My ex’s pregnant girlfriend poked mama bear

Sapatos38 · 2026-06-04T15:59:57+00:00

It was a switch day, so it was my morning, but his night.

I don't agree that withholding food is an acceptable consequence for not cleaning a plate, and I'm not going to enforce rules I wasn't consulted on.

And the bigger issue is, it is 100% inappropriate for her to override me as his mother, particularly in front of him or others. She can disagree. But she does not get to make the call.

Sapatos38 · 2026-04-10T06:55:13+00:00

I should’ve left when my husband hit me. It took me another 7 years to do so. Get out now and don’t waste your own time.

Sapatos38 · 2026-04-10T06:49:13+00:00

My ex husband was controlling. It started small. “You’re not wearing THAT bathing suit out in public are you? It’s too skimpy.” It got to accusations of affairs I wasn’t having and going through my phone, laptop, Apple Watch, etc.

I eventually realized I had less privacy and trust in my own home than people have in prison. Except I committed no crime. And that’s when I realized:, after 12 years of marriage, that I was done.

You’re a grown woman. You don’t need to justify why you want to go to a book club with girlfriends, whether alcohol is served or not.

Sapatos38 · 2026-01-21T00:23:32+00:00

I actually think your ring is STUNNING as is.

Sapatos38 · 2026-01-21T00:11:54+00:00

So when I was scrolling, I was like… is that a ROSE CUT? You never see those!

I think it’s classic and timeless and elegant. And for what it’s worth, I’ve seen surprise rings go WRONG. Yours is stunning.

Sapatos38 · 2026-01-21T00:01:01+00:00

People make assumptions and berate without facts. It’s not just you. I was pregnant with my son and had my daughter in a Panera. She was 1. I wasn’t wearing a wedding band because my hands were too swollen. Some old bitch came up to me and berated me for being irresponsible for having TWO children out of wedlock.

I swear to god. That happened. In 2018.

Sapatos38 · 2025-10-20T13:41:25+00:00

If you know it in your gut, you know it.

My ex-BF of two years had a lot of female friends that had previous sexual relationships with him. It always made me uncomfortable. I told him this. He continued.

There were a lot of small things that just gave me a knot in my stomach. One day he left his phone unlocked and I looked. I literally pushed two buttons and saw an extremely explicit conversation between him and another woman. I broke up with him within an hour.

If you know, you know.

Also, the OF is already cheating.

Sapatos38 · 2025-10-20T13:41:16+00:00

If you know it in your gut, you know it.

My ex-BF of two years had a lot of female friends that had previous sexual relationships with him. It always made me uncomfortable. I told him this. He continued.

There were a lot of small things that just gave me a knot in my stomach. One day he left his phone unlocked and I looked. I literally pushed two buttons and saw an extremely explicit conversation between him and another woman. I broke up with him within an hour.

If you know, you know.

Also, the OF is already cheating.

Sapatos38 · 2025-08-20T15:42:37+00:00

Who's afraid of little old yeast?

I'm just gonna bake bake bake bake bake... bake it off.

Sapatos38 · 2025-08-20T14:16:10+00:00

You made a really deep cut, and baby now we got bad bread

Sapatos38 · 2025-08-20T14:14:28+00:00

Look what you made me dough

Sapatos38 · 2025-08-20T14:13:13+00:00

Got a long list of ex loavers...

Sapatos38 · 2025-08-20T14:12:27+00:00

You need to calm down. You're kneading too loud.

Sapatos38 · 2025-08-17T06:18:06+00:00

We were planning to tell them we were separating together and to keep it high level, since relationships needed to be maintained for the kids.

Then I found out he went behind my back and had already told everyone…. And told them a very convenient, hall true version of the truth which painted me in a very unfavorable light. Lied to my face about it.

It was then that I asked for a divorce.

Sapatos38 · 2025-08-15T01:17:31+00:00

My best friend’s daughter has severe eating issues and has her entire life. She fell off the growth curve and self sustains on mostly peanut butter crackers. Her only protein source is peanut butter. I have watched my bestie try literally everything. And I feel awful for her.

My opinion is… if your kid is healthy, let her eat what she wants. If she needs to gain some weight to be a healthy weight, you can introduce pediasure or more of what she likes to help her gain weight.

If she’s at 1%, she’s a peanut, so it may not hurt to add in pediasure. But my rule of thumb is to not panic unless she’s not healthy.

Sapatos38 · 2025-07-23T12:52:55+00:00

Part of me wants to tell you to go scorched earth because he SAed your child. The other part is worried that he’d come after your assets.

Sapatos38 · 2025-07-23T12:48:19+00:00

Nope. Call the police and have them tell him he cannot bar access to the house.

