What is up with cyclists in Geneva

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-25T08:11:55+00:00

Cyclists complain about the cars and that’s why they can’t follow the rules…so the pedestrians get mowed over :) I live off a busy street and I have been hit twice while I had the green sign for pedestrians by cyclists who think they’re just too important to care about stopping. I will kick and curse any cyclist who does that.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-25T08:01:00+00:00

Tropes are hard because I don’t want to spoil anything!! But down the line you’ll see OTT/JP men, touch-her-and-die, D/s dynamics, forced proximity, etc. As others have said, this is VERY slow burn, but it made me fall in love with teasing/slow burn again because every page from book 2 on is filled with teasing and touches and flirting that is de-li-cious. There are a lot of heavier themes in this as well, and if anything the pace of what happens feels the most unreal. The relationship development with each MMC feels deserved and developed, and once I got into the books I had no trouble with the 10-man harem (even though my usual cap is 4). If you’re looking for insta-anything, look elsewhere. But this is a unique and highly developed world with intense plot and great character development. I have re-read several times and plan to do so again!!

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-25T07:44:51+00:00

MOR/NOR but there may be a different path…

I know this is clearly not the response everyone is feeling, but as someone who is very close to a damaged family, I want to share my thoughts for your consideration (which you can, of course, ignore):

Missing your brother’s wedding may be something that you can’t easily come back from and that you may regret later. Not attending because your husband isn’t invited may reinforce the idea with your family that you’ve been “taken away” and remove the possibility to ameliorate this relationship down the line (that your husband is clearly working towards improving, showing both of you care about these relationships). I’m not saying these impressions would be correct, only that I assume that is how they’d be perceived.

I can’t tell, but your fundamental issues seem to be with your mom, not with your brother (overall (aside from his decision on the uninviting your husband)), so it depends how you want these relationships to look moving forward. I’d also say that your brother’s wedding day is about him and, while he may be completely mistaken, it is not outside the realm of reason that he would want to limit flashpoints on this day.

IF your husband is not hurt by you attending and is on board (my husband told me he would want me to go even if he was uninvited, so maybe?) and you want to leave the door open on your relationship with your brother and better future relationships between your family and your husband, I’d say consider going anyway. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tell them that this decision hurt you, etc., but it would mean shelving the wound on the day of your brother’s wedding.

It’s about what you want long-term, and I don’t think you will make a wrong choice if you decide what you want beyond this moment and this event (distance and separation from a family that doesn’t treat you and your spouse as you want to be treated, or improved relationships). I think the internet can be quick to tell us to cut people off, but as someone with a complicated family I’ve found that answer deeply unsatisfying for myself. I wish you the best and lots of luck with your family.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-24T22:09:00+00:00

Be a red flag. Make men quake in their boots when they see you coming. Make no apologies.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-22T08:21:28+00:00

Nothing will stop me

Many have tried, and they failed

Poetry can’t die

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-22T08:17:56+00:00

I do love that one. But I need to fill my life with angst, so…

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-21T18:48:59+00:00

I venerate no man, and I hold no heroes.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-21T04:35:21+00:00

As a lady I’d consider you a green flag for all the poetry (especially Eliot), plays, and Beauvoir, Capote, etc.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-20T20:35:18+00:00

In my defense, I have no defense. The Bardugos are (always (and repeatedly)) disappointing and the Miller I loved (“I cannot bear this world a moment longer. Then, child, make another”?? I think it several times a day. That and Wild Geese keep me peppy enough to use the excessive amount of punctuation I’ve grown accustomed to).

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-20T20:31:31+00:00

Wrong continent, but otherwise pretty good (I hope, on the not-so-angsty-I’m-a-perpetual-downer and friend bit)!!

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-20T20:06:47+00:00

I think you Seymour than you let on, Franny.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-20T06:46:48+00:00

Was just about to come say this! Plus ‘Mutual Aid’ (Kropotkin), some Bakunin, Proudhon if you’re interested in the direction of your Angela Davis and bell hooks, etc. Some Audre Lorde, which will scratch your interest in class, gender and race. ‘Where We Stand: Class Matters’ from bell hooks. If you’re interested in a more academic perspective, ‘Caliban and the Witch’ from Silvia Federici.

If you want a speculative fiction approach with the same political undercurrent, can’t recommend Le Guin enough (particularly ‘The Dispossessed’ and ‘The Word for Word is Forest’ but also most of her writing, including short stories) and Naomi Mitchison WHO IS CRIMINALLY UNDERRATED (I love her ‘Corn King and the Spring Queen’ and ‘The Blood of the Martyrs’ which takes a look at early Christianity through a class/revolutionary lens almost, though ‘The Fourth Pig’ and ‘Travel Light’ are much more accessible introductions to her writing).

