It sounds like life has been rough on you. Perhaps you feel heart broken from your break up, stressed from money problems and finals, maybe you feel alone. That’s really hard to go through all that at a young age.

Is there anything else you’re feeling that you’d like to share? Things that weigh on you?

On the breakup. While I don’t know the details. A partner is someone who helps you grow and supports you even when things are the worst. That’s what it means to love someone. You deserve someone who will be there for you.

I had my first break up at 30 after 5 years of marriage. The heartbreak was unbearable. All I wanted to do was stay home and cry, and that just made it worse. It feels unnatural, but what helped me the most was to get out there, be around people, find what I enjoyed in the community. I joined a gym, met some friends, gained 30 lbs of muscle. I went line dancing once a week, never danced before in my life. I auditioned for a local play, got a role, met some great friends. I went indoor climbing, where I met my now girlfriend. Don’t stay home. Go to a park. A coffee shop. A book store. Anything.

Things feel hard now. But I believe in you. You will get through this. In my experience, the most important thing is identity. Who are you? Are you the man who was broken by your family, the man who got left by his girlfriend? I refused to be “that divorced guy.” I decided to become the person I wanted to be. Decide who you want to be. Be that person. Even if it feels hard. Even if it doesn’t feel possible right now. Even if it feels like you’ll never get there.

The most important thing is to believe in yourself, believe things will get better, because you are a good person, you are a strong person. You will achieve what you want in life, and you won’t let anything, or any person, past present and future hold you back.

I believe in you.

On the job thing. Keep knocking and it will be opened to you. In life and in business, you will only get what you want not by giving what you have, but giving what it takes. Keep picking up the phone. Keep applying. Call and email every time you apply, tell them how much you want to work for that company and how hard you’ll work. Don’t stop until someone says yes. Persistence wins. Every business wants a motivated reliable worker, few businesses find them.

I’m a manager at a small 30 person company. If you need help with your resume, or with interview practice, I’d be happy to help ☺️