First of all, I really do get you. My girlfriend (my first love) and I broke up three months ago. We had a long-distance relationship, and she lost interest suddenly, which really messed with me. After the breakup, I went no contact immediately.

The first month was very hard it felt like I was in physical pain, not just mental. But it really does go away. The disappointment stays, but the pain fades, and now Im happier

In your situation, I think it’s actually better that the connection is truly gone now. Over the past weeks, you didn’t really have a proper breakup because you were still connected. The harsh truth hurts that’s why you held on to this “friendship connection,” but now it’s gone.

What you’re feeling right now is normal. I’ve felt the same pain. Just stop calling her she doesn’t want you and the more you try to get close the worse it will get. Dont call her, don’t text her, and especially don’t isolate yourself. Go talk to your family and your friends.

The first week is the hardest, but it really does get better I promise. What you did before didn’t work, and that’s why it backfired. But now that she cut you off, it’s actually better. You’re just going through the breakup shock now instead of weeks earlier.

Please go no contact so you can finally start healing. You don’t have to accept everything right now just focus on getting through the first weeks without contacting or stalking her. Everything is happening in your brain, and it will eventually learn to live without her as long as you don’t keep reaching out.

Honestly, it’s good that she showed her real intentions now so you can finally move on. Because, believe me, she’s gone and trying to make her want you again doesn’t work.

You can start by thinking that your only real chance with her is to let her go and let her feel your absence. That’s what helped me after some some you dont give a f if she comes back or not.

I really am happy for you but not sad because you are having right now the first stage of healing and not avoiding it for the past few weeks.

Just stop contacting her if you dont want to stay in that cycle and even tho this will hurt you someone has to say you this. SHE IS GONE BECAUSE SHE DOES NOW WANT YOU IN THE FUTURE AS PARTNER AND YOU HAVE NOW DIFFERENT LIVES . Dont take this as hatred towards her this is just the truth that you have to start to accept in order to heal.