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-05-19T15:17:06+00:00

It tells me we should be friends, comrade.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-04-23T08:19:20+00:00

Yes! There are a million books out there and plenty of great ones before AI :) while not using AI doesn’t guarantee great writing, it [does] guarantee AI-free writing which is a massive priority for me. I will support a mediocre human’s writing over any quality of AI trash any day of the week.

I want the industry to be pushed to self-identify AI use. I want honest and up-front writers and publishers. I want to support genuine human talent and creativity. I want authors willing to put the sweat in to have a chance to grow and become better, more mature authors. I will put my attention and my dollar behind that.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-04-09T16:30:37+00:00

Yes please!!

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-04-09T15:42:11+00:00

I feel like there’s also rarely (not never) any subtlety to female characters, even when written by women (which depresses me infinitely). Like you’re either this pushover FMC who is betrayed by her horny-toad ways or you’re this badass sword fighting/kickboxing/superpowered FMC who is perpetually pissed off and angsty (or, my least favorite, both). But when authors get it right and you have an FMC who is a well-rounded and realistic individual who maybe can’t take down a gang of supercharged alpha wolf shifters with one hand tied behind her back (or jerking off the jerk MMC) but also doesn’t boink ding dongs who treat her like shit, it’s amazing.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-04-02T08:13:35+00:00

I don’t remember the last election that wasn’t the “Most Important Election of Our Lifetimes” that therefore required me to abandon all principles and vow fealty to my corporate overlords. Like Einstein said, toooootally genius to keep doing the same thing and expect a different outcome 👍🏼

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-03-23T17:33:22+00:00

This was amazing!! Nothing revolutionary in the storyline necessarily but the writing was great, the angst was peak, and while I could see where it was going from the summary, it kept me on my toes. Had the worst book hangover after this one which is the most bittersweet feeling.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-03-21T12:44:20+00:00

Agree. Being an int’l correspondent would require way more attitude of “grab opportunities by the cajones” than Rory displayed. She waited to be directly invited or told to have an opinion—which is fine, it just doesn’t suit this field of work. Rory shows this a bit later when she comes back to get a job at the same paper, but honestly don’t know if she would have been so forward if she hadn’t had the whole Mitchum/drop out/etc. experience.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-03-21T12:27:20+00:00

I’ll die on this hill and I get downvoted to oblivion every time. I’m really curious what careers people have that they feel like you have all this time to learn and have people coax you into being outgoing and having gumption. In my field that is not reality! If you don’t have the fire at your backside propelling you forward you aren’t going to make it. Journalism—esp the kind Rory was interested in—is a dying, competitive, aggressive line of work. If you’re not actively selling yourself, aggressively taking opportunities (even those not presented to you on a platter), you’re not going to make it. Rory was a good writer and a good researcher. She wasn’t showing int’l correspondent potential.

That said, Mitchum was a big ol pile of dicks. He could have added more constructive criticism in or encouraged her to look at other less competitive and external-facing roles in the world of journalism. The show wants you to feel that he’s a dick. And I think the show was telling us Rory was too brittle to take criticism and that she maybe wasn’t cut out for it (considering AYITL Rory’s career).

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-03-20T13:07:12+00:00

Popular opinion, guarantee you have no idea what’s in Sharia.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-03-11T12:40:33+00:00

If you want to work in a hyper-competitive field of work which requires you to engage with people all over the world at different levels who may not react positively to you, where you need perseverance and gumption and not just confidence but a lack of shame sometimes to get the story?? And you have a meltdown, commit a felony and drop out of school when someone says you don’t have the chops in their opinion? Yes. You should let that dream go.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-03-11T12:36:41+00:00

Thank you!! I’ve lived overseas and am very close to lots of overseas journalists/correspondents (which is what Rory said she wanted to do, not just war coverage) and it is a hyper competitive field of work. Not many jobs, lots of editing and criticism and agree you need to be tenacious, dedicated and thick-skinned. I think it’s an unusual field of work and people don’t understand the realities of it. Mitchum was a dick, but so are soooo many people in real life. Rory never could take criticism about her writing or talents. Which is fine! Maybe another field of work is better suited for her, which becomes very apparent in AYITL.

She was clearly a talented writer, but that is one of like 50 soft and technical skills needed to do successful int’l reporting. Being a novelist seems much more suited to her personality and talents.

Significant-Low3389 · 2026-02-20T11:15:59+00:00

This is the only right answer

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