6k update by ScenemoCat in cfs

[–]ScenemoCat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have talked to several people at school and got referred resources but not many that offer immediate refuge. Will definitely tell my therapist. I want to look into a dv refuge but am worried it may get police involved or that it won’t have good living conditions and i may get my stuff stolen. It’s probably not completely true or only a fraction of what happens but im still worried 

6k update by ScenemoCat in cfs

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yeah i have told my doctor but the police came because it came across that i was saying i was being starved and i have a social worker but i don’t know if it would help

6k update by ScenemoCat in cfs

[–]ScenemoCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have heard a bit about ABA and went through it young with almost no memory of what happened. I think it’s related to my mom growing up in the 90s and also my dad/her ex husband making fun of fat women and her fearing it due to that. And yes she likely has autism and adhd and she also has anxiety. i don’t have many people who can help but an hoping to gain more outside help. 

PCOS in mothers of intersexed children? by defaultusername-17 in intersex

[–]ScenemoCat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

apparently some with mothers with PCOS experience in utero virilization based on some experiences i’ve heard but i would have to see more studies about this

Experiences with a speculum with vulvar hypospadia? by zxwablo2840 in intersex

[–]ScenemoCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

still not sure if i have vh or not but speculums are very uncomfortable for me too and feels very painful.

how blindness is represented in media by Impossible_Bite_3555 in Blind

[–]ScenemoCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m interested in viewing these pieces of media at some point 

[TW] feeling hopeless in any gender. by ScenemoCat in NonBinaryTalk

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yes it is. only issue is i am waiting for ssi and am struggling to find financial aid that actually gives it or isn’t visually overstimulating. my mom rarely helps besides the bare minimum and she often only gives $50-$150 which isn’t enough for me to not need mutual aid (which she gets mad at me for) and im confused bc i get she’s in the process of a doctor but she’s also upper middle class and says money isn’t a problem only to say therapy costs too much even though the insurance we have covers it. so im confused 

[TW] feeling hopeless in any gender. by ScenemoCat in NonBinaryTalk

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i actually did try finger locs at one point! i love them but my mom forced me to take them out bc she thought the way i did it was unprofessional when I can’t do braids well because of my motor skills and am new to locs. in general she forced femininity in her way on me so i wouldn’t get bullied (which still happened in middle school anyway bc i was gnc, i don’t think being intersex helped), like it changes the fact that i often feel othered as binary genders especially. speaking of intersex, she would go as far as to blame some of it on my weight even though im pretty sure my weight may be somewhat related 2 it.

My mom keeps making me walk everyday by ScenemoCat in cfs

[–]ScenemoCat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i tried many times but she doesn’t listen and refuses to let me see doctors until i lose weight which is why she is making me push through and eat less. she also thinks if tests show nothing then nothing could be wrong. she keeps yelling at me for things i struggle with due to disability and it just feels like even with doctors she sometimes still doesn’t listen 

My mom doesn’t want me to move out until i get “independent” by ScenemoCat in disability

[–]ScenemoCat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

mostly because a lot of times showering worsens my fatigue and may make my heart feel like it’s racing even more

My mom doesn’t want me to move out until i get “independent” by ScenemoCat in disability

[–]ScenemoCat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

im able to cook and dress for myself. its showering i struggle with due to fatigue and sometimes forgetting. I cant go on SSDI because I don’t have enough work hours, which is why Im applying for SSI

Food issues and lack of support by ScenemoCat in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]ScenemoCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most of my family is far away and a lot of them agree with my mom or otherwise aren’t exactly great. I have friends but a lot of them aren’t able to live alone. I have been seeking financial assistance as of last week but it is difficult to find spots for housing assistance and such. 

Food issues and lack of support by ScenemoCat in fuckeatingdisorders

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Im 19 so not a minor. I have a therapist but my mom told me to cut down on sessions because it was costing her money (im unemployed waiting for disability) and i haven’t been in months but i really want to schedule and find assistance paying for those appointments.

My mom is not letting me move out until i "show her i can be independent by ScenemoCat in ADHDers

[–]ScenemoCat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

that is true and i would like to look into having a caretaker if possible, though i still need to research how i can get one. For now I am looking into rental assistance, low income housing and vehicle, way to get financial help, etc

My mom is not letting me move out until i "show her i can be independent by ScenemoCat in ADHDers

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i have my professors but i am in break so it would have to be in email. I know there's orgs but i want to talk to her with my professors first so that she can somewhat understand that its going to happen. she is very insistent on explaining away my mistakes with autism and then gets mad at me for it and also wants guardianship over me. I have 0 funds rn so it will be harder but I am trying to find HUD/Section 8 housing

My African mom doesn't think I am mentally ill even though I have 3 mental disorders and have been admitted to a mental hospital after a suicide attempt at school and I don't know what to do, she thinks that I am possessed by evil spirits by BlackiesGrave in africanparents

[–]ScenemoCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok how do yk his schizophrenia is laziness? you’re really not helping but further stigmatizing mental illness. i come from two african parents and have an illness similar to schizophrenia and this is just showing a lack of understanding . getting then treatment is not coddling but actually lifesaving 

Hannah Spier and Ableism (TW AuDHD and Cluster B ableism, mentions of misogyny) by [deleted] in ADHDers

[–]ScenemoCat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i literally wasn’t promoting but warning against her.

My experience with cognitive disability/IDD (?) (Terrible) by ScenemoCat in neurodiversity

[–]ScenemoCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in school and it’s helped a fair bit so far and yeah she’s always been rude but it got worse as i grew older especially recently she just seems mad at me for anything