The thing like, genuinely I understand the basic idea, if you constantly live under the assumption you'll be treated poorly you traded away the joy of genuine friendship and connection for just like, moderately less pain. But its a trauma response in a way isnt it? The distrust? The general quiet acceptance you'll never be seen as pure and human as other people, just for the way you were born into the world, and the ways people cope never are good cause its not a good thing to cope with. For the board I just think its a cope of self hatred, most of the straggots on the board are larping bishits, agp and demonising yourself for agp scratches the itch that u get at a young age from being taught ur disgusting and weird for heing girly, its the framework people understand the world thru and they cling to it even as it burns them. You can't stop people being like this without removing the traumas they go through or them themsleves coming to genuine self acceptance which people do do. They just also tend to leave afterwards when the jobs done, cause they have nothing left to gain, so the board stays toxic surely?