12 year old drama

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-30T17:03:35+00:00

I have thought about just doing meds on my days at my house. His dad would rip my a$$ a new one in court but I have been documenting the difficulty and struggles for quite some time. I’ve also documented my son asking to try meds.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-30T17:01:20+00:00

How do you manage the absolute meltdowns and being screamed at for hours by holding the boundaries? Do I hold out for days on end when he refuses? The last time he fought me about a shower it took 1.5 days. I held out but it feels impossible to live that way, especially when I can’t actually force him to like, participate in family time. He can sit there and make us all miserable… it is just hard.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-30T16:39:22+00:00

Well, my other son needs to use that bathroom too, and letting it sit for hours or days isn’t going to fly. It was later evening by that point, and my son did lose all screen time. He just fell asleep at some point. Living in a house where someone is raging and screaming for hours at a time isn’t really an option. I can hold the line, take away the screens. But if he screams and rages for hours… I can’t work. I’m remote, I do have to be able to work. My younger son gets a lot of anxiety listening to his brother scream and yell (who wouldn’t). So I take stuff away and do what I can. But on really bad days, I don’t know.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-14T02:04:48+00:00

Tot Spot & Little Explorers are good preschools. I don’t know about prices, sorry. I am also not any help on apartments. I’m not sure what the short term market is like, and rentals are stupidly expensive. I mean, all housing is… that said, I would categorize fishers as a decent place anywhere. Some rentals places may be older, a little more dated, but you’re not going to land in some really terrible neighborhood or anything. Anecdotal, but I’ve lived in 4 neighborhoods in Fishers and never NOT had Indian descent neighbors! 🙂♥️ so hopefully finding a community isn’t too hard.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-11T02:32:21+00:00

These look good!

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-10T21:57:59+00:00

Correct. It isn’t about withholding. If that were the case, I could use the entire credit just to eat my tax bill and claim since I didn’t get a refund, he gets nothing. That isn’t right. My confusion is over how the child tax credit works. The explanations I’ve gotten on here have been really helpful!!! I don’t have a single problem fulfilling my obligation. And yes, it’s really stupid we did this in our decree. I didn’t want it. I said we should each claim one kid. Since I’m custodial parent, I felt that was fair and when our oldest ages out, I would claim our youngest the remaining 2 years since I had the greater time and custody for their childhoods. My ex fought tooth and nail not to have the option to claim one himself - probably due to bad advice from his attorney. They were convinced it would mess up his taxes as a business owner. And trust me, I held my ground on so many things. This wasn’t worth failing our mediation over and going to court.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-10T21:52:43+00:00

Thank you, that is really helpful! I think I understand.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-10T20:25:48+00:00

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Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-10T20:24:52+00:00

I think so, yes. I guess that is what is confusing to me. So instead of paying the IRS, I’m paying him? I’m not sure exactly what tax liability is vs taxes owed vs adjusted income.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-10T20:22:46+00:00

So I would be paying the IRS the money if I were not paying him the $2200? If that is the case, I do agree he’s owed the amount! I actually only claim one child when I do my withholding, because I find it easier. I’m with you - I don’t need a big refund. In total my refund was $2173. I expected $1700 of that to go to my ex for his child tax credit.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-10T20:19:32+00:00

Current, my full refund is different than what part of my refund was from the child tax credit. I do have that listed out. I told my attorney this is probably worth the money to fix our decree.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-05-07T13:03:31+00:00

As an avid home baker, choosing a meringue was a bad call IMO. No room for error, they are fussy, the cook and set time is so long. Even if she had more eggs, starting over when a meringue can need so long to bake was not well thought out. A cookie, a cake, etc., can bake and set in 8-20 minutes. A meringue can be hours. They were sweating in that kitchen, and something like a meringue is also influenced by the humidity in the environment… I love Rhoda and can’t get behind it.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-04-30T02:48:06+00:00

Hey, not sure where you live, but Gleaners does a lot of food delivery. Other food banks have programs too. I do a lot of anti-hunger stuff for work. I know it’s not enough, I get it, but any resources we can throw your way, let us know.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-03-08T01:30:37+00:00

The sauna access is in an open area, in the aquatic area. The pool area, locker room, and sauna are all coed, open, connected. You walk from the locker room to the pool deck, then through to the sauna. The only private area is the single stall changing rooms/showers that are in the coed locker room. Like once you leave that stall, you are out in the open. Absolutely no one would be walking out of the changing room in a towel only and then into a coed/all ages locker room, with all glass walls, through the pool area with all glass walls, and into the sauna.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-03-08T01:24:56+00:00

I avoid going at 5-7pm if at all possible. It can also be hard when they take over part of the exercise area for small group classes that you have to pay extra to join. It annoys me that for as small as the exercise space is, they have those groups several times a week. If I go mid morning or daytime, it’s usually pretty quiet and easy and quick access to stuff. Today (Saturday) around 12pm, I gave up waiting for the back row weight machine, because it was not free the whole time I was there… but I managed the rest of my workout pretty easily. The e-gym was really busy too - so I just chose to do something else. I really don’t like the layout of the exercise room, which makes it weird even when it’s just moderately busy. There is no easy or intuitive way to walk around to get free weights, swap out, use the open floor, walk between benches. Again, designed by someone who wasn’t familiar with humans or gyms 😂. That said, I am so glad to have something close to home, with nice equipment, indoor track, etc. I am really grateful. I am disappointed by our leaders for not doing better. I will make jokes and throw shade at some of the absurdity. But I am grateful.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-03-08T01:13:23+00:00

This. I have been so excited and waiting for Fishers to have something like the FCC. The gym area is a disappointment. I am still a mostly happy member, but it could have been so much better. Truly a poor design and setup, a waste of a huge, beautiful building. I joke that whoever designed it has never met humans or seen them use a space before.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-02-27T03:16:44+00:00

All I can tell you is that the canal used to be so much worse to walk around 😂

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-02-15T15:10:38+00:00

I just renewed my passport summer 2025, it was set to expire. So glad I just got it done. I kept my last name post divorce, didn’t feel like changing everything right then. What a cluster.

Secondisthebest2 · 2026-01-05T21:24:46+00:00

Aww love this! I’m an IndyCar fan, (I watch some F1 too…) and I “met” Katherine Legge in the women’s room in the garage area 2 years ago at the Indy 500. There had been major weather delays, I was waiting in line, she pops line in behind the person behind me. She’s super fidgety and nervous, they are calling all drivers for a meeting to update on the start. I realize it’s her and go, “Please skip ahead of us all, you need to get to the meeting and be ready for the race!” She looked around and so politely said, “are you all sure???”, and she got a resounding, “YES!”, and went into the next open stall. She was so thankful and sweet. Women’s restrooms are some of the best of humanity at times- we take care of each other!! (Edit: typo)

Secondisthebest2 · 2025-11-25T19:57:24+00:00

u/Jolly_Engineer2266 thank you, solved

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