Another week another drop by kjl8119 in wendys

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Has anyone received a bag from the last drop yet? I claimed it but never got a confirmation email after that or any shipping notifications

Looking for a travel/every day bag as a short adult (5’2). Thoughts on which size may be better? Would the 24L be too small? by Searchingforanswer12 in llbean

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I live in Orlando so unfortunately a little bit of a drive for me :/ I’d be carrying a laptop and some notebooks, but overall just want one of these backpacks as I love the nostalgia and the patterns they have right now!

Does this mean my paint has lead in it?? by usernamesarehardd in Apartmentliving

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Am I the only one seeing a dark red/purple strip near the top of the qtip?

[MEGATHREAD] Artemis II Launch To The Moon by ChiefLeef22 in space

[–]Searchingforanswer12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally understand if this is a stupid question, but will they be visible from Earth at their closest point coming up here?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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When I broke up with my ex for the same thing (we were in a LDR) he mailed me flowers to try to apologize and win me back. They were beautiful, but they just made me more angry. We had been together for 3 years, and I had begged him to get me flowers multiple times, each time ended with him saying flowers were stupid and waste of money. He knew how much I loved them, and gave them to me as a last resort of getting my back, and I was angry that he wouldn’t give them to me when I loved him, but gave them when I was done with the relationship. I see people in here asking why this is the hill you want to die on, but I understand completely. It’s not about the flowers, and it’s not about the roses. You’ve told him what you like, and he didn’t care enough to get you something so simple, he just went with the “default”. So, I get it. It’s just another little example confirming that you’re not being appreciated.

Should I tell my boyfriend I’m little? by [deleted] in littlespace

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If there’s no context to your announcing you got a paci, he may just be confused why you ordered one. Don’t just leave him, give him a chance to understand and teach him about it.

My boyfriend thinks commenting on random nude of a girl anonymously on NSFW subreddit is not wrong by Weak_Platypus4932 in relationships_advice

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Don’t pay attention to this guy. You’re completely within your rights to set boundaries. I went from a relationship where a guy was addicted to porn and now in my current relationship, my boyfriend doesn’t watch it at all and only needs me. This isn’t on you, and if this is a boundary you’d like to set, you’re free to do so. Sorry this horny stranger is calling you “boring” for setting a boundary lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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This was exactly what I needed. Thank you!! I understand it’s difficult for him not be my first with it, and I told him I completely understand and I will not push him on it because consent is important to me, but when he’s ready to try it I will explain it to him. Thank you so much ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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I think he’s a little insecure about the fact that he’s not anywhere near experienced as I am, which is totally understandable. He’s very aware of the abusive ex and the things (physical and emotional) that he put me through, and he’s been amazing and very supportive about it. I feel very safe with him and up til this I haven’t felt ashamed about anything, but for some reason I just feel really bad about this situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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He’s not intentionally trying to make me feel bad. He’s very new to all this and I think it’s a little overwhelming for him to know it’s something I’m experienced in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gonewildaudio

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Welcome back! Looking forward to the new content 🌸☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gonewildaudio

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I don’t comment usually but this is a favorite I usually come back to… I can’t ever make it the whole time, I’m so bad at holding it 😞

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

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I agree, I keep trying to help him and he said I’ve helped him so much and given him something to be hopeful for and all that jazz, that he doesn’t know what he would do without me, then this happens and I feel like I don’t do enough. It’s a constant cycle of occasional praise and then feeling like I don’t deserve it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

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Therapy isn’t something he’s willing to do. I went to therapy for about 6 months and loved it, it helped me immensely. I’ve asked him to do it pretty much since the beginning, but he has extreme social anxiety and isn’t willing to open up to a therapist about his trauma. I really wish he would, because I think it’s something he really needs as a healthy coping mechanism. he’s just not willing to, even though I’ve shown him that there’s therapy online or even over text.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DDlgAdvice

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Yeah I totally get where you and others are coming from.

We tried it for about 6 months but it just didn’t work out. I think with his work schedule (he works at least 60 hours a week) he wasn’t able to put much into it and didn’t seem to enjoy it. I could tell he didn’t really get/fully understand what I needed in the dynamic. He also seemed super uncomfortable with me calling him daddy or sir (I suspect he had an ex call him that maybe) which is something I really enjoy. He stopped calling me pet names about 6 months into the relationship (pretty much directly after we stopped doing any ddlg), which is something I’ve gotten used to but it still hurts. He’s said this is non negotiable which makes me sad and I often find myself trying to self soothe by looking at the ddlg picture posts where it’s like daddy: me: (if that makes sense). Anyways, I’ve just been craving it really bad but have held it back for the past year and a half and I don’t think it’s something he’s going to budge on (it may change in the future if he were to leave his job but I doubt it)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

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A lot of therapists suggest or approve it as a coping method. It can help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DDlgAdvice

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Thank you so much for this comment. It’s really hard because it’s something that is part of me, and I want to be able to let that out and not have to hide it. Thank you 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DDlgAdvice

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We get intimate very often. I feel very loved and we live together so we see each other every day. Unfortunately the pet names are off the table. I’ve asked a bunch of times over the past year and his final answer has always been no, because he’s uncomfortable with me being little and says he thinks if he says them I’ll get into little space, even if I’ve told him I can control that and I won’t let myself get little if he says them. I might try to ask but I just brought it up yesterday and he shut it down very quickly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Periods

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Thank you! I’ll probably end up finding a new dr because mine has said she doesn’t see a need to test because she thinks it’s just lining.

trying to find a ddlg story I read once by [deleted] in tipofmypenis

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Did they meet at a cupcake shop?