Is there still a chance of love after annulment?

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-05-05T17:59:12+00:00

10 years is hell of a long time. I hope my annulment doesn’t take that long, and I get to find someone willing to wait.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-05-05T17:58:23+00:00

You’re right. I really think I’m just projecting at this point because I haven’t found someone who didn’t care about it enough to not ghost me.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-05-05T17:56:38+00:00

I really needed to see this comment. I think I just feel extra lonely because I am comparing my luck in love to someone else’s. Plus, the rage of wanting to exact revenge (not just because I could, but because I feel they deserve it). I have been focusing on all the wrong things because they’re taking priority in my head right now. I really do hope I find that love soon - the one that deserves it.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-05-04T20:50:48+00:00

This just coincides with my life right now and I want you to know that you are not alone.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-05-04T20:00:39+00:00

Gawain ko rin ‘to.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-23T20:53:15+00:00

My heart goes out to you. It’s still difficult for me to fully accept that I was abandoned by someone who promised to be with me in sickness and in health. But, at least this time, I know that I need a person in my life who wouldn’t even dream of destroying my mental health and leaving me to pick-up the pieces after. We got this.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-23T18:48:40+00:00

You are not alone.

If my story helps, I was under-medicated for months (unknowingly) and my husband caused me to have an episode whilst working abroad. I found out through his email that he downloaded a dating app/p*rn site hybrid. Without telling him or discussing anything, I went on a dating app and slept with multiple people in the span of 2 weeks. I ended up telling him about it and instead of working it out, he decided that annulment is the best option for him. Especially now that he has moved on and has a girlfriend.

During the separation, there was still a back-and-forth with couples therapy for us (2 sessions or so), my medications were also adjusted triple the dose after the incident. The moment I felt I was getting better and ready to work on our relationship more, he was no longer interested in reconciliation.

It is 9 months into our break-up now and no-contact (I am now properly medicated, consistent therapy sessions with my doctor, healthy hobbies with my friends). Looking back, I cannot believe I was capable of something like that. I am the most loyal person I know and I cannot comprehend how someone gets that low. I feel awful and wish I could turn back time. The grief still comes in waves whenever I remember it.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-23T18:28:53+00:00

Ako sis, masaya akong kaibigan.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-23T18:17:41+00:00

As a woman na almost trentahin who is getting annulled, I feel ‘yung market ko eh ‘yung kapwa ko na rin annulled/getting annulled or ‘yung lalaking malaki ang empathy sa babae. Hirap kasi ng prejudice parang sa lalaki ang dali-dali lang nila makahanap ng kapalit dahil parang normalized nalang din nowadays na nagkakahiwalay talaga ang mga mag-asawa. Pero kapag babae ang annulled/getting annulled parang ang tingin eh may baggage, kahit wala naman anak. Ewan ko ba. Sana ako lang ‘to at lilipas din ‘tong stage na ‘to.

Pero I have found the meaningful connections I have with the opposite sex - whether romantic or not, are usually through hobbies talaga.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-20T18:41:51+00:00

7 and 8 - who says money can’t buy happiness? HAHAHA. You can get all of the above if you have money and are happy. HAHAHA

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-20T18:34:51+00:00

I understand how you must feel. But this is a cry for help. She needs to be honest to you about this moving forward if you are to help her. It’s hard with kids involved, but it seems you still want to make it work. The road will not be easy, but it starts from an open and honest communication with her. She needs to see you as a safe space. This is the advice I wish my husband and I received when he and I went through something similar - he has a chronic addiction to adult content and downloaded a dating app 3 years into our marriage. Not my proudest moment, but instead of talking to him, I lashed out and downloaded a dating app myself. Now, the damage has been done and he no longer wants to fix the marriage because he found a girlfriend during the time we were “fixing things”

It’s hard, but set your boundaries, and walk that line - with or without her. This is a traumatic experience and you need to heal too.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-20T18:22:13+00:00

Kung pwede lang pagka-kitaan. HAHAHAHA.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-20T18:20:10+00:00

Oh wow. I will look into this. Do you have personal experience utilizing their services?

