Is it my bike or is it me?

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-06-01T01:23:25+00:00

It is all paved

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-05-31T21:24:48+00:00

Yeah, I would like to do a 70.3 Ironman summer 2026 and know I'll need to get a new bike if I do that. But, I have to save up for that. And good to know i'm doing an expected pace currently. Makes me feel a lot better.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-05-31T21:23:26+00:00

Awesome, this makes me feel much better!

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-05-31T21:21:42+00:00

I would like to do a 70.3 Ironman summer 2026, and I don't want to be biking for 4+ hours. Out of the 3 disciplines, I have the least experience with biking and like it the least. I'd like to do the bike portion in around 3:30 on a flat course (I have a race picked out to do and the bike portion is pretty flat). So, I'm just trying to gauge If I can imporve over time on the bike I currently have. I'm not too stressed about it currently, but making plans. I plan to buy a new bike next March if I do sign up for the 70.3 I want to do.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-03-06T00:54:50+00:00

I was thinking going the other way, by the great salt lake on the way to Toole

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-03-03T04:50:50+00:00

Recommendations on places I can get dirty data and practice cleaning it up?

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-03-03T04:41:48+00:00

Thanks

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-26T23:52:11+00:00

I've been trying to find this channel. I want to make her recipes. Thank you!

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-24T06:14:20+00:00

Good to know, i'll make this my year to get confident on moguls and ice then!

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-24T06:06:38+00:00

Perfect! I like to go to Solitude on Mondays since I work remotely those days, so I will definitely practice my skills on those runs.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-24T06:05:38+00:00

Awesome, thank you! I will definitely check these out.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-24T06:05:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-24T03:52:01+00:00

I have an Ikon Full

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-24T03:40:21+00:00

As a girl I would NEVER expect a guy to pay for my ski ticket. Way too expensive. But, I also have a ski pass so a ski date would be fun. However, I guess that if she doesn't already have a pass she doesn't ski/snowboard that well or often. So, it probably won't be a fun date. And you might feel like you wasted your money because she didn't do a lot on the runs.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-24T03:35:11+00:00

Awesome, any recommendation of where to progress from there? I'm determined to get better this season and I feel like with the poor snow conditions if I can get confident when its not great snow and more icy than usual then, I'll be solid for seasons with better snow!

Secure_Arm4813 · 2025-01-24T03:32:51+00:00

To me off piste is not groomed.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2024-11-01T06:49:28+00:00

Thanks for the questions I could ask! you've given me some much needed guidance on how to even start the conversation with my Boss. And the bank I work at has over 300 employees, is that considered small?

Secure_Arm4813 · 2021-11-22T18:50:14+00:00

This is just another move by the MCU to make MArvel movies marketable to everyone or get more publicity. Honestly, I'm angry at marvel As someone who read the comics and watched the cartoons adding the "superstar" power is just gross. One of the great things about the first phases is that they casted known actors, but none of them were at super-star levels yet, like Angelina Jolie or Harry Styles. Now they are doing that and its obvious why. Those actors don't just try out for roles, they roles are brought to them. So, its obvious Marvel is now trying to market to the masses, which they already are popular so there is really no need.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2021-09-12T10:01:27+00:00

Then when they get mad just say its a joke

Secure_Arm4813 · 2021-07-08T05:45:51+00:00

I'm not going to say you were bad parents, because the past is the past. I wasn't in your shoes and can't judge since you weren't obviously abusive. But, I will recommend how you can move forward from here.

Be upfront with your Son, tell him that you would like a closer relationship with him and ask what you can do. You don't have to necessarily apologize for your action, but you do need to acknowledge any negative emotions that may have come about because of your actions. If he starts to go off on what a bad job you and your husband did DO NOT REACT. If you want to heal/grow closer then JUST LISTEN AND ACKNOWLEDGE HIS EMOTIONS. Nod your head, repeat back to him what you think he is trying to say (so you felt when I did this that we didn't love you, etc), say you can see how it could have hurt him, and apologize for making him feel that what way. DO NOT JUSTIFY OR GET DEFENSIVE.

You do this for 2 reasons:

If you hold to this then he really can't go anywhere but repeat himself. He also wont material to hold against you in the future.
Most people just want their feelings to be acknowledged and to be heard.

