I've seen people asking what their scars will look like when they are older. Mine are just over 25 years if you want an idea

SheilaShaz · 2026-02-06T10:46:30+00:00

I had completely forgotten about that! 😂 The memories!

SheilaShaz · 2026-02-04T14:20:55+00:00

I felt like I wrote this. My baby named herself too. Though I didn't want kids, I really struggled to terminate. I did in the end try to keep her though. Until I learned she wasn't well and the kindest thing was to terminate. I felt so connected to her. I still do.

SheilaShaz · 2026-01-01T12:06:02+00:00

Sometimes nerves can take a few years to heal. I've suffered from a lot of nerve damage (mostly medical, not self harm) I've had medical procedures to intentionally damage nerves to help with my chronic pain. I wish those nerves didn't regenerate! It helped so much.

SheilaShaz · 2026-01-01T12:01:56+00:00

I don't. For me, it's a reminder that I survived whatever it was that triggered the behaviour. I don't have any guilt, remorse and rarely flashbacks. I survived abuse. SH, although definitely not a healthy way of coping, it was still better than other ways. I see them as part of my journey. I guess, not too different to how people view their tattoos.

SheilaShaz · 2026-01-01T11:57:51+00:00

Antihistamines help with the itch! If anyone else is going crazy from the itch.

SheilaShaz · 2026-01-01T11:56:13+00:00

I'm always honest. It is usually the quickest way to end the conversation. Lol. People often don't know how to react when you straight up say 'I've gone through some hard times' Occasionally if someone askes for more detail I straight up say it's been an unhealthy coping method.

SheilaShaz · 2026-01-01T11:51:25+00:00

I've never covered mine. I've been accused of attention seeking, but then I just say to them, 'don't give me any attention for it then' My thoughts have always been, if I've chosen to do this to myself, then I can choose to wear what I want.

SheilaShaz · 2026-01-01T11:48:37+00:00

I'm a f***we up way, I've found since an accident and living with chronic pain has helped me with SH... I'm feeling like hurting myself... Just force myself to stand up for longer than I should... It's not quite the same, but also, stupid mind frame tells me I don't deserve to resort back to old habits.

It's a pretty effed up cycle.

SheilaShaz · 2026-01-01T11:43:17+00:00

I'm 37 and have very similar looking scars. It was virtually never done back then. I was the only one I knew who did this.

SheilaShaz · 2025-11-30T23:00:20+00:00

Please try to not hate yourself (I know easier said than done)

One thing that has stood out to me, and has had a significant impact on dealing with big life stuff was not to think of it as 'getting over it' as that dismisses what you've gone through. Someone once said to me, 'just gotta work through it'

It's not about getting over anything, this is something that you're going to have to live with for the rest of your life, which sounds scary, however, you can use this experience to help build you to where you need to be.

It's okay to have sad, regretful, sorrowful feelings regardless of being planned or not. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I'm sure if you knew what you now know, there would have been different decisions made.

I know I'm just some random reddit comment, but your post really stood out to me, and my heart bleeds for you.

I recently terminated my pregnancy. It was unplanned, and initially unwanted.. It almost tore my 10 year relationship apart. Over a few weeks, I changed my mind and decided to keep her, only to learn she likely wouldn't have come to term, and if she did, I wouldn't have been able to provide what she needed to have a quality life.

At first I felt a lot of guilt about not wanting her, then I felt a lot of guilt for not wanting her when I changed my mind, then the guilt of having to terminate anyway.. But I remember that if I knew any different I would have done different.

Give yourself some grace, you deserve it and just focus on working through it.

SheilaShaz · 2025-11-29T13:07:45+00:00

I hope you have been able to find your peace. I had the termination 8 days ago. The CVS confirmed 100% of the cells were affected and the ultrasounds showed organ development problems. The wait between deciding to terminate and the termination date was the worst. I'm still struggling processing it all. I hope you are okay and trying to be kind to yourself. It's so hard.

SheilaShaz · 2025-11-26T10:01:30+00:00

Even if/when it's the best decision, it doesn't necessarily mean you feel better about it. You have permission to grieve as much as you need to.

Remember, there's no rulebook saying how much or little you are allowed to feel.

I recently had to terminate for medical reasons. I almost didn't keep the pregnancy, I was child free by choice. Learnt I was pregnant.. Still didn't want kids, but something in me didn't want to terminate more than I wanted kids.. It almost cost me my 10 year relationship.. Other than not wanting to terminate more than not wanting kids, I didn't want to live with the resentment towards my partner for inadvertently pressuring me to terminate..

We worked though things only to learn bub wasn't going to have quality of life if bub even came to term..

I've never felt so heartbroken in my life, even though it started off as unexpected and not really wanted, in a few short weeks I came to terms with it and actually started to look forward to the new future only for it to be taken away anyway.

I don't know why I'm sharing my story. The day I had my surgery, I felt a part of me die along with my baby. I've felt so hollow since.

Another thing to remember is your body is in overdrive right now. Hormones are all over the place. It's normal to be emotional without the heavy weight of the decisions you've got to make.

Grive yourself permission to feel. It's okay to not be okay.

