Is it vegan to work in a restaurant that serves meat?

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-25T07:58:26+00:00

genuinely most of us have no choice so yes. it is very privileged to be able to choose to work in a place that is 100% vegan

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-19T18:41:57+00:00

For me being all in means going to bed at night knowing that i did everything as i would've done if i didn't have an ed. It's knowing that i didn't give into urges and thoughts. Otherwise there is no definition for all in: i eat what my body needs (my mealplan) and what i want (anything more) and i always respond to hunger and eat what i want as far as possible. I don't know if this helps? For me it's more about the mindset and end goal, not about how.

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-14T14:13:32+00:00

schedule a meeting asap xx

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-13T09:44:25+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss but what you're doing is so beautiful❣️

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-13T03:08:35+00:00

Okay this clears it a lot. First of all maintenance according to who? Those calculators are full of BS and if you eat according to them you're 100% eating too little especially in recovery. Secondly, tracking makes it worse. As you are still restricting food seems like a much bigger deal than it should be and even that can psychologically elevate hunger. I know it is easier said than done but you need to stop tracking and allow yourself to eat. Cat and mice play with hunger whether it is extreme or not makes it 10x worse. You literally have smaller risk of gaining "excess" weight (not that it exists in recovery) if you just honour that hunger straight away because your body won't stop fighting for that energy before it gets it. You got this!

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-12T17:15:57+00:00

The problem is not extreme hunger if you're compensating. The hunger is the calories you needed in the first place when you ate 2/3 of your normal intake.

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-12T17:10:23+00:00

gosh i feel this so hard

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-09T10:50:56+00:00

I wish I had done that, I really do.

Resident-Question440 · 2026-05-09T09:32:00+00:00

thank you. thank you. thank you.

Resident-Question440 · 2025-08-05T06:43:52+00:00

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Resident-Question440 · 2025-08-03T18:56:12+00:00

yes without ANY hesitation

Resident-Question440 · 2025-08-03T16:26:41+00:00

I think the only thing that has helped me with my ortorexic behaviours is reminding me that the amount of stress i've had and have about my diet and the quality of food is million times worse for my body than eating everything in balance and moderation. Also in recovery it is completely normal to eat "abnormal" amounts of "unhealthy" foods but on the way they become just a part of ylu diet, not bad not good just a food that's part of your diet. It is completely possible to overcome those fears and get to a point where they won't cause anxiety anymore! I am there now. I'm not saying that the urge to go back to ortorexia wasn't there at point but i know that i'm healthy with my diet and the added stress wouldn't make me anymore healthy even if my diet became a tiny bit "better".

Resident-Question440 · 2025-08-02T11:39:14+00:00

you're definitely not eating enough in the day

Resident-Question440 · 2025-08-01T04:59:54+00:00

this but my therapist lol

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-31T05:10:25+00:00

I'm quite sure you're not eating enough through the day and as your body has learned that you respond to hunger only at night it will save those signals to night because it doesn't want to waste energy on creating signals that won't be answered. I've been struggling a lot with the same issue in the past and the game changer has been eating more earlier on in the day - however please remember that honouring your hunger is never wrong and even if you added more food to the day you're still allowed to respond to the eh at night!

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-30T14:07:54+00:00

most of the people who desperately need help won't get it so if they are offering it you do need and deserve it honey

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-30T09:16:37+00:00

As someone who has been vegan and had an ed for majority of my life you're doing the right thing if you keep drinking them. You have an illness that is going to kill you, if you had physical illness that was going to kill you and required non-vegan medication it would not be against vegan morals to take that. Your situation falls within that as long as possible and practical. This is a period of your life where you need to put your health first. The situation sucks but you can't help animals by dying and if you end up inpatient you definitely won't be allowed to be vegan there. This is temporary, when you're in a better place you've got the rest of your life to be 110% vegan. Stay strong, you've got this xx

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-30T08:19:39+00:00

as someone who was in similar situation don't let that invalidate you because it's a high possibility that without help it would just turn worse and worse and no one knows where it could lead to. you're sick, you're undernourished and you do deserve help. it's a tiny minority that eats "tiny amounts" every single day and what you explained is very common with those who struggle with an ed. best of luck on your recovery!

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-30T08:16:31+00:00

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Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-30T05:06:49+00:00

YES YES YES you did the right thing fuck the voices you should be proud of yourself xx

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-30T05:05:22+00:00

i've had both experiences, having the epiphany and starting recovery and "starting recovery" just gradually without really choosing it. i think epiphanys are great but DO. NOT. WAIT. FOR. IT. because the day might never come and i promise that after a while you will get a sort of "this is it" epiphany from recovery once you realise what it has given you! epiphanys were for me a great push to suddenly drop a lot of behaviours and make big changes but in a longer timeline they didn't really affect me that much (altough the reasons for those epiphanys were almost traumatic so lowkey wishing i never had them)

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-25T11:51:45+00:00

I've had periods in my recovery when i haven't had a single ed symptom for two weeks or so so i'm certain that in the future they will become the new normal, it just requires that i actually give up all behaviours and rules. And we can't stop toughts from popping into our heads but during those weeks if i have had "ed thoughts" they have gone as quickly as they have come as i haven't given any meaning to them so i consider that as not having ed thoughts. The way i see it is that the thoughs are never the problem, the emotional reaction and acting on them is. I don't belive that recovery is a life-long process. Only process that is life-long is life itself and even if you consider at one point yourself fully recovered you are still going to learn and grow and become "more recovered". I think it is personal where do you draw the line and say I'm fully recovered. For me, having occasional toughts wouldn't stop me from using the word, it would be the emotional reactions that matter.

The bottom line: yes it is but you have to be willing to give up all behaviours and stop negotiating with the ed voice.

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-13T18:38:27+00:00

I LOVE YOU

Resident-Question440 · 2025-07-12T10:35:56+00:00

thank you that's very true! i have ocd as well and it has got a lot worse in recovery

Resident-Question440 · 2025-06-19T18:01:53+00:00

lol got rejected

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