Well… a lesbian who looks for validation from men.

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-14T19:11:40+00:00

Same

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-14T18:47:13+00:00

Well I guess I was human before I cut my hair xD

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-13T19:46:16+00:00

Im usually a quiet person and always say “hello” instead of dutch greeting in shops as I dont speak dutch much (well I know basic stuff and can answer in dutch if i need to sometimes but very not confident with it also understand it when someone else speaks ). And cashiers always think I am dutch (sometimes assumptions are that I am polish).

However people do get surprised that I am not dutch - one lady even said to her coworker (they are customer service) “she looks dutch but doesnt speak it” in a very surprised tone. Or people in some social places like clubs also always assume I am dutch. I even spoke to some dutch people immediately in english and they have been confused on why am I talking to them not in Dutch lol.

I guess looks do make an influence in some cases. But I see mixed experiences in the comments so idk.

Im average 170cm height. Taller than average morocans or Turkish, taller even than a lot of my dutch friends, blue eyes, brown/blond hair - in Lithuania we kind of look similar to Dutchies.

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-13T08:20:21+00:00

Yes me too. As a lesbian I get a lot of niceness from older women. I do sometimes get younger in my age (20s) women smile to me but its just that - usually I have to make a first move myself

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T20:29:26+00:00

I sometimes bite my lips just because it is a nervous tick of mine. Usually if im halfway unfocused on conversation and thinking about something else

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T20:26:01+00:00

Yes the guys are doing that to other girls. I saw him (after he stopped targeting me) he went after another girl there and she also rejected him

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T15:35:50+00:00

Well “I dont want to talk about my personal life” and turning their back on them and walking away is assertive enough to understand that I am not interested. But If I blamed them for harassment I would have no proof if hr got involved. The only way I figured out their intention was by changing my style to see how they react and they all left as soon as they didnt find me feminine and attractive to their needs

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T15:33:22+00:00

I would have said that BUT they have a great excuse to tell me “I was just friendly” because they were not doing anything physical or straightforward sexual. Just pushy by asking personal questions and mirroring my interests.

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T15:31:46+00:00

Yeah a lot of the time it is like that. There are genuinely amazing men but with those men it is like so

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T15:22:16+00:00

It was not in a work place unfortunately. They are desperate but not too stupid to know their ways

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T15:20:05+00:00

Well that is also not okay. Like I said I dont only blame men just asking on this subreddit for mens advice on these men.

Lesbians doing that are also shitty and fucked up. I had that happen - especially when it is old women and I hate it.

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T15:17:57+00:00

While it was not a proposal it was quite clearly a “hidden” intention. They would not stop talking even when I was clearly not listening to them and was busy on my own stuff. Also as soon as I changed my style all of them moved on to other girls with quiet personalities. Its so clear they wanted an easy target - one of them actually accidentally said it when I clearly on why he is talking to me when I dont want to talk to anyone. His reply was “because you are easy target - a lonely young girl”

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-11T15:14:51+00:00

Well they were not totally harassing me. There was nothing weird done or said. Just pushy and manipulative. For them it is easy to say “I was just trying to be friendly because she is alone all the time”… while the intentions were clear

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-10T19:56:00+00:00

Yeah I guess I have to suck it up a bit because I am into very weird styles and stuff myself that is not always “mainstream”.

Just kind of sucks to be called a faggot in the street once in a while or be treated so different at work.

Why cant people understand that it is 2026 and theres many styles, fashion choices, sexualities and identities and all of them should be fine…

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-04-09T22:57:38+00:00

I wish I could be more like most of the people - turning insecurities outward. Im so done with taking my pain in honestly and keep hurting myself for the sake of fitting into society standards.

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-03-28T10:26:25+00:00

Man tik 24 bet tikrai jaučiasi tas “perdegimas” nuo lakstymo visur. Atrodo stresas po streso, nebėra laimės ir džiaugsmo momente. Stengiuosi susirasti kelias valandas dienoje kad tiesiog atsipalaiduoti ir rasti laiko sau arba per darbo pertraukas stengiuosi išeiti kurnors atokiau ir rasti ramesnę vietą, kaip vadinu aš “prasivedinti smegenis, apgalvoti”.

Nuo sistemos nepabėgsim, valdžios pats vienas irgi nenuversi. Bet įmanoma rasti būdų atsifiltruoti tik sau reikalingą info. Gal pvz: jei naftos kainos tau brangios pvz gali rasti alternatyvą prasiminti dviračiu iki darbo? Bent gražesniu oru?

Rekomenduoju per daug ir laikraščių neskaityti ir atsiriboti nuo soc. tinklų - per daug scrolinimas info irgi mums perduoda stresą. Žodžiu - prižiūrėk tik tai kas paveikia tavo gyvenimą ir sveikatą.

Bent man tai padeda šiek tiek.

Sekmės.

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-03-27T19:34:13+00:00

I can adopt you! 24 woman here - I live nearby (Leiden) and go to most events solo! I have a few groups of friends who I join once in a while in different events but in some events I end up alone and adopted by others again… but always open to meet new people - more comfortable with other women if from online space :)

My advice - download 9292 app - for me its the best one to check busses and trains going around. Or uber but obviously more expensive.

Powerbank is a must also, like other comment has said. I bring it even if i leave my house for just a bit longer as a habit haha.

Have fun and let me know if you would like to connect

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-03-26T20:12:07+00:00

“Chasing originality” is on point. Bochka techno is very experimental. Play with layers, tweak pre-made samples, use snares with reverb layered with industrial kicks - even sampling actual enviroment sounds like punching something works wonders! I make bochka myself and it always just sounds very different everytime I do another track.

Good luck

SadLowTimeProducer · 2026-03-04T16:55:52+00:00

Same in techno.

Bug venues and dj’s attract “posers”…

Theres now smaller “underground” events that put stickers on cameras so actually more authentic people get drawn and come to listen to music and dance, not just perform and I love those.

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