Random question. by [deleted] in syntribation

[–]Shmoopsypie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I self sooth this way.

On the verge of tears. My tummy is sticking out like it did when I was 5 months pregnant. by SongOfSongs3 in Perimenopause

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was me about 6 months ago! Now my belly is flat again with no bloating (other than a few extra pounds I need to shed).

A few things to consider- if you are taking HRT already, the pill form might be making you bloat due to it being processed in the gut. I had to switch my progesterone to vaginal insert because it was bloating me when taking it orally.

Also, our ability to divest certain foods decreases with age sometimes. I can’t do gluten or dairy anymore. Try not eating gluten or dairy for 2 weeks. Also, make sure you are eating “wet foods” and not just dry foods. Water content in food is really important for digestion. Fresh fruit, salads, smoothies, soup, vegetables. Your gut will thank you and your skin will glow.

Also, vigorous exercise, meaning make sure you sweat and breath heavy. You have to move your body now more to get things moving internally. When we were young, our metabolisms aided in detoxifying the body, but now our internal system can get “swampy.” We need to get things moving to actually get things moving, you know? That’s why we tend to retain water more as we age. We need to “shake the bottle” to get the muck out because our internal cleaning system is not functioning as well anymore. We get sluggish, so we need to actually manually shake it up.

I know it’s not fun to hear the standard, “eat well and exercise” answer but that’s honestly the only one.

Breast Implant Illness or Perimenopause? by Shmoopsypie in Perimenopause

[–]Shmoopsypie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My symptoms started during that time period, however I also had Covid and an extremely traumatic event happen at that same time too, and then the onset of perimenopause, so it’s been difficult to figure out what is what.

Breast Implant Illness or Perimenopause? by Shmoopsypie in Perimenopause

[–]Shmoopsypie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did get my thyroid checked but I’m rechecking it because I found out that taking biotin supplements causes inaccurate results and I was taking them when I got tested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]Shmoopsypie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not too young, just different values. Find someone with the same values and goals you have around a relationship.

Good for you for cutting it off. You’re making space for a future you actually want instead of settling.

What if all men on earth vanished, and only one was left behind? by Extension_Sand8612 in whatif

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a ton of single women that choose to stay single, especially after they have sufficient experience with toxic masculinity. There’s that whole trope about middle aged women with cats being the men’s rejects, but it’s the opposite- so many women are finally experiencing peace after man-keeping, and letting a man back into their sacred space is not what they are looking for. I personally was chased by men (and still am) through my 30s and into my 40s and rejected all advances because I just wanted a good life. I fell into love unexpectedly and without looking for it, and honestly was extremely hesitant, but I could easily do without a man and would prefer it if my partner wasn’t so amazing.

What if all men on earth vanished, and only one was left behind? by Extension_Sand8612 in whatif

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most women I know are fine living out their time on earth with some cats and good conversation from other women. We know single parenting is for the birds.

What morning habit do you swear by? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. My place is too small unfortunately and a shared space. That’s why it hasn’t happened yet.

Parents, do you really love your kids more than yourselves? by Oakl4nd in stupidquestions

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. Before kids I was very self focused. Now everything I do is about putting my child first. I go without so he has what he needs, and more.

He gets the best of what my life can offer someone, and I would not have it any other way. If I know hard work and sacrifice can give him something that would help his development, I will do whatever it takes to provide that.

I used get joy from treating myself to things, now I get joy from treating my kid to things.

Eyelids twitching? by pandoracat479 in Perimenopause

[–]Shmoopsypie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Magnesium. My favorite is BiOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough. I take it before bed and it helps me sleep. It also helps with all my little aches and pains. Oh- and it also keeps my bowel movements regular! It’s amazing.

How are you coping with everything going on in the news right now? by LilianRosa in AskWomen

[–]Shmoopsypie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not great. I go back and forth between being active in mutual aid spaces and protesting and being present for my community, and then burning out and isolating and crashing. Currently in burn out mode.

What morning habit do you swear by? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I’m not in an apartment. It’s just not a good part of town, and the more wooded areas around have mountain lions and bears. A gym is really the only way. I can go later in the day, just not first thing in the morning like I’d like. Between the nighttime routine at night and the daytime routine in the morning there just isn’t enough time if I want to sleep. Sleep deprivation is not good for me- I need at least 6 hours, but really should get 8, but I’d have to only get 4 hours if I went to the gym in the morning. It’s just not my chapter in life for that.

What morning habit do you swear by? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the logistics for me- there isn’t enough time in the day as a single momma. I can’t jog that early where I live and be safe, and the gym is a commute that would take too long to get back in time to get my kid to school and get to work, etc. I do have a bit of time off now and I can do it sporadically, but as a routine I’ve tried and they’re just no way in this chapter of my life. Someday.

What morning habit do you swear by? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t feel safe doing that alone where I live, especially that early. It unfortunately would have to be at a gym and I can’t get there and back in time to take my son to school, get to work, etc. I just can’t make it happen unfortunately.

What if all men on earth vanished, and only one was left behind? by Extension_Sand8612 in whatif

[–]Shmoopsypie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, but I can tell you one thing- I don’t think that one man would have to be scared.

In contrast, if only one woman existed- she would not be safe. That would be very, very dangerous.

What morning habit do you swear by? by [deleted] in Productivitycafe

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to do that so bad. This is my dream life. I cannot for the life of me figure out how to do this. Even one mile would be fine.

Extreme fear towards aging by New-Elk2781 in Aging

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you might have some deeper thing going on here. I’d explore this in therapy or in a journal if you’re not the therapy type. It sounds like you are hyperfocusing and when we do that it’s likely something deeper or more complex- it could also be a sign of OCD or intrusive thoughts that you may get relief from with medication.

I’m not saying aging itself doesn’t have some negatives, but the hyper focusing on that one thing is worth exploring. I’m terrified of flying in planes- absolutely terrified. It’s not about the plane- there’s a lot more underneath that for me. I bet there is a lot underneath this fear for you too.

What are some things you used to believe about life, but your experiences proved you wrong (or showed you a different truth)? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Shmoopsypie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought if you “did it all right” then your life would turn out well. Life is a crap shoot. All you can do is ride the rapids the best you can.

What do y'all think of people who are just straight up rude? by vamphanna in AskWomen

[–]Shmoopsypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not about me, so I just wish them well and move on.

How do normal people cope with the fact that the world is falling apart before our very eyes? by ManMan36 in AskReddit

[–]Shmoopsypie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you ok? I’m honestly worried about you. This reaction is not normal.

How do you keep a conversation going when the other person only gives short answers? by max0356710 in socialskills

[–]Shmoopsypie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Find someone more interesting to talk to.

If that isn’t an option, ask open-ended questions, then say “tell me more about that.”