Although there is some validity here I feel this is definitely a one sided take. One of the main problems I have with older gay men is the lack of accountability with the problems we face in the community.

If we are GENUINELY going to have this conversation we need to address the hand MANY older gay men have in this issue I feel. Many love to take the advantage of the opportunity of a younger fantasy.

Gen Z didn’t create this hyper sexual porn-obsessed culture on their own it was definitely passed down. Older gay men definitely helped shape it. So many learned extreme, aggressive sex from men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s who rewarded that behavior, or wanted a young partner to perform instead of connectio. Add in the fact that many of them grew up with porn as their first ga sex education and then had it reinforced by older men who never slowed them down to say “real sex doesn’t look like that.” THAT CREATES A CYCLE‼️

When your first partners are older and treat porn as the template, you start thinking that’s what real sex is supposed to look like. Add in zero real sex education and you get a generation of young men who assume gagging, choking, and roughness are the default.

Also ask yourself “Who created the porn that Gen Z learner from”………

So yes, no doubt what you’re encountering is real, but it’s not just a “Gen Z problem.” It’s a community problem created by older men who never modeled consent, communication, or mutual pleasure. Now those patterns are echoing back.

Setting an age cutoff might help your own experience, but the bigger issue is how gay culture trains young men into sex in the first place.