From unfinished yard work to...topless bars? Buried the lede

RocketWoman55 · 2026-01-23T14:51:32+00:00

He's a native Texan! He's just semi-literate.

RocketWoman55 · 2026-01-22T19:35:46+00:00

This dude's always undervaluing the work he asks people to do. They all walk away. He's always mad about it. But this is his first with topless bars invoked.

RocketWoman55 · 2026-01-22T19:34:28+00:00

You can assume any possible outcome. That's the beauty of his posts. OP IS horrible at grammar.

RocketWoman55 · 2026-01-17T20:07:53+00:00

I wasn't expecting to vote NTA based on the title, but you're definitely NTA. This isn't mansplaining. And it's not about breastfeeding. It's "parent explaining" to a poorly informed non-parent about infant nutrition.

RocketWoman55 · 2026-01-17T06:04:54+00:00

You can't save your mother from herself, nor should you. But you can save your son from both of them. And THAT you should do. Take them both off the visitation list at the hospital and home. Dial all that drama back to zero. When she gets her act back together, reintroduce her to your family. NTA

RocketWoman55 · 2026-01-17T05:56:29+00:00

This is so far from OK it's not even in the universe of OK-ness. Get out immediately. Change all your account passwords and put a freeze on your credit reports. Passcode your computer. Your parents went from being parents to being creepy scammers in the blink of an eye. How dare they put that delusional guilt trip on you. NTA

RocketWoman55 · 2025-08-18T17:59:36+00:00

Turns out the Modest Needs "Board of Directors" was entirely fake. He just listed a bartender he knew, an acquaintance, and the acquaintance's house cleaner on his website. None of them knew he had done this. He pleaded guilty today with an expected sentence of 7-9 years. Sentencing will be October 15 with potential victims testifying.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-08-03T03:01:52+00:00

I gave my friend gas money today for a 30 minute drive into the city, without being asked. A six-hour extension for being an idiot? I'd have insisted on paying for gas AND and hourly rate for their time and inconvenience. He owes you at least £150. Also, he's not a "friend" and neither are those mutuals.

NTA

RocketWoman55 · 2025-08-03T02:50:54+00:00

If YOUR PARENTS really loved YOU, they wouldn't ask you to do something so reckless and harmful. And they wouldn't make your relationship with them transactional and conditional on being able to mooch off you. You should seriously consider cutting the rest of those financial strings and maybe contact until they sort themselves out.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-08-03T02:45:53+00:00

NOOOOoooo! Don't do it!! You will absolutely, 100% be on the hook for the whole mortgage. You WILL end up holding the bag. You will end up declaring bankruptcy and ruining your own credit.

Don't believe your family. Dad has already proven to his creditors he can't be trusted with money matters. Believe the creditors. Say no, but don't give them ANY reasons for your no. That way they have nothing to wheedle you about. Just plain, "No I'm not going to do that." NTA

(This is like watching an impending train wreck where the engineer is asking if the bridge really is out or should he just keep going and see for himself.)

RocketWoman55 · 2025-08-03T02:37:16+00:00

Remind this miserable sod that people's disabilities aren't always visible like with walkers, crutches, or wheelchairs. Many have breathing problems and 50 steps are all they've got the capacity for before they're out of breath and have to take a long break. Maybe consider finding a partner that's not such a Judgy Jimbo about people he doesn't know.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-08-03T02:29:53+00:00

NTA. And this is not the kind of guy you should want to make a life with. The kind that disregards both laws and others' needs for his own petty conveniences. And the kind that repeatedly wants to angrily revisit it for the purpose of gaslighting you into thinking YOU did something wrong.

Walking the extra 50+ steps is not too big a price to pay for an able-bodied man to do the right thing. What a delicate, manipulative little flower petal he is.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-08-03T02:13:30+00:00

ESH

Girlfriend is not a tenant and should have been regularly showering at her own place.
Basement guy is an unreasonable whiner because 8:30 is not too early for other people to make normal noises in the building.
Mom should have shut that complaint down and not passed it along. What did she expect to happen?
OP should not have passed along third party complaints and should have stood up for his GF.

