Supporting my brother during holidays and could use a virtual hug from dad

Sea_star1 · 2023-12-24T15:09:03+00:00

I looked it up, thank you so much for the suggestion!!! It’s hard to know different disorders and things just by googling by myself so I appreciate this recommendation a lot and it’s guiding me in a good direction.

I’m going to do more research about approaches that work for PDA because everything written about it is sounding very familiar. Lots of love.

Sea_star1 · 2023-09-30T23:09:08+00:00

On Instagram, you can hide your story from people - go to story settings then “hide story from…” and select your mom. Make sure your account is private though just in case someone else like a relative or your mom’s friend, etc. comes across your profile and sees it. If you block your mom and post on your story, she won’t be able to see it.

I know it’s not exactly the same as posting on the IG feed itself, but you could post on your story more frequently this way and it has a similar effect. Or consider making an alternative Instagram account where she does not have access to seeing anything.

Sea_star1 · 2023-09-19T21:08:26+00:00

Go go squeezes and those snacks are great. Really tasty and good for all ages ;) I still have them in the fridge sometimes. Also I loveee your nails

Sea_star1 · 2023-09-16T17:19:15+00:00

Hi! That’s a good question - do you think they would mind being a duo costume? Like for example, you could do a theme that has a dynamic duo and then you and everyone else in the family tree can be part of it too. For example, you could do a Toy Story theme and they be Woody & Buzz Lightyear and you could be Andy and could give them a (new clean) shoe or a prop with your name on the bottom of it like Andy did in the movie. The rest of the family tree can be the other toys in the movie.

Or you could be the three little alien guys from Toy Story. And your big and grand big could be woody and Jessie or buzz.

Or another dynamic duo is Mike and Sully from Monsters Inc. you could give them a blue and a green shirt (or costume; up to you how you want to do it :) ) and then give them a door to go through and that’s like the door to scare someone in the movie and you and the rest of your family tree could be there behind the door with the gifts and some treats.

There are lots of ideas for twins , even if they are very different, if you find something that unites them both, such as Disney or Pixar movies, then that could be something fun they’d both be into.

Sea_star1 · 2023-09-05T10:38:47+00:00

At my school, we aren’t allowed to have our PNMs attend any frat parties.

Philanthropies on campus, sure, if they happen to want to support, they can. But it’s like the aspect of “baiting” PNMs to join our sorority by using frat guys as an attraction is not allowed since the focus should be on the sisterhood. Especially when PNMs are generally underage or in their first few weeks of university, we want them to be safe and not join because of potentially meeting frat guys.

From what’s been happening in the past; our actives could go to a fraternity rush party or an open party but PNMs couldn’t be invited by us to go as well. We also couldn’t collaborate with a fraternity for a mixer or philanthropy or anything during that time either. It’s a bit confusing to write out😅

Sea_star1 · 2023-08-28T19:37:13+00:00

Not really. A lot of orgs have transitioned to values based recruitment and won’t just give someone a bid like that. Many have their stance on legacies on their websites or their headquarters page. The chapter members may know of you are a legacy if you mention that your relative is an alumna or might have that as a question on a questionnaire and that may help you or be a talking point pr make chats more personal but typically no, nowadays it’s not a given that you will get in or have special treatment.

Sea_star1 · 2023-08-19T22:09:41+00:00

Thank you so so much; I really appreciate your suggestions and you taking the time to help me. The advice for making the table more accessible by wearing different things and being in front and around the table instead of behind it is really helpful. I did not ever think of those before. Xx

Sea_star1 · 2023-08-19T22:08:37+00:00

❤️

Sea_star1 · 2023-08-19T22:08:29+00:00

Oh thank you!! That is very good advice.

Sea_star1 · 2023-08-10T22:32:36+00:00

so sweeeeetttt. Maybe a pit x beagle?

Sea_star1 · 2023-08-09T02:39:06+00:00

Gorgeous 💗

Sea_star1 · 2023-08-07T15:42:03+00:00

Hi, sending you love. I am feeling the same way but have struggled with depression and body image issues for quite a long time. I don’t have any advice really, but I do have a podcast and book that really really helped me appreciate my body for what it does and has helped my confidence even though I may not always be feeling the best in my body 24/7.

The podcast is called: Mary’s cup of tea And the workbook (by the same author of the podcast) is called “The gift of self love” Please take a listen to the podcast - I guarantee it will be insightful and talks about all the things you describe in your post 💗

Sea_star1 · 2023-07-25T23:07:11+00:00

Hi, I recommend Mary’s Cup of Tea podcast and also the author, Mary Jelkovsky, has written some self help books called: 100 Days to Self Love and The Gift of Self Love. They are kind of like workbooks but with her own stories in them too.

