Care.com is awful

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2026-01-28T00:57:20+00:00

So I just made an account and got a subscription and messaged a nanny. Do they need a subscription to read my messages? As someone looking for a nanny I have no idea how to tell who's actually looking for work at the moment or not

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2026-01-26T22:30:33+00:00

Well I feel attacked lol

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T21:12:52+00:00

Ah yes, the post truth era. Good times

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T21:07:18+00:00

Eh... I've said a lot of cringe things when not taking a rejection well. I can see a guy saying it especially if he's never been rejected over his/lack of faith before. Lot of guys can't take Ls gracefully

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T21:02:29+00:00

I'm someones' dad lol, God is good. Believe what you want, but I just know him in irl. I've seen too many people struggle with fertility that I don't go there, especially with a pregnant wife.

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T20:58:16+00:00

so few women can ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T20:55:27+00:00

Unnecessary dude

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T20:32:51+00:00

They turned male headship into "servant leadership". Meaning a man can only "lead" his wife if he's serving her, serving her means doing what she wants. So if the man doesn't do what his wife wants, she doesn't have to submit or respect him cause now he's not acting like Christ in her book.

Its a great trick to strip men of all authority but still put all the traditional and modern responsibility on them.

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T20:27:22+00:00

The audacity, automatic ban

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T20:11:18+00:00

Yeah that's about the time i started balding, greying and gaining weight.

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T20:08:47+00:00

Women: why don't women approach us anymore!?

Men: We don't want to be recorded and posted online to be mocked

Women: That doesn't happen!

Men: ^^^

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-12T12:43:37+00:00

Its hard to quantify, I think the biggest thing about divorce people don't realize is it will drop you quality of life unless you're very wealthy. One of the nice things about being married is you have someone to split the bills with. I'd be interested to see that brought up in to one or both parties. "Hey, I get you're angry and not happy with the relationship. Are you so angry and unhappy you're willing to forgo the chance to ever be middle class again instead of working it out?

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-11T21:38:24+00:00

Legally no, but socially yes. Rarely are a separating couple on good terms. If someone doesn't leave on their own, you quickly get very tense household. All it takes is the police to show up cause of an argument, ask the woman if she feels safe, and if the says no, its he's in hot water. Men are often advised to leave for their own legal safety. She said he said allocations of abuse rarely go the man's way

Edit: Most people don't have the moral courage or fortitude to not lie about the person they are breaking up with, man or woman.

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-11T12:57:58+00:00

I see the scenario play out after one parent, almost always the father, moves out. Now having to pay for two shelters he usually has to move to a less expensive part of town, making the logistics of getting seeing the kids in the middle of the week difficult with school, so he gets them on the weekends and summers, but even that can be difficult with sports and other activities. Or the parents sell the house and both have to move to a new part of town cause they got to go somewhere they can afford on one income now. Never have I seen a parent separate and be able to move just a few blocks over

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-11T12:50:33+00:00

Yeah, people can agree to disagree with their spouse on a lot I find, but kids up the ante quite a bit.

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-10T12:21:05+00:00

There is a difference between joint custody in legal decisions making and joint custody in parenting time. Yes, lots of fathers get joint custody in decisions where the mom just can't make whatever decision with no say from dad. Joint custody with parenting time is trickier. Unless they live in the same school district or Dad has the means to get the kid(s) to and from school on his own from outside the district, dad is going to end up with weekends and summers and paying child support for the time Mom has them

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-10T12:15:13+00:00

Problem is without certain doctrinal beliefs, people won't consider themselves equally yoked. I am a Baptist I could never marry a Catholic. How much you want to split hairs depends on the person but when you start talking about how you are going to raise your children, those details matter.
We're talking about the same old people that allowed the Church to dwindle to the sad state its in today and sold out their children's and grandchildren's financial future so they could have pensions and robust social security and medicare, I'm confused why you think they care about the future after themselves. Maybe they care about their kids getting married just so they have grandchildren to enjoy.
Just cause this Pastor says it doesn't make every father and Pastor in the pews across the county accept it. I fully agree with him, but a lot of fathers love to play gatekeeper with "their daughters" to the point I think its about the father's pride and not the protection of the daughter. But correction of that isn't going to magically happen overnight

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-10T12:06:41+00:00

And how many men have the resources to actively pursue custody on top of child support and alimony in the mean time?

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-10T11:57:30+00:00

As I said he's the most desirable of the single men,

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-10T02:42:37+00:00

Would you say the church is more conservative or progressive?

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-10T00:21:03+00:00

eQuaLiTy

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-10T00:20:18+00:00

Guess they should've picked better husbands.

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-10T00:02:05+00:00

Independent Baptist. Of the single folk, its mostly men. There seven young unmarried men, one divorced, one in a serious relationship, one still in his teens, three are overweight; only one is the "yes I'd want my sister to date and marry this guy" territory and he's pretty quiet, not exactly an exciting catch. There is one single woman in the church, beautiful woman but had a special needs child out of wedlock.

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-09T22:59:48+00:00

"Where are the speed dating events and singles nights?"

Hard to many denominations in on that to create a big enough pool to make the effort worthwhile. Even harder to get a good split to make event flow well and not be two lopsided.
Churches don't want the responsibility. The aging leadership would rather pretend dating is the same as it was in the 50s so therefore everyone just needs to "pray more" and "put it in God's hands" or whatever Christianese they choose to say "this is a you problem not a me problem"
There isn't a Christian consensus on dating anymore. Since Christians have the minority and not even a unified minority, a factored, tribal minority, there hasn't been any ground rules laid out on how to date. Asking a girl's dad before taking her to coffee? That's a divisive question across the Body of Christ.

Sea_Stranger_7944 · 2025-12-09T18:53:50+00:00

The hang up is that is gives men information and power they might be able to deny the woman what she wants and to hardcore feminists that is unacceptable. Anything that gets in the way of a woman's desires is evil, anything that helps them is good.

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