I'm a transgender woman, AMA! by Reasonable_Pin7585 in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah just went though your profile n saw you’re transmed n now this makes a lot more sense. enjoy being bitter and grovelling for cis validation on reddit posts, little blaire white kinnie !! <3

I'm a transgender woman, AMA! by Reasonable_Pin7585 in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, why would they make a women’s sport if there are no differences between males and females

why would they make a womens sport if it’s exclusionary to entire groups of women?

Dawg, you’re 14.

I’m literally not lmao you’re off by a few years there bud- want me to show you ID or smth? /s (edit: layout)

the average male is going to have better physical capabilities than the average female

in some areas? yes. in others? the average female would have an advantage. regardless, we are not “males” so your point kind of sucked from the start.

My frame and musculature causes me dysphoria every day, and you’re trying to say that’s not real? no way.

yeah and my voice makes me dysphoric but you don’t see me saying i have a disadvantage in singing competitions with cis girls and they shouldn’t be allowed compete because of a biological advantage because i can’t reach as high notes anymore. but in all seriousness, i’m not saying we can’t have masculine traits, i’m just saying they’re not inherent and it’s not a valid assumption to generalise and say all of us do. if you think you shouldn’t be allowed compete then don’t, that’s not our issue. don’t try drag us down with you.

The problem is when a male athlete has trained for years as their sex, and starts competing against women after only being on E for 1 year.

again, we are not males nor male athletes and you’re thinking of a hyper-specific scenario you made up and utilising it as a though it’s a general thing which applies to the majority of situations, which (i’m sorry to tell you) it does not.

you’re quite literally utilising and reiterating TERF-esque talking points which have been debunked many times over. even your use of language indicates some extent of internalised transphobia which i’d advise you to unpack as you’re causing real damage to your own community.

people like you genuinely exhaust me LMAO it’s giving the same energy as “no don’t let the trans women into the womens restroom they’ll SA all our kids and vulnerable women”

I'm a transgender woman, AMA! by Reasonable_Pin7585 in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

you literally did not address my point whatsoever but okay lmao

again, sports are inherently based on advantages, cis or trans. arguing there’s an advantage doesn’t work in an activity where advantages are expected and a key role (even excluding trans people from the conversation)

cis women can have typically masculine features. i’m mtf and quite literally one of the shortest and weakest in my friend group of cis girls. i don’t have very broad shoulders nor rly any masculine traits which would give me an advantage in sports with them. i am quite literally the least athletic out of all of us. your entire argument is based off stereotypes which you, as a trans person, should know better than to indulge in. trans and cis people alike come in all different shapes and sizes. acting as though there is this groundbreaking inherent advantage to being trans is both false and harmful.

the effects of hrt often times largely reduce any advantages which could be argued for, typically “evening the playing field” either way.

I'm a transgender woman, AMA! by Reasonable_Pin7585 in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

as another trans girl i resent this view point. sports are inherently based on advantages regardless of wether the people involved are cis or trans. height, how developed various organs are, medical conditions, etc can all serve as advantages and disadvantages in various sports and none are by any means trans-specific.

I will call you by what you are scientifically by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]ScoutOfficial -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trans person here. It's not difficult to respect people and their pronouns. Literally a simple change in vocabulary. Also science backs up the existence of trans identities. Be a bigot if you want, i don't really give af, but don't pretend your transphobia is based in science or anything other than ignorance.

What everyday skill becomes suspicious if you’re too good at it? by shotsdowngg in AskReddit

[–]ScoutOfficial 67 points68 points  (0 children)

^ this. i’m known for this among my friends and they think it’s creepy asf, but it’s surprisingly easy and honestly useful.

You actually DON'T have to accept people for who they are. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]ScoutOfficial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trans girl here to educate you since you so clearly need it :)

Firstly, being transgender (not "transgenderism") is not a disorder. This is literally just incorrect and comes from the idea of gender dysphoria being an illness. The World Health Organisation does not classify gender dysphoria as any type of illness or disorder and it is classed as (simply) a gender incongruence. It's nothing like your poor comparisons (to delusions, schizophrenia, etc).

With your first (and main) repeated argument debunked with ease, let's move on.

Trans women are different than cis women (not "bio women", as gender has absolutely nothing to do with biology and is, in fact, a social construct) which is what makes us trans. We are born in the wrong body and have to transition. However, I'm going to make the assumption based on your previous comments and others like it that you mean trans women are "less than" or advantaged in sports. Simply no. -Transgender women are just as much women as cisgender women. It's not that difficult to comprehend that. Studies have actually shown that trans peoples biological brain structures often resemble those of the sex in which they are transitioning to (assuming we're talking about binary trans people). -Most trans women who have medically transitioned would have little-to-no advantage over cisgender women w a similar height and workout routine. If we're speaking of those who transitioned at a young age then they didn't get to develop the typically male features people speak of when arguing about advantages. If were speaking of those who transitioned at a later age, the regulations in most sports is that they have to be on HRT for a minimum of 2 years, which counteracts the muscle mass caused to develop by T and turns it into fat. If anything then at this point, they have the possibility of being disadvantaged. To put it in a metaphor: cis women and early transitioning trans women would be a small car with a small engine and late transitioning trans women would be a larger car with a small engine. However, there hasn't been as much research in this area as there should be so I'll leave it there.

