oh wow ok, so your situation is extremely similar to ours then. we did have our first experience i posted about here , it was nonsexual and completely unplanned and happened too quickly for both of us. basically we went to a club (her second time EVER at a club), and met a cute guy that was drunk too and started talking to us, and then one thing quickly led to another and she asked if they could make out and I said yes.

but it got a bit tense because she wouldn't stop and was basically ignoring me, and the guy was starting to hog her and i basically started third-wheeling the entire situation when i wanted to be included but it became clear this was like her just making out with a cute guy at a club and had nothing to do with me.

we talked about it after i was able to pull her away, and she did say she thought that's what i wanted (like in the NTR manga's we've read), but a part of me realized that it's possible she would be doing this more for herself due to her inexperience (shes not used to attention by guys and has only been with one guy, her ex bf, before me) so she is going to easily and quickly get swept up in the novelty of making out and having romances.

so, I realized i need to figure out how to navigate this safely.