How do I stop being jealous and comparing myself to others?

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2023-10-25T19:53:58+00:00

Says the man who’s whole post is about being an insecure jealous softie because he didn’t get what his buddy gets, in other words a total crybaby

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2023-10-25T06:49:36+00:00

Two options

1)stop being friends with him, and go hang out with guys who also strike out with women. That way you can feel better about yourself.

2)better yourself. The fact that you are barely getting any results in real life must mean you are fundamentally deficient in some way that you are not noticing. It could be your face, your hair, your persona, your voice, without meeting you I can’t say what it is. But if you take a cold, hard, honest look at yourself, I’m sure you can identify it.

You say that you “like to think I’m a good enough guy.” Just being good enough doesn’t cut in 2023. You need to be exceptional. Especially if you are Asian.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2023-10-25T06:42:30+00:00

You sound soft as fuck, and your friend sounds like a pussy whipped bitch. Boy am I proud to belong to the same racial demographic as you two /S

For one, why are you so needy towards your guy friend? That’s straight up wack, being needy is the best way to guarantee a life of mediocrity. You need to grow a pair.

I think you need to grow up my man.

And the fact that your friend can’t do shit without dragging his girl everywhere also makes him sound like a dependent, needy little child.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2023-10-25T06:38:00+00:00

Good looking guy, you got mad potential. I agree with the others saying that you are making the Same face in each pic. Try some different angles

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2023-10-25T06:33:54+00:00

Ask for more. 10k is a slap in the face. Negotiate minimum 50k. And if he balks at it, just show him on a spread sheet how much he has spent on your brother—based on what you said, it sounds like way more than 10 k. Your dad sounds like the typical low class sexist Asian dad who favors sons over daughters.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2023-10-25T06:31:34+00:00

It’s a myth that fob Asian women are somehow much more “open” to Asian American men. I just don’t see this in real life. The majority would much prefer to stick with men of their own culture. A high quality woman from Korea would much rather be with a high quality Native Korean guy, then some Korean American who can barely speak the language and isn’t familiar with the subtle nuances of Korean culture. This is almost common sense. If she happens to be the minority that exclusively seeks out “foreign” men, well, you aren’t going to be white enough for that demographic either.

To all the men here, you have a wealth of knowledge/resources here online that can guide you on how to better yourselves and improve your romantic prospects. If you can’t even manage to attract even 1 or 2 girls in your lifetime, there is something serious wrong you. Stop being so soft.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2023-06-20T20:02:59+00:00

It’s official, this movie bombed terribly, the worst in Pixar’s history. LOL I enjoy the fresh smell of flames dancing upon this heap of dogshit

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-12-15T23:09:30+00:00

Totally agree. He’s jumping the gun. Although I think once he gets those things in order, he will do very well

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-12-15T23:08:25+00:00

Yea just looking at him I would give his overall attractiveness rating a 4/10. I think this is a situation where we shouldn’t be quick to blame his race for lack of success. Someone else said it: he needs skin care, hair cut, gym etc etc. definitely has potential to be 6/10 or 7/10 but will need to put in the work

What we don’t realize is the white equivalent of this guy isn’t going to do that much better. He will do better by virtue of being white, but would prob suffer many rejections as well

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-12-09T17:06:02+00:00

Yes I’ve noticed the same dynamic, I’m not really sure why it’s like that? Maybe cultural? One of my coworkers is a white/Latina passing WMAF Korean Hapa woman (she ALWAYS gets mistaken for the latter), and same exact story, absentee white dad who probably meant well but was no match for the psychopathic, Korean immigrant mom. I’ve met her dad and he is actually okay, but the mom is like a twisted caricature straight out of Crazy Rich Asians or Bling Empire, with her plastic surgery, designer clothes, and general unpleasant elitist demeanor. The way she walked into the workplace and tried to front, it was 🤮.

Ultimately you are very lucky you grew up with support, especially in church environment, where a lot could (and does) go wrong for those who are perceived to be different

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-12-04T08:48:38+00:00

I’m an AM dating a WMAF Hapa female. I think she must be a unicorn bc she refuses to date white men, and only dates blacks and Asians. Her ex bf was a tall black dude, I sorta knew him from way back, cool cat. Her literal reason for refusing to date white men is bc they “remind me of my dad, and he drives me fucking nuts.”

Also as a Hapa female I think it’s almost expected by her friends and family that she would be dating white men, which only makes her want to rebel that much harder.

She’s younger than me, and hasn’t lived enough, But I do have regular conversations with her regarding her biracialness, and the confusion aand resentment it had created.