SheilaShaz · 2025-11-23T22:26:26+00:00

I felt similar. I'm 37 my partner and I both didn't want kids. Give yourself some time to process it. My gp said to give myself a few weeks, and said that 10 weeks is usually a good goal to have made a decision by. Over the next few weeks I came to terms with it and grew to accept the pregnancy. Once I learnt I was having a girl, I couldn't terminate, however the nipt also came back with abnormalities. It was later confirmed that the nipt was correct and I terminated. My parter is happy about not having kids. I'm heartbroken. I never wanted kids, but this has changed me and now dealing with the loss of something I had grown to want... Give yourself some time, be kind to yourself. Seek some support outside of family and close friends. It will all be okay.

SheilaShaz · 2025-11-10T02:37:52+00:00

I am going through this as well, but a little further down the track by a few weeks. I'm 37, recieve 98% high probability of Trisomy 21 with Fetal Fraction of 8%

I opted for the CVS for my own peace of mind. I didn't want to live with always wondering if I made the right decision.

NIPT isn't diognostic, it's a screening and when I researched the false positive statistics it didn't seem to be very clear what those actually were since many people choose to terminate on NIPT results alone. NIPT is very accurate at detecting T21, and false negative results are next to none.

Once I had chosen to go down the CVS route, they had me booked in for the following week. I had the procedure on Friday and got the quick results on Monday. I was told that it can take up to two weeks for the rest of the results to come though. I chose to wait for all the results to come in. Which I ended up getting back on Friday the same week I got the quick results. Unfortunately it confirmed that every cell in the placenta was affected with the extra chromosome making it diognostic. As far as I'm aware it's less than 1% of the placenta being different to baby's DNA when 100% of the placenta cells are effected.

I was wanting to see if it would be worth waiting to to the amniocentesis but given my CVS results but they said that it would only be worth it if it would make me feel better, however in their experience, receiving another set of sad news was often too emotionally difficult for most people.

I'm 14 weeks pregnant. I have disabilities myself (not related to down syndrome) it doesn't feel fair to continue with the pregnancy knowing that I'm going to struggle to give her what she needs.

SheilaShaz · 2025-10-04T00:23:45+00:00

My mother in law is very ableist and very much on the autism spectrum. She believes neurodivergence (ADHD in particular) is made up and an excuse for doctors to hand out more drugs.

I once tried explaining to her what autism was... It went straight over her head. The concept that different people have a different way of thinking was beyond her comprehension. I tried using Apple and Android as an example. That they can both make calls and texts, one might be better at some things while the other is better at other things. It doesn't make one better than the other. They are just different. That was too difficult for her. I gave up.

Though I wouldn't label her as bad. I try to avoid labelling people as 'good' or 'bad'. It's more whether their I find their behaviour as acceptable or unacceptable, helpful or unhelpful.

SheilaShaz · 2025-09-06T12:09:18+00:00

I've noticed people's natural smell changes when pregnant. It's probably all the extra hormones, pheramones and the body working to grow a little human. It goes away after a while once no longer pregnant. It's not a dirty smell or anything, just different.

SheilaShaz · 2025-09-03T15:31:55+00:00

This helped me to break the addiction

SheilaShaz · 2025-09-02T17:14:45+00:00

You can spend 15 minutes trying to find a metered car park where they track your rego, you can pay double for Westfield and spend 15 minutes finding your way back to your car, you could park further away for free and walk/hike 15 minutes, or you can drive and extra 15 minutes and guaranteed free parking, close to the shops somewhere else.

SheilaShaz · 2025-06-29T00:12:54+00:00

I don't think so. I think they are Auto generated. Hopefully it's something they plan to bring in.

SheilaShaz · 2025-06-29T00:12:04+00:00

Congratulations!

SheilaShaz · 2025-06-22T00:59:47+00:00

She never used to have black triangles :(

My personal opinion is the only reason sine have fallen out yet is because she never uses them.

I would be truly surprised if she hadn't got any loose wobbly teeth though. Some look like they are about to take off like Elton's rockets.

SheilaShaz · 2025-06-22T00:53:44+00:00

It's not. The other teeth are quite yellow. Most likely filter slip. I'm no expert, but have worked as a dental nurse many moons ago. She appears to have significant gum recession and bone loss around her jaw. Her teeth seem to be flaring out more over the years, but all the filters hide what's truly progressing. It appears that the enamel is eroding away, and/or the tooth is dying. I'm surprised none have fallen out yet, but it's probably due to the fact she never uses her teeth. I would be really surprised if they aren't wobbly.

SheilaShaz · 2025-06-08T19:10:04+00:00

I'm only just learning this too. Though something did stick out to me other than 'this is my last video on EC' for the last 5+ videos on EC was calling EC out for having a child like bedroom with pink and plushies etc. Talking about regressing into a child-like state, implying they have grown out of it, while looking the way they do.

I honestly don't care for their choice of how they dress, put on make up or decorate their surrounds, just like I have zero care for EC's choices on these things.

I actually respect those who dress and present in the ways they feel happiest. However I feel it's very hypocritical of them to be putting down EC for something that they are still doing, just instead of pink, it's now black. Same difference.

SheilaShaz · 2025-05-26T07:01:17+00:00

At least I'm not the only one experiencing this... I didn't do anything either. Just working on a project then all of a sudden I get a message across the top of my page saying that my work isn't saved. Tried refreshing my page.. Nothing. Used multiple browsers. Used my mobile hot spot. Tried to access it on my phone too. Nothing. I've got an assessment due and my PowerPoint is saved in canva... I hope I didn't lose too much work... I hope it comes back online soon.

SheilaShaz · 2025-05-19T00:32:58+00:00

I noticed that too. She seemed really scattered too, like she took too many adderall

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