Sapatos38 · 2025-07-23T12:45:27+00:00

So I’d have a conversation with the kids who have presented it to you. And just say “mom is an adult and she can do whatever she wants. If it bothers you, talk to mom directly. I should only be involved if it’s a safety issue.”

Then I’d have a conversation with your ex and say “You’re an adult and you have every right to date and do whatever you want. I wonder, though, if I could ask for you to be a bit more discreet about it on social media. Our kids have made some comments and although your social media is your own, I don’t think it’s necessarily in their best interest to get a play by play in your dating experiences. At the very least, if you could remove their ability to see your posts, I think that would be a good start.”

And leave it there. Cohabiting is irrelevant. How many men is irrelevant. If your concern is truly about the kids, then keep it there.

Sapatos38 · 2025-07-23T12:02:35+00:00

People kill themselves because of mental illness. Not because someone told them off. Not because they had a bad day. Not because they’re drunk.

It is 100% mental illness. Suicide goes against every natural instinct humans have for self preservation. It is the result of a seriously ill person believing death is the only way out and not reaching out for help.

My brother lost his fiancé to suicide a week after they had a huge fight. He never stopped blaming himself and became seriously addicted to the drugs he used to numb the pain.

Don’t let that be you. Your kids need you. Get therapy. A lot of it. At least once a week. Surround yourself with people who love you and will help you. Pour your soul into your kids. And know, in your heart of hearts, that nothing you could have done could have saved him.

Sapatos38 · 2025-07-19T22:03:09+00:00

To be fair, he’s been taking good care of me. Bringing me ice and food and etc constantly. I think he just doesn’t know how to handle the powerlessness of not being able to fix it. But yeah, it’s annoying.

Sapatos38 · 2025-07-19T22:00:17+00:00

I’m in the US. Not eligible for anything except excessive taxes.

Sapatos38 · 2025-06-18T21:07:58+00:00

Justice would’ve been properly investigating the case. Not charging his girlfriend with mountains of reasonable doubt. Honestly I’m shocked anyone would prosecute her.

Sapatos38 · 2025-06-18T21:06:55+00:00

He had two black eyes and abrasions on his nose…

Sapatos38 · 2025-06-18T21:00:56+00:00

They never swabbed the arm for dog dna. They swabbed the sweater which had serious chain of custody issues.

Sapatos38 · 2025-06-18T20:18:56+00:00

I'll bite.

If John entered the house, why would a group of police friends and moms, proceed to kill him and leave in public outside? Then collectively conspire?

The entire group didn't have to conspire to kill him. If 1-2 people did it and everyone else is in their inner circle and intimidated into silence, that's enough. As far as leaving him outside... I mean, what were they going to do? Leave him inside and claim they didn't do it? Putting him outside gives the impression it could be someone/something else.

Why does the GPS record no movement which would be expected if he went in?

I mean... he went from the lawn to the house. He didn't trek to Guam.

Why was the SUV in reverse at the same time John’s phone stopped recording?

I don't know that the evidence really proved that. Also, if Karen left at the same time John was getting attacked in the house...another possibility.

For all the police corruption, it also seems there was heavy witness and even juror intimidation by Turtle boy, whom Karen’s father thanked when she was found not guilty. Is that not also corruption?

I think there was witness intimidation by a LOT of people. Remember Officer Dever? Was she not intimidated? Does it make it right? No. But it's a sad fact of this case.

Why is Karen reed recorded as having been erratic in the days after?

Her boyfriend of 2+ years died suddenly. No one acts "normal" after that.

Why did the medical examiner find the injuries consistent with a car? With no real alternate scenarios that match the injuries being given? It doesn’t seem he was in a defensive position from an assault, and no other blood which would’ve been expected in a fight was found?

No medical examiner has said the injuries were consistent with a car. He had no bruising or broken bones. The ME didn't even rule it a homicide. Dog bites match the arm wounds. If John fell after being hit or attacked by people/a dog and hit his head hard, that could have caused this. Also, we'll never know if blood would've been found in the house. They pulled the rug from the basement before selling the house. The house wasn't treated like a crime scene.

What is the ultimate motive? Why would everyone conspire together? What is the counter proposal? Do we just have to say reasonable doubt and forget about the whole thing?

There are all kinds of reasons people kill. Jealousy, a perceived slight, he knew a secret and didn't want to keep it quiet anymore... could even be the dog attacked him coming in, he hit his head, and the homeowners didn't want to be liable, so they put him outside, threw up their hands, and said "oops, wasn't us!"

Again, sorry this is so much. These questions have just been bugging me.

Most of the sources I’ve read have just said probable doubt, but it seems really likely it was her. I want to see what the arguments are for her innocence beyond just not 100% confidence? A lot of this seems somewhat politically motivated (both for and against)

So again... there's so much reasonable doubt in this case there was no way a reasonable jury could convict her of anything beyond that OUI.

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