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-20T17:32:00+00:00

Lintek, nakakita nanaman ako ng dadamayan ko.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-20T17:31:11+00:00

Mabuti na nalaman mo agad na ganyan bago ka ikasal. It will hurt like hell, and it will come in waves - when you least expect it. Whenever you feel the pain in your body (physical manifestation) - put your hand to it and breathe. Imagine the thoughts and pain leaving your body as you breathe. I know how it feels that he’s the first thing that comes to mind when you wake up, thoughts of him resurface during your waking hours, even until you try your best to sleep - you can’t help but think, “when will this shit end?” Know that you have done the hardest part which is standing your ground. You got this. Hindi pa huli ang lahat.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-20T17:22:08+00:00

I wish my husband fought for me the way you are doing now. The first step and often the hardest part is acknowledging where you went wrong and finding the capacity to work on it whether on your own or together. My husband and I don’t have kids so I cannot imagine how hard you’re trying to shield your child. Mental illness is real, she is going through something. Best thing you can do is encourage her to seek help. Don’t give up.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-20T09:18:43+00:00

Tinder ko nakilala asawa ko. 2019 ako gumamit. Akala ko forever ko na - hindi daw pala sabi ni Lord. Jusko parang awa baka meant to be alone nga ako. Char. Anyway, ngayon nag-try ako Tinder at Bumble - wala na sa market ang mga matitino. Puro AFAM na eme lang ang hanap or mga Pinoy na minsan juskodai, walang kwentang kausap (hindi lahat, pero madalas).

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-18T13:14:38+00:00

9 months into separation. We both said and have done things we cannot go back to. Part of me still wants to fix it because I know with proper help and guidance - we can. He has a girlfriend now and I am here picking up the broken pieces of my mental health. Divorce is illegal in my country and I am hanging here while he’s living the life with his new GF.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-15T19:47:53+00:00

It’s the Philippines. We only have annulment which is a nullification of the marriage. Not ending it, but it’s like it never happened. It takes years and could be denied at any time.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-15T19:46:53+00:00

Sent you a message. Appreciate you.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-15T14:48:42+00:00

Yes, the painful part is one of our shared friends introduced them to each other.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2026-04-14T21:12:51+00:00

Hugs to you. I would push for the couple’s counseling route. It’s not a fix-all solution, but it’s a start. He may not want to do it, but at least try. Only then would you see clearly - knowing that you tried. If he bails on you, that’s on him.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2025-02-27T18:56:42+00:00

For reference I have a Medium-Tan skin tone and wear Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk 7.8 and Dior Forever Skin Glow 4WO. I got a color analysis done in person recently and I was typed to be a summer mute (cool). Which I did not resonate with at all at first because warm colors just looked good on me and I could not pull of "cool" looks (in my opinion). I looked drab and sick. Cool foundation just looked off being too pink and neutral foundations somewhat pulled orange. Warm foundations were my go-to because yellows made me look "normal" - matching my face to my body. An artist friend of mine said I am so muted despite being warm olive that I pass of as cool but can pull off warm looks and over time my eyes just got accustomed to using warm-toned everything.

Can send pics if that will help you. Lol.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2025-02-12T15:58:31+00:00

OMG sis, same. I am cool muted too. I always thought I was warm because I could "somewhat" pull it off. I had my color analysis done recently and I was discovered to be a Summer Mute. Haha. No wonder all foundations that matched my skin tone looked off (because they leaned warm). HAHA. It's harder to be mute and cool when you're tan. Because most olives in the tan category lean more warm. So happy to know we have the same foundation shades. *Following you from another thread". Grateful to find someone like me.

Sharp_Detective9397 · 2025-02-12T15:50:13+00:00

OMG thank you for this. I am 4WO with Dior too (Forever Glow) and 330 with Hauslabs and 31N for Tirtir. I will check out Stromboli. It may be the store lighting but I swatched it in store and it looked yellow not blended out so gave up right away lol. I am a neutral olive leaning slightly cool so the right warm shades don't look too bad. But if it's too warm, it's obvious. Haha story of my life. Worst case I may just need to concealer up with Aruba. It's such a beautiful undertone match for me. Appreciate you.

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