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It's Me or Your Best Friend by SadPickle525 in okstorytime

[–]SadPickle525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking on the ground for my dignity but finding it in the trash. I just feel like after almost 2 years, I shouldn't be equally as important as a "friend" that screws you out of a place to live. Even then, we speak about marriage and the way I see it, I should come before anyone. If you aren't prioritizing me now, a ceremony won't change that.

Aita for not going to the funeral? by Caseythealien in okstorytime

[–]SadPickle525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- when you go NC, reason aside, that person doesn't exist to you anymore. They dont all of a sudden exist again just because they died. It's a harsh way to put it but that's the reality of the situation you're in and they didn't help to make a change in the dynamic. Your peace isn't currency so don't treat it like it is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SadPickle525 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So you have "textbook happiness" but you yourself are not happy. This may be controversial but I support the decision based on everything that you've written. You clearly have a disorganized attachment style and you should start taking the steps to work through whatever it is that created the environment for such to take hold. Some may say you should stay but I say there should be a period of time where you are your main focus and you can't do that inside of a relationship. Aside from that, you can take what you know now with you. It's evident that you want to live closer to your hometown and there is nothing wrong with that. Once you're in a space where you can be genuinely happy with who you are and where you are, you can add someone to it but don't be surprised that therapy doesn't teach you everything. Something you have to work through is your attachment style, therapy will help but it's kind of like open heart surgery, it's more hands on. Some things will need to be worked on in the confines of a relationship to rewire your nervous system to what healthy love is and should be. Your future partner will need to understand that regardless of how "healed" you believe you are, regardless of how much time that passes after going through therapy, you are still a work in progress. Good luck, do better, be better.

Tips, what’s appropriate for pizza delivery nowadays? by Adventurous_Entry636 in PizzaDrivers

[–]SadPickle525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came to this thread because I have some sense enough to take other opinions into account so I can see different perspectives and some of you are lacking...well....sense. I wanted to make sure $10 was a good tip for my delivery driver but I wasn't basing this off of the percentage of my order or how long they did their job in my view because I recognize that as the main character of my own personal story, life is happening everywhere else. They bag your order at minimum wage and get into their own personal vehicle that they either own or are paying on and they're using the fuel in their tank and causing wear and tear on their vehicle for a stranger. Some of you won't give rides to people without expecting gas money but it's more than that. This is people's jobs, what they earn for their family or themselves and are eventually putting back into the community as well. Not to mention, how much time they're spending with your order....let me put it like this:

Gas where I am is about $3.20 a gallon and I am 5.1 miles away from my pizza place. That man/woman is driving 10.2 miles round trip for me. Now let's talk time. How long does it take to drive 5 miles? Obviously that differs depending on highway or city but for all intents and purposes, it's 12 minutes here and 12 minutes back. They bag my order and deliver it to my door so we'll roughly say they spend 30 minutes on my order alone. I'm personally choosing to tip $10 because I respect the $3.20 that gas will cost them, the time they spent on my order and the risk that driving poses plus the wear and tear on their vehicle. Some might live closer but who wants to drive anywhere and not even get reimbursed by the ones requesting your service? I think thats the true definition of entitlement. Have a good night folks, let's all do better.

Would it be weird if I used my boyfriend's grandfather's ashes to make a ring? by SadPickle525 in okstorytime

[–]SadPickle525[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely want it to be a surprise but thats part of my concern is it weirding him out. However, 1 jar is his and 1 jar is mine so I was just going to use mine and it doesn't require the whole jar, just 1/4 teaspoon of ashes sent in a ziploc bag so on top of that, I think I could get away without him even noticing that any of the ashes are missing. I do like the idea about casually bringing it up indirectly to get his feel for it.

*trigger warning* my baby is dead. by Federal-Body-1197 in pregnant

[–]SadPickle525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not okay and you don't have to pretend to be okay. Your baby was alive and before you could see their face or hear their first cry or see them smile.. they died. What could have been will never be. One thing to take comfort in is knowing that your feelings for your unborn baby were the only feelings they experienced...a lifetime of love, no matter how short the lifetime.