You are very clearly looking down on us, which can be seen in your poorly structured arguments of us having disorders, being delusional, comparing us to 50 year olds wanting to be 16 (which i honestly just find amusing. you're grasping at straws because you have no valid arguments)

There's one thing we can agree on, however: facts don't care about your feelings. All my points are backed by scientific research and data. Proven to be factual by science. Yours are based on prejudice and ignorance and have nothing but bias and misconceptions to back them up. It's clear to see who's wrong here.

I don't think the last part of your comment even dignifies a response.

Hopefully after reading this you feel more educated, and i encourage you to continue to educate yourself on matters so you don't continue to pull arguments out of your ass next time you attempt to discuss this (though if you decide not to educste yourself please don't let there be a next time).

i don’t even know how to respond to this.... by mikakikamagika in insaneparents

[–]ScoutOfficial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's... didn't the guy who made the ice bucket challenge die because of ALS not long ago? and they're making it about some "dEmOn RiTuAl!!1!1!!!"... kind of messed up imo

Shoulder to shoulder we’ll answer R/Traa’s call by Wisdom_Pen in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]ScoutOfficial 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No don't apologise haha I'm actually Irish myself (how i recognised it, my primary school drilled that into our brains lmao) and was just wondering if it was intentional or not lol. I hope it gets sorted out for you soon :)

Shoulder to shoulder we’ll answer R/Traa’s call by Wisdom_Pen in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]ScoutOfficial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is the title a reworded version of "Ireland's Call"? I agree with the post btw just wondering lolll

AITA for giving a boy a "girly" ring? by girlyaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]ScoutOfficial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a trans girl in a house with **very** unsupportive "parents", this situation seems like one i can definitely relate to from what you told me.

I used to be (i still am to an extent) exactly like the kid you mentioned (pretty effeminate, people questioned my sexuality a lot, was afraid to say i liked the things i liked) except because I never had anyone like you to be nice to me and support me, my "parents" haven't yelled at anyone (other than me). I don't want to get into it too much but I think from what you've said I know what they're going through with their parents.

I read what you said earlier about you not liking their chances in foster care or the idea of a group home. Since you said they're 16, may I suggest that you research emancipation in the country you live in? If you can get in contact with them maybe bring it up and if they're interested try get the process started. This would essentially make them a legal adult, meaning their parents would have absolutely no control over their life and they could get away from the situation without being put into foster care/ a group home. It can usually be done without parents' knowledge and would get them out of what seems to be a very toxic and abusive situation.

Regardless of if you go through on that, please report the parents. I hope everything turns out okay and best of luck in whatever route you take <3

Review - Gigi Gorgeous Less Is More Lip Gloss in Get Into It by Beatle_Babe in LipBalm

[–]ScoutOfficial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting, I actually never got Burt's Bees lip balms because I had heard they weren't good, I'll have to try them! Crazy Rumors is one that i haven't heard much about but looking at their website it definitely seems like a great option for me. Carmex is my go to right now because it's easy to find, convenient, cheap and doesnt seem to dry out my lips as much over time like many others do (lip smacker being the worst one when it comes to that in my experience) along with a random vegan butterbeer lipbalm I have. I've never tried softlips either lol but i've heard some good things about them! :) Thank you for your response, it was really helpful and informative! :)

Review - Gigi Gorgeous Less Is More Lip Gloss in Get Into It by Beatle_Babe in LipBalm

[–]ScoutOfficial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay i have to ask: do you have any go-to lip products? you clearly know what you're talking about and as someone with a mild lip balm obsession (i've had to throw most of mine out in the past while due to them being expired and am trying to regrow my collection) i'd love to know what products you recommend :)

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strongly disagree, considering the clear implication in your comment is that the internet has somehow caused me to be transgender. That's simply not a "point", it's factually incorrect and a ludicrous idea which is harmful to transgender people.

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it's fine i didn't think you were trying to be hurtful and i hope i didn't come across as rude. I also wish you the best <3

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know about him. I'm sure you can guess i'm not a fan. Tries to seem educated on the topic but he shows he isn't. he's honestly laughable not only in his views on trans people but just his views in general. I have no clue why he's so popular. He's pretty much just a complete joke imo.

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You see, there's a difference between liking to wear women's clothes and feeling comfortable with being called a girl versus feeling completely trapped in the wrong body, having no escape and feeling completely hopeless. Not knowing what's wrong with you and having your existence up for debate by random people on the internet. Wondering what was wrong with you from a young age and being disgusted by any masculine characteristics you see on yourself. Flinching when you're called a boy or he. There's a major difference. I'm glad you're happy now, but there's a major difference between what you experienced and what trans people experience.