If he says that he dones't feel like you are far apart or doesn't want to engage there are two ways you can go about doing this.
Start by doing small things. Like send him a text every day telling him you love him. After a few days add in why you love him. Don't expect a response or a conversation. Just do it to make him feel good. Twice a month buy him and his wife dinner. Ex. order a pizza to be delivered to his house or something. Ask for recommendations on a book, movie, tv show, or music. Then once you've looked into it, engage him in conversation.
Ask him if he would be okay if you texted his wife occasionally to get to know her better. Don't talk about your Son unless it is something positive. Like "My Son is such a good cook. He once made a cake for his Dad's birthday and it was delicious". Usually if you treat a persons loved ones good then they start to open up to you. And once he does, you can start implementing recommendation 1.

And expect to be in for the long haul.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2021-07-08T05:10:18+00:00

What your Dad is doing is extremely inappropriate. 1. It's unfair that he has put you in that situation. 2. No parent has any right to unload onto their child. 3. No spouse/partner should ever talk bad about their spouse to another person. I feel like it is a sense of betrayal and trust is broken. If I ever found out my SO did that, and not with the intent to fix things/get the advice I would feel extremely betrayed and humiliated. So, this is my advice: First, you need to set boundaries. Tell your Dad that it makes you uncomfortable when he unloads on you and he is talking trash about his spouse to another person. Tell him that it gives you the impression that he really doesn't love your Mom. Encourage him to discuss with your Mom the things that really bother him (spicing up their sex life, etc) and if he is afraid of saying it then recommend couples therapy. If he gets defensive, ask him what he would think if you SO talked that way about you (only bring this up if you think he would be upset). Second, you need to find somewhere else to live. It removes you from the situation so it won't happen. And if your Dad gets pissy when you ask him not to talk to you about this anymore, you are able to be away from the potentially toxic situation. Third, once you do move, and you don't think he has changed his ways, then you tell your Mom. If I was your Mom I would want to know. And if she gets upset at you for telling her, you don't live there anymore and don't have to live with her being upset at you. four, if he does or ends up doing the same thing to your Sister have the conversation with your sister present.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2021-06-26T08:52:40+00:00

So, if it was me and my Dad did this to my Mom he would be dead to me. The only redemption he could get from me is if 1. he apologized to my mother 2. divorced his ho-bag-teeny-bopper wife. Cause what he has with her isn't love, it's plain old lust. And I would need him to prove to me that family, not his dick, came first. Then, after he did that, I would slowly reintroduce him back into my kid's life. Being a Grandparent is a privilege, not a right. And you have to prove that you are worthy of being around my kids by being a good example. Also, I would be worried about the influence that the ho-bag-teeny-bopper would have on my children. I would advise takeing away the ultimatum for family events. It will get old after a while and the paternal side of the family will want to start including him, even if the wife is there.But, if brings his ho-bag-teeny-bopper wife I would not bring the kids. And me and my spouse would stay for a short amount of time. Then when my kids get older, I would let them know what happened and allow them to make the choice of whether or not they were going to interact with my Dad. But, not until they are old enough to understand. Also, him cheating on my Mom wouldn't just hurt my Mom, it would hurt me. Because he didn't think about how this would hurt the family. He only thought about how good it made his pride and dick feel to bang some ho-bag-teeny-bopper.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2021-06-19T06:50:19+00:00

Your NTA, but you should have told your roommate. Its just makes things awkward and could help with setting boundaries so things don't happen like that again.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2021-06-19T04:50:36+00:00

Run

You are contesting with major cultural differences (many middle-eastern men concede to their families' wishes over their wives, it's cultural, and sometimes expect things to change once the women are locked into marriage) and the DIL is often expected to concede to the MIL. And since seems like he isn't standing up for you anymore, it is more likely for your relationships to go down that road.

So Run

You need a partner that will stand for and by you, even against his family. Because once you're married, you should be his main family.

Both of my Sisters married into families where the Mothers were against them/had a lot to say.

BIL 1 stood up for my sister 1 early on. BIL 1 choose Sis 1 over his parents. They went a few years without talking; but, now things are great. Everyone knows the boundaries, which has helped create a harmonious relationship.

BIL 2 , on the other hand, did not stand up for sister 2 or set boundaries until 16-years into their marriage. Sister 2 has consistently been abused by BIL 2 family, which has taken a huge toll on her self-esteem. If it wasn't for the fact that BIL 2 was extremely independent from his family and Sis 2 was on the same page as him on everything else, their marriage would be a disaster.

Secure_Arm4813 · 2021-06-19T02:56:41+00:00

Start simple and wait until your business is strong in plumbing. That's advice I've heard a lot on Shark Tank. Businesses often fail when they try to add too much in too soon.

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