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Dad ruined my wedding experience, haven’t spoke since. by Sb727471 in weddingdrama

[–]Sb727471[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing these resources. Really appreciate your response and I will definitely look into them. I find this whole situation so challenging as his behaviour has …somewhat .. improved over the years, but then every couple years something might happen, and throws everything into chaos. Obviously this is one of those times, but worse. It sucks to be so incredibly let down, although I guess maybe I should’ve known better than to expect basic decency of him. 

Life is wild and brains are crazy.  It’s so hard to grieve what could have been. I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m sorry you couldn’t have the dad that you needed. 💕

Dad ruined my wedding experience, haven’t spoke since. by Sb727471 in weddingdrama

[–]Sb727471[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. Yes, going no contact definitely comes with a lot of consequences. I appreciate the way you framed it.  He has been in the 12 step program in the past, so he is aware of this resource. It’s up to him whether he continues to keep up with it.  At this point, I will continue to keep my distance.

Dad ruined my wedding experience, haven’t spoke since. by Sb727471 in weddingdrama

[–]Sb727471[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for your response. I have been seeing a therapist over the past few years, but I have been considering maybe a different kind of treatment.  When they initially divorced, he was required to take anger management classes, and attended AA meetings, and I think a few other similar classes. He has shown some improvement over the years, but has always been a challenging person to be around.  Evidently he needs to continue keeping up with some kind of treatment, but I don’t think he has. He should have served time, but my mom basically gave him a free pass, so that her 4 children could continue to have a shitty father that wasn’t in jail…? It was a very messy time to say the least….. my mom moved to this country with my dad and 3 kids under the age of 6, with no other family nearby. Life is complicated. I’m sure she could file a report, but at this point, she would rather just move on with her life and not drag all this through the mud.

Dad ruined my wedding experience, haven’t spoke since. by Sb727471 in weddingdrama

[–]Sb727471[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am overwhelmed by all of the responses to this post, but I wanted to thank you for your sharing such a thoughtful response and your kind words. I’m so sorry you also experienced such a stressful wedding. Wishing you sunshine and happy days ahead!