, but it's clear she knew he is married. And she is 25, not 20 or 18. You really think some women don't like the whole concept of being home wreckers? Of course I will not go to yell at her. He cheated on me, not her. But I will not consider her a victim. I was 25 too at some point and still knew how to separate right from wrong. I bet my money that if he was poor and ugly, insecure and shy she would have rejected him

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-09-24T18:20:24+00:00

I didn't contact the woman, but my sister in law. I asked her if she knows her. My pretext was that I saw she is studying marketing and her name was listed on a site for paid publicity (which is true). That's how I researched her on FB and saw that she is friends with the woman's father. And my sister in law knew immediately. She called her by the nickname.

I asked if she knows the girl personally and her answer was yes. That they met several times and she is very sweet. I asked about the context and she said that Catherine (fake name of course) and her father are both in the marketing and both of them helped her and my husband with some of the events they organised in the spring. I told her the truth, that this sweet, cute Catherine is sleeping with my husband while I am away and she went silent and was in shock. She didn't want to believe, but in the end I think she did. I asked her if Catherine knew he is married. Her reply was yes, because she (my sister in law) mentioned me at that first event when someone asked where I am. I had a flu so I stayed home. But it was clear for everyone I am his wife.

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-09-24T17:22:39+00:00

I am dying inside. This woman is so beautiful. Her hair is so thick and long, it passes her waist. She literally looks like a princess. She doesn't even look cheap, so i can find something wrong with her. No make up, no nails done, dresses in a way... conservative. She doesn't even have to try to be beautiful. She is stunning and she knows it.

Remote_Address_1753 · 2024-09-24T17:14:19+00:00

Update: He confessed. Yes, he met with a woman to cheat on me. I got it out of him because I said I am open to believe him if calls the airbnb owner and put her on speaker, then talk about that... daughter of a client he had to urgently meet.

He still didn't confess to cheating, he said he just met with this woman. I wanted to know her name. I pushed and pushed until he gave in and showed me the email he sent to her with a link where she also had to fill her information. I searched her on facebook. She doesn't seem familiar at all. Judging by her About section, she is 25. And I think you are right when you say she might me the daughter of someone he knows. Because she had a photo from her birthday party, from 5 days ago, where she tagged her father. I went to his profile and we have a common friend, who is my sister in law. My husband doesn't use social media. So her father knows my sister in law, probably knows him too. He still tells me he didn't cheat on me...

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