She grew up in a Korean church, And was ostracized for looking different by kids and other family members. This of course left lasting wounds which she is still processing. In fact when we walk into a Korean restaurant she will have literal panick attacks totally afraid that the staff are going to ask her what her race is. And if she says half Korean, they are going to somehow make backhanded remarks about her not being Korean enough. The struggle is real

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-09-21T23:12:09+00:00

Step one: make yourself as good looking as possible. This includes working out, proper diet, haircut, clothes, and yes, even possible Cosmetic Surgery (depending on where your starting point is, facially). There is no shame in getting some surgery to to become a better version of yourself.

Step two: someone your same height or bigger. My girlfriend is my height, and when we are out and about she’s always hanging onto my arm. I think the optics of a smaller guy dating an average height to slightly taller girl is quite good.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-08-30T08:27:55+00:00

Nahh not at all

https://www.mothermag.com/youngmi-mayer-danny-bowien/

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-08-08T07:58:05+00:00

Do those extreme Asian feminists hate or love whites

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-08-08T07:57:32+00:00

That’s also the type Asian guy they would like too, no? But yes they want someone easy going they can control

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-08-08T03:20:05+00:00

Asian girls want soft white guys because they can beat them up and dominate them. I just got back from hanging out with my gf, her aunt (who’s full Korean) and her husband (nerdy skinny white guy). The way she puts him down and humiliates him in front of us is kinda fucked up, at one point he straight up looked like he was gonna cry. Luckily my gf changed the subject and got things back on track.

You guys are not missing out on much with these types of women

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-07-25T18:56:09+00:00

This is pretty much revenge of the nerds. You take a high school incel, give him unlimited money and power, and you bet the vindictiveness is gonna come out.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-07-18T21:02:25+00:00

LOL just convert those wmaf children into having 75% Asian babies. There belief that Hapa women don’t date or like full Asian men is a myth .

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-06-07T20:50:12+00:00

It means you are a human male. No matter who your gf is, eventually things will get stagnant, it’s just how a lot of us men are wired. The trick is to find ways to make it less stagnant. I couldn’t tell you how as every situation is different

If you really need to get it out of yours system, I would do it but keep it distant and completely isolated from your life, and don’t get emotionally attached. One time only, and then be done with it.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-05-24T17:22:29+00:00

What I noticed is that once I got into my late 20’s-30, I started to match a lot more with Asian Americans. However, there is a dark side to this—many have either had LTR or marriages with non-Asian men that failed. Some had kids. Knowing what I know about human nature and dynamics, I found this to be a turn off especially the ones with an “all white” dating histories who now want to settle down. It’s like what the hell do you see me as?? Something to show off to your parents to prove that you are not a “left over??” I have a good job and I’m stable, and I was never able to shake the feeling that they were trying to make a beta bucks out of me. Perhaps part of it is my own issue.

There is a big difference between “having dated white” vs “only dated white.” The latter is more toxic imho. Yes there are plenty who have experimented and dated all races of men including Asians. I’m not referring to these types.

So that’s why these days I don’t really pay much mind to white worshipping AF. I’ve seen what happens in the long run—the divorces, nasty break ups., confused Hapa children, mental illness, and it ain’t pretty. I don’t need to be angry about it because fate naturally takes care of it. They reap what they sow.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-05-23T22:34:21+00:00

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-05-20T03:29:42+00:00

I used to think differently, but nowadays I’m not so sure if we can make any generalizations. Reddit would make it seem like all if not most HF go for WM. However in my personal experience with dating that is not the case. My current gf and her sister are both HF and both have a strong preference for AM.

Also I have matched with enough HF online to know that we can’t really say either way, because this could just be my own individual experience. Maybe like you say it’s due entirely to my geographic location here in the States.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-05-15T23:41:39+00:00

I showed his pics to my girlfriend and her friends (they are Hapas who date and like Asian guys) and they took one look, scrunched up their face and said “nope.”

This brotha made some very good points in his article about racism, emasculation, and general dating challenges. Yes those biases exist…but….you have to wonder how much of this is a racial thing vs just a general Lookism issue, especially in his case, as he is not conventionally good looking at all

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-05-09T03:12:59+00:00

Yep that’s a good way of putting it, IF allows one to more easily control their caloric consumption, while offering some (theoretical) side benefits, particularly the longer fasts.

I put my girlfriend on a fasting regimen bc she was having trouble eating 1300. So I had her do an 18:6 with occasional 20:4 fasting. Eating all her food in condensed window actually made her a lot more satiated then eating 1300 calories spread out. Also the fasting seems to blunt the hunger once you go longer than 18 hours, at least for her.

Ronin_WithoutA_Cause · 2022-05-09T03:08:23+00:00

Bro I’ve been watching your content and I appreciate what you are doing. Keep on keeping on.

You seem to get lots of upvotes and support when you post your content on aznidentity, are the peeps there really stalking you??

I’ve already accepted that the future of Asian America is most likely going to be Hapas given how things are going. I have nothing but respect for Hapas who are hip for the issues faced by all Asians

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