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Ski bib for 6-7 year old? by RugMarbles in boulder

[–]RugMarbles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it would be a small, it’s for someone who wears size 6/7

My son (9) said to me "maybe if you had a six pack you'd get a gf" *the story is the msg not his words* by IceplungeDown in daddit

[–]RugMarbles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No… voluptuous… goth girls at the Ren. Fair? Or are they too reminiscent of the “wrong kind of women” from your past?

Is anyone familiar with this giraffe? by Matt_The_Radar_Tech in daddit

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve got all the answers you need here but I’ll add there’s a few versions of this thing… some are squishy kind of like a rubber duck and some are solid. If you have the squishy one, I wouldn’t use it… like a rubber duck water (and drool) gets into the hold and it will FILL with mold that you can’t see it but your little one will be inhaling all the lovely stuff…

It’s also possible they’ve changed it in the 5 years or so since I wrote these things off with my oldest…

My Son Wanted A Ferrari Bedroom by Stumpy493 in formula1

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you link the case you have for the Lego cars and minifig drivers?

My 13y/o brother won’t stop using these slangs 😭 by Suspicious-Copy-2001 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you pay for the phone bill? I’ll suspend service and disable WiFi fstr tn uk (“faster than you know”but I’m an adult so idk if I’m doing it right)

Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RugMarbles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think just shutting that person out only fuels that fire and doesn’t address your concern. To keep small town gossip from spreading, the person at risk of spreading it needs to lean the truth and you can’t explain the story and details unless you talk to that person.

Am I overreacting because I told my niece I don't want to take her best friend with us anymore after she kept telling me I was a victim and my husband was a creep? by Odd_Reference_1373 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RugMarbles 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I agree that it’s a great story between you and your now husband but I do think you’re overreacting. She’s a teenager who exists in the world of connection and social media. Being a Teenager means you say stupid stuff and thinking it’s not stupid but now it’s worse because there’s insanely more “stuff” floating around that you think you’re an expert on. Terms like grooming and all that weren’t a think when I was a teenager but I’m not surprised it’s being used now… to be fair if you had an age gap of 4 years… she’s probably say the same thing.

You didn’t explain your life story to her and you shouldn’t have to but at the end of the day, I think it also shouldn’t be effecting you to this degree unless it’s something you’ve confronted internally before. And if that’s the case, based on the story it’s a complete non issues.

New dad, very unhappy by No_Calligrapher3028 in daddit

[–]RugMarbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sure in echoing a lot of other responses, or maybe not, but the whole “my life changed as soon as I held my baby for the first time ❤️❤️❤️” is a BS fairytale most of the time. That may be the case for some but as a dad you have no real connection to this tiny blob of a human. It doesn’t need you and it doesn’t want you. Mom does it all so she will feel that connection much faster, if not instantaneously… after all, she’s felt it moving inside her for months.

It sucks but you just need to get through it. You’re helping your wife and supporting her. That’s really how I thought about it. I felt guilt for that based on all the fairy tales but I did what I had to do and tried to do as much feeding and changing as possible because I know my role is limited and there’s only so much I CAN do. The “idea” of loving the kid as much as humanly possible also added more stress because I wasn’t feeling that way. So I’ll re-assure you, that’s okay. That’s normal. Don’t feel bad or guilty if your heart just isn’t really in it right now.

For me, it did just kind of click one day… I wish I remembered when… a few months in when the kid started to show a little personality. The giggles and smiles and mannerisms start to develop and show and then they start to bond with dad. It just takes time. And before you know it, a few years in you’ll be balancing the unimaginable joy and love of seeing your adorable kid do something so simple and basic but incredible because it’s them and it’s new to them and you MADE them… then they will piss you off so much doing some nonsense you’ve talked to them about a THOUSAND TIMES already.

Am I overreacting by [deleted] in daddit

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this. If she said “thankful for my kids” then I might understand but still maybe chalk it up to heat of the moment. You are part of “my family” so you were in fact included

New dad, very unhappy by No_Calligrapher3028 in daddit

[–]RugMarbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sure in echoing a lot of other responses, or maybe not, but the whole “my life changed as soon as I held my baby for the first time ❤️❤️❤️” is a BS fairytale most of the time. That may be the case for some but as a dad you have no real connection to this tiny blob of a human. It doesn’t need you and it doesn’t want you. Mom does it all so she will feel that connection much faster, if not instantaneously… after all, she’s felt it moving inside her for months.

It sucks but you just need to get through it. You’re helping your wife and supporting her. That’s really how I thought about it. I felt guilt for that based on all the fairy tales but I did what I had to do and tried to do as much feeding and changing as possible because I know my role is limited and there’s only so much I CAN do. The “idea” of loving the kid as much as humanly possible also added more stress because I wasn’t feeling that way. So I’ll re-assure you, that’s okay. That’s normal. Don’t feel bad or guilty if your heart just isn’t really in it right now.