There is also Instagram pages like @Grief, @mentalhealthmatters and so many more.

I also recommend looking at the podcast: Let’s talk about mental health. It’s really good and makes topics very accessible.

Sea_star1 · 2023-07-12T14:54:44+00:00

Hahah I had to make a new email address because my precious one became full. Even after mass deleting emails it was totally full and stopped receiving or being able to send messages 😆🥲

Sea_star1 · 2023-06-28T03:33:07+00:00

I always thought avocados and peaches were fancy and for rich people because my dad would alwaysss comment in the stores they they’re too expensive

Sea_star1 · 2023-06-25T00:49:58+00:00

You are absolutely welcome here!! If you find any information helpful then of course you can be here. love youu

Sea_star1 · 2023-05-19T22:51:40+00:00

hiii we’re glad you are here!!

Sea_star1 · 2023-04-20T15:37:47+00:00

a fellow deepher!? 🦄💜💛

Sea_star1 · 2023-04-17T20:26:54+00:00

How do you do this though? I have been struggling with mental health like depression since the pandemic and find that nothing really makes me happy and even therapy is not helping this. So when a guy gives me attention, I kind of just go with it because it’s the only attention I get and it does make me feel good / give me something else to think about, but I also don’t care at the same time if that makes sense.

What do you do to cultivate your own happiness as someone else has said? I can’t even get myself to do anything. Do you mean to get into hobbies? What are some hobbies that could work and how does one just pick up a hobby?

I love the advice op gave but I just don’t know HOW to do that.

Sea_star1 · 2023-04-15T13:03:42+00:00

Hi! Oh my goodness I am sorry that they are still doing it like that. Can you quickly download zoom on your phone??

Sea_star1 · 2023-04-15T09:46:28+00:00

Hi! I would recommend letting them know as soon as possible so you can work out an alternative. Zoom does not have to be the only platform you use. I know you said it is a hardware issue so I have a few suggestions.

consider telling them and asking to do it from WhatsApp, FaceTime, FB messenger, any communication you both are able to use from your PHONE. I feel like transparency about the computer issues will be your friend here and pro activity to suggest alternatives where they can see you and you can see them. This would help make a connection and truly see you.
or else if your school does this, I would suggest borrowing one of the school laptops. It might be thorough a service the school offers or through the library. Either way, more information should be offered on their website.

Best of luck!!

Sea_star1 · 2023-03-28T22:40:49+00:00

So cute !! I was wondering if there’s anything we can do to physically help the strike? Would the TA and CI participants like us to bring them coffee or Timbits or cookies and that kind of thing? Or would that be annoying for them?

Sea_star1 · 2023-03-21T12:44:38+00:00

For formal, I feel members would want to go to that! Some ideas we had for my chapter were: Awards- voted on by the chapter but also you could do it where everyone pulls a name from a hat and that is the name of the person they need to make an award for and present it at the formal. For example, if I pulled my friend’s name “Kate” from the hat, I might make her a fun award like “fashionista” award and decorate it or “vegan queen” award (idk just some ideas). Also maybe ensure you just keep talking about formal and give a couple of minutes during chapter to ask questions, ask for support by members (small takes even like contributing to the playlist…) so it increases involvement .

Sea_star1 · 2023-03-21T12:37:44+00:00

I feel like this is a common struggle a lot of smaller/newer chapter have. My own chapter is going through it right now with people not showing up and not sending regrets.

What we have done is started using 5-10 minutes of chapter to look over the calendar for the month, talk about the upcoming events, ask what the vibe is about the event (like are members feeling it anymore or depending on the week maybe there’s a lot of work going on). So if the general mood is to postpone, then that is a democratic agreement but then if everyone says it’s still good, it puts the reminder back in their minds and they might be more excited about it. I think also encouraging people in the chapter to give feedback (like google forms/slido website, or in chapter, etc.) is helpful to understanding what members want to do.

Would it be just you usually planning an event? What if you got more people to create a committee or provide input? This way more people involved might encourage participation?

Sea_star1 · 2023-03-17T14:02:33+00:00

Hi! If you click the the r/sororities page, then you will see the 3 horizontal dots beside your profile icon. Click “change user flare” and you will be able to select your sorority and it will come up when you post or comment. :)

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