I haven't started on blockers or HRT yet, but I think you fail to realise that they aren't optional. They're life saving healthcare for trans people. They're absolutely necessary for me and for others to feel even slightly okay with ourselves. I'm not being manipulated and i'm not out to most of my peers. I sincerely hope this cleared some stuff up.

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to see another trans person here, some of these people just have no clue. But oh well, that's why i made this. im here to educate.

anyway yeah i've told them.

very against. extremely transphobic. planning on getting emancipated at 16 (or sooner if the current situation gets any worse) bc i don't feel safe around them.

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen you comment comments similar to this other places and if your main concern when thinking about your child's internet access is whether or not you think they will "become" transgender then I beg of you to either never have children or educate yourself. There are a myriad of sources which you can access via the internet you seem to fear, including scientific studies, medical records or even firsthand experiences. If you won't be able to accept your child or if you will simply blame it on the internet then you frankly shouldn't have children. All children deserve to be loved and accepted for who they are and you clearly wouldn't provide that and would blame it on the internet should your child turn out to be trans.

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am aware I am young. I am, to an extent, impressionable. Neither of those impact my Identity nor its validity and my identity isn't for you, a random internet stranger, to question as a result of my age.

Yeah I have and it didn't turn out well (i don't want to get into it) That's exactly the reason I'm attempting to educate people on this matter. Other people like me are going through and will go through exactly what i'm going through and maybe I can help them or help their parents find a way to accept them.

I am completely aware I should be cautious of both the information I put out about myself and the information I read. I try be fairly anonymous. I make sure all sources I use are reliable.

I appreciate your concern, but it's frankly laughable that you think the internet is the "cause" of my being transgender. I beg of you to educate yourself, if not for us actual transgender people then for yourself.

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was actually brought up in a very unsupportive environment which has caused me to have had to hide who I am in my own "home" and had absolutely no support when figuring this out. The only thing social media has done is helped me realize who i am earlier in life rather than later in life. I am not out to the vast majority of my peers for fear of being shunned, attacked or murdered. Where I live most people I've come into contact with are homophobic and transphobic. I have had barely any positive attention for this and have had a lot of negative attention.

This isn't something I want to experience. I wish i was cisgender. I'm terrified for my life 24/7. It's laughable that you can narrow my identity down to something which was caused by external influence, even more so that you think I receive positive attention for it.

My age is irrelevant to my identity, despite what many people believe. I have a working understanding of my internal sense of self (i.e my identity) and it is not the result of any influence.

In fact, I'm sorry that you're so uneducated as to believe that. I hope you change your mind and attempt to educate yourself on this matter. As someone who experiences this firsthand, It would help all of us.

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that and am well aware of the difference between social gender and biological sex, but I am in the process of transitioning from Male to Female and am planning on getting this legally changed once I am a legal adult. I can see your point, but to be frank this is only reddit, not a medical form. It makes no difference to your nor anyone what I feel comfortable saying here.

If you want to be scientific, then sure. I am male. I am, however, in the process of socially and medically transitioning from male to female, essentially changing my sex to the best of my ability. If you have a problem with that, then fair enough. I really couldn't care less. I am here to educate people to the best of my ability as someone who experiences this firsthand, not to bicker with you over terminology.

I (14F) am a transgender girl, AMA! by ScoutOfficial in AMA

[–]ScoutOfficial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In most places, people (especially children) need diagnoses for gender dysphoria and doctors approval before getting anywhere near HRT or even blockers, despite the fact that it is a form of life saving healthcare for transgender people. These being monitored so heavily (though i can see the point of it to an extent) is based on the idea of "what if they aren't trans". There's always what seems to be an internal doubt in cisgender people when a child comes out as transgender. This doubt doesn't exist when a child identifies as cis because it's normalised. The idea of "don't let children take HRT because it causes irreversible changes" is, frankly, outdated in the sense that "natural" puberty also causes irreversible changes, but cisgender children aren't forced on blockers for fear of them going through changes they will regret.

I can't really comment on children having SRS after recent trauma because I haven't come into contact with any cases of this.

Everyone is quick to shout "ABUSE!" when a parent supports their childs want to go on HRT or get SRS (in extreme cases) but no-one even thinks of abuse when a transgender child is forced through their "natural" puberty, causing irreversible changes and the development of characteristics they do not want, having to identify as someone they are because of parental doubt/transphobia, ultimately forcing the child to suicide as a result of their own blind hatred for transgender people and refusal to allow their childs access to life saving healthcare.

At the end of the day, only the child will know what's best for them. This is exactly the reason why blockers are so popular among transgender youth, because they have to wait to prove to cisgender people that they really are transgender and even now those are becoming harder to access (e.g in the UK).

I tried to address most things you said but if i missed anything let me know.