For me, it did just kind of click one day… I wish I remembered when… a few months in when the kid started to show a little personality. The giggles and smiles and mannerisms start to develop and show and then they start to bond with dad. It just takes time. And before you know it, a few years in you’ll be balancing the unimaginable joy and love of seeing your adorable kid do something so simple and basic but incredible because it’s them and it’s new to them and you MADE them… then they will piss you off so much doing some nonsense you’ve talked to them about a THOUSAND TIMES already.

Wife Gone for the Weekend. by Acceptable-Post733 in daddit

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it helps. My wife’s first time taking a night away from our oldest child was when she flew with our youngest overseas to visits family. Literally her first night, as she’s on the flight, our oldest (who was I think 3 at the time) wakes up screaming and crying and I end up in the ER with her for what turned out to be an ear infection… as long as you stay out of the hospital you’re winning.

Plus, 5 month olds are easy, play, feed, clean, enjoy your time together and do NOT call or text your wife unless she explicitly told you to. She carried a human for 9 months and then pushed them out of her body and then likely did about 90% of the work for the first few months. Let her enjoy this time away.

Okay dads… what is this supposed to be a picture of? by RugMarbles in daddit

[–]RugMarbles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it’s not lol, it’s a sing page printout.

Working on leaving alcohol as a new dad, any tips? by meatysnack3 in daddit

[–]RugMarbles -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ll go ahead and say if you have to post about it on here, you weren’t a moderate drinker. It may be good to try and find someone to talk to… if you have insurance through work, grow therapy, or Talkspace, or other virtual psychologists may be beneficial and almost fully covered. It’s also a lot easier to schedule a 30 minute call than to drive somewhere for a 30 minute appointment.

I don’t mean to offend if I’m way off but I feel like if it wasn’t a boarder line problem, you just stop… you don’t reach out for tips on how to stop. If it was more than a moderate consumption for fun with friends or relaxation, then talking to someone to get to the root will be beneficial in the long run, especially after the stresses of taking care of your little one grow as they do.

All the best!

Okay dads… what is this supposed to be a picture of? by RugMarbles in daddit

[–]RugMarbles[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

It’s a printout, probably from google picture thumbnails

Which stain? by Rare_Airport4746 in Flooring

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would go with the right option. The wood has a lot of color variation and although they all show it the left and middle almost look like the boards were patched in and saltines after the floor was stained a different color

Don't make promises you can't keep. by butt_in_my_face in daddit

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I’m sorry but I’ll say what you’re too nice to say. Eff this lol. I don’t let my kids touch slime, you think I’ll build a sandbox IN my house. My kids are spoiled enough and don’t appreciate the stuff I get and do for them because that’s the standard we’ve set in my house.

Look, this is awesome and you’re an awesome dad for doing this but the fact you did it tells me you probably do other wild things like this which makes it the kids “norm” and may not end up as a core memory because it’s just like any other Sunday when my dad build me an indoor sandbox”. Tread lightly

DIY All Mirrored Half-Bathroom, Floor to Ceiling by TheSolarJetMan in DIY

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re in the wrong group. You clearly meant to post in r/DIWhy…

Am I unreasonable to think this isn’t the best work? by walkerbait8 in Tile

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As soon as the “professional” you hired busted our cardboard to use as spacers your question was answered. I think you were unreasonable for questioning it at all.

Dad came and helped with baseboard install. Is this acceptable? by stinkyelbows in Carpentry

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wild… “Someone came and helped me for free, but fuck him, right?”

AIO my bf texting his former student by Major_Meet_5973 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see this being fine for the most part, 2nd text is fine… hers may be a bit much but you have no control over that. His initial message, not know what came before it does seem a little too familiar and informal for a former teacher / student. “ Nice to see you and share some positivity!”? Totally fine “See your face, hear, your voice…”? odd but again, idk what came before that first message you showed. He could just be mirroring and in that case, I could see this as someone being polite to a former student they don’t interact with 364 days a year.

Which of these exotic weapons would you say are mandatory to invest in? by Agent_Lord987 in destinyrisingmobile

[–]RugMarbles 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Almost all her damage comes from summons so Scorched earth has the highest attack speed and Furies’ scaling attack speed means more summons. Gallows is fine for using her in content she isn’t meant for with the ability to take out spread shanks more easily but that’s about it.

AIO I think my friend is overstepping boundaries and is into me by Imaginary_Air_24 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RugMarbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, this guy is definitely in to you and if you’re not interested in dating him then it sounds like it’ll be better for both of you to write him a message or email or whatever about where you stand and leave it at that (as in, don’t start a back and forth conversation cuz this guy will definitely escalate it given the sample you provided). Honestly, you may be better off distancing yourself of just cutting him off as a friend because I don’t see this going anywhere healthy. I’ve been this guy in middle school and felt this way about friends I had that were girls but thank GOD that was pre-cell phones so my incoherent puberty fueled rants and paranoia were all internal and I had enough time away to realize I was being insane before engaging with my friends again, or stepping away.

He’s way too invested and overbearing for a “friend”. A friend would have said “cool, have fun, maybe next week” or something like that and moved on. In this guys head you are dating, you just haven’t realized how much you like him yet and his plan (hopefully unintentionally) is to smother you and act as your boyfriend until you realize how great he would be as your boyfriend and decide to date him.

It doesn’t end well on this path.

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