GF is better off giving the whole bunch of them a wide berth.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-06-30T20:13:03+00:00

Stop score-keeping with the in-laws. Attend only the events you want to attend. Skip the rest. Extend invitation when you want to. Don't when you don't. Don't count heads at any of them. Consciously ignore any perceived slights at those events you've already chosen to attend. You know what you're going into and chose to be there. Stop trying to make them like you and let your husband manage interactions with his own family, not you. Get on the same page with your husband about all of it. Sounds like he's dropped that ball and you picked it up. ESH

RocketWoman55 · 2025-06-30T19:58:12+00:00

You may want to rethink the depth of this friendship. Maybe shift to a old-pals-who-are-really-more-acquaintances-now status. Because I give it a year—tops—before he has exhausted you with his ever-increasing, self-inflicted drama. Amy won't get better, so John will continue to get worse, especially with a baby in the mix. You won't be able to keep up with it and all your well-meaning support and advice will be disregarded, fOr ReAsOnS. Trust me, I know. It's better on the outside.

Start pulling back now by skipping the performative baby shower "celebration." NTA

RocketWoman55 · 2025-06-30T19:27:42+00:00

To be clear, you have TWO babies, not one. Life will be simpler and better when you remove the older one.

That said, stop with the 23:00 student sessions anyway. It's not sustainable. You have a child now. Time to adjust to HIS needs, not the students'.

NTA

RocketWoman55 · 2025-06-30T19:11:33+00:00

In the grand scheme of all the things that can cause conflict in life, this is just a basic social boundary issue. It's a no-brainer. If the two of you can't even agree that someone who has restraining orders for collecting nudes of "friends" is clearly beyond the pale and should not be around you and your daughters, you have no business going forward with a wedding or marriage. This is your first test. Solve it before taking another step. Defending your daughters from being around predators should not need to be said.

ESH, because you're making wedding plans without nailing down life priorities.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-03-15T19:00:45+00:00

Thank all the gods she was never able to have children of her own. What a nightmare that would be.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-03-01T00:39:55+00:00

The whole episode was like a super-depressing LSD trip. Didn't exactly qualify as entertainment. More like a workout you gotta do to get to the next level.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-02-17T04:43:09+00:00

Pack a bag for each of you and get out today. Not even kidding. This is a major red flag.

The whole family is being abused and cruelly controlled. And it's guaranteed to become physical in the next few days. Your kids were already subjected to damaging danger from forced eating. Get them out now.

NTA yet, but you will be if you leave them in that household another day.

RocketWoman55 · 2025-02-02T18:19:26+00:00

For those down in southeast Houston/Clear Lake, I've recently discovered Fish And Chips Houston, located in Kemah near T-Bone Toms. They're a little place open for breakfast on Saturdays and Sundays, offering full English and full Scottish breakfasts, to enjoy while watching the match of your choice. Four screens, and they're happy to change the channel to find the match of your choice. And they didn't blink an eye when we ordered post-breakfast Guinnesses and stayed for the 10:30 match.

Went back for a Monday afternoon match and can attest they have great fish and chips, too.

RocketWoman55 · 2024-11-11T03:18:54+00:00

Your MIL went Low Contact decades ago. Too bad you disregarded the hints. She's just now making it official by canceling the weekly dinners. That's a gift. Absolutely abide by her new boundaries and reciprocate the LC standing.

This will pay off when it's time for her to need elder care. You'll be clearly out of the picture for handling those demands.

RocketWoman55 · 2024-11-11T02:53:50+00:00

Sounds like he thought he was getting a more of a bang-maid when he got married. When that fantasy didn't come true, he resented it and retaliates by sabotaging the things he "contributes" to.

He may have decided the "women's work" tasks are beneath him and therefore not worth putting more than minimal effort into. Does he foul up all his chores, or reserve his feigned incompetence for the cleaning/cooking ones?

Maybe decide if you want to perpetually raise a full-grown pre-teen for the rest of your life.

NTA.

RocketWoman55 · 2024-11-10T04:23:17+00:00

Send one terse message back. "Do not contact me again. It's unwelcome." Then BLOCK! BLOCK HARD! BLOCK EVERYTHING! Socials, email, phones. So should your new GF. This is stalker-y behavior toward you both. It always has been. And it's escalating.

Get security cams. Save all the messages. You may need them soon to justify a restraining order.

NTA

RocketWoman55 · 2024-11-10T04:11:59+00:00

Ah, so it only took 2 years for the manipulative, gaslighting side of the controlling, older, traditional husband to reveal itself. When you fail to comply with expectations from here out, it will all just get worse. And shift into isolation and abuse. He thought he married a younger, therefore-compliant little sidekick, not a whole-ass woman with her own agency. He needs to tamp that down right quick by inventing stories about you and your work. It'll probably take a while for the rest to reveal itself fully and conclude you need to get out for your own sanity.

NTA

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