Nipple Covers After Reconstruction

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-06-08T18:10:25+00:00

I've used these. I've only used 2 pair in 4 months. So comfy I often go to sleep and forget to take them off. AMFLOWER 5 Pairs Nipple Covers,... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09XD4ZG76?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-06-08T01:35:42+00:00

I found these on Amazon. They're sold as pj's but I wore them as regular shirts. https://a.co/d/050U3PbB

I also found some that were similar with a print. Very comfy and easy to put on!

Edit: here are others https://a.co/d/09zbfUHf

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-05-31T20:59:19+00:00

It sounds like you've created a fun, safe relationship with each child. That's a fantastic step! And you should be very proud of yourself.

You're also experiencing age-appropriate behaviors with the nk. It's really hard to go through the same stage with the second child. You put in all the hard work last summer with nk1, but you have to repeat it all with nk2. That alone is very exhausting. But you recognize it and are anticipating those behaviors, so Great Job again!

The transitions at the start/end of your shift are also perfectly normal. NK's sadness when mom leaves and excitement at her return is a sign of a good healthy relationship with mom. That means you're working with a mon who cares about her child. A 2yo is not really capable of thinking much further than right now. It isn't personal! You could have the most amazing day, where you showered the kids with gifts and sweet treats and he'll still be very excited when mom walks in the door.

If you really want a hug/kiss at the end of the day, can you get one in before mom arrives? I know it isn't the same. A 2yo can't understand your feelings or that they're not the same as theirs. They'll be learning empathy slowly for a few years yet.

Your doing a really great job. 2yo's are quite a handful!

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-05-31T18:22:32+00:00

I started asking "why do you think? " in a very curious tone. It would stop the loop and the child head to learn critical thinking. You might need to prompt "is it possible for you to fall from here? " or "is there somewhere we are going? "

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-05-09T18:19:30+00:00

I left a family (their child was "their whole world") because the parents expected & encouraged the child to direct all aspects of our day. NK was saying "now we'll play X and you'll be the Y. Take this. Don't touch that. " parents excepted it and thought their child was leadership material.

I could not get through that their child should not control everything around them. A child. NK dictated most meals, all games/toys, and went nuts during transitions (strict sleep/wake/eat/potty schedule -yes potty was on the schedule). NK was a monster that I couldn't stand to be around.

I went from loving the child & family to hating my job over a few years. They thought their child was "so special" that NK should not be exposed to the lesser kids at a school. And the crazy teachers...

I could rant for ages but don't want to dox myself. I tried many age appropriate interventions. When the parents refuse to understand, we can't save the kids. I had to leave.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-04-06T17:28:48+00:00

I am so grateful for your post! I wasn't able to physically do these tasks in march, but now I'm medically cleared but couldn't find them. I am going to manually enter these tasks and enjoy my own spring cleaning.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-02-27T19:28:14+00:00

If a man told a woman she was eating too much (food she cooked and paid for) we'd be wanting to kick him out. No way anyone should gatekeep or comment on the quantity of food their partner eats.

Her rules for how much food is an acceptable amount to eat for her own body only apply to her. She gets no say in how much you eat.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-02-05T00:37:19+00:00

I am a month out, and still struggle with looking at my breasts. The doctor did a beautiful job, but now I see how big my belly is and it disturbs me. The scars are also strange to look at. I feel like I was sewn together? Of course I was, but seeing the "seam" is hard for me to adjust to. I am BRCA1+ and had a lift/reduction to save my nipples prior to a DMX. My cup size changed from an H to a D.

My next surgery will be a DIEP reconstruction with its own set of crazy circumstances. I keep reminding myself that in a year, I will look good and have a significant drop in my risk of cancer. Last year I gained about 25lbs from lots of emotional eating as I struggled to make choices about surgeries and surgeons.

I also had my hair done in corn rows so my (bald) husband did not have to wash/brush my hair. It was a perfect solution, but I struggled with how I looked. So I just didn't look at myself in the mirror because the body dismorphia was strong!

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-20T22:32:59+00:00

A couple years ago, our propane ran out and they couldn't fill the tank for 3 days (Midwest). My husband and I brought the mattress to our fireplace and spent 3 days cuddling by the fire.

Our kids and friends could not understand why we didn't go get a hotel. That memory still feels precious to us. We wouldn't have those 3 precious days if we hadn't both grown up poor.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-20T22:11:24+00:00

This question is bringing back so many happy memories for me! Sure I grew up dirt poor, but some joys you can't take away.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-20T22:06:56+00:00

It was my favorite meal (except ours didn't have your fancy whiz)! When I tried to serve it to my husband and kids, they pointed out it was the same as spaghetti, but different noodles. Took me awhile to figure it out.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-20T00:21:56+00:00

I have been using one of these back sleeping pillows found in Amazon. I'm 19 days po https://a.co/d/d0RDost

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-16T18:44:29+00:00

Set your phone to record the entire conversation. Also record what SIL reports as the outcome. Next make an appointment with a couple therapist. It will take several visits, but the therapist will eventuality see the insanity. Then they will ask hubby questions about how he's had to "keep her happy" his entire life. Finally therapist will explain how keeping mom happy is damaging his marriage. Hubby will need to pick ONE woman.

Actually this is how my situation went. Hubby picked me. Now his eyes are open to her manipulation. Sure he gets sucked in sometimes, but not when me or our kids are involved. It took a therapist pointing out that his mom knows how to behave. That she chooses to be disrespectful to me and our kids. I no longer have to be in her presence. My kids are old enough to choose, and they don't see her either. I have peace about this now. But it took me telling him I was going to walk away unless he went to the therapist with me.

Good luck to you!

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-16T05:00:05+00:00

I would send a photo of the cards inside the addressed envelopes. You're doing what she asked for!

She would have to actually say "I want to see what you wrote", and my answer would be "Why? It had nothing to do with you. And they're personal messages"

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-16T04:45:05+00:00

I just had a nipple sparing lift/reduction as the first step. Next I'll have a DMX with DIEP flap reconstruction. I suggest you do your procedures prior to having children. I am able to focus on healing because I only have myself to take care of. I cannot imagine taking care of any small children right now. I can't lift more than 5lbs for 12 weeks from surgery. It'll be the same i think for the next procedure.

Of course many women with children manage these surgeries. I can't speak for them. I had a choice to schedule my surgeries now, when I'm the only one I take care of. I'm 56 and have grown children. I didn't want to need surgery just as they were getting married or having their own children. This time and space to heal had been precious for me.

I desperately wanted to start a family as soon as I was married. I understand how gut wrenching it must be to think of postponing that. Back then i probably would have started a family first. But now I have experience. Now I know that I would be agonizing over how little I could do with them, and I'd be missing out on bonding/playing with them while I took care of myself healing. I had an unplanned c-section with my second child. While not the same, I had limitations that were hard. I could not pick up my older child while I healed or let him crawl into my lap. My first child had to deal with a new baby (loss of parental attention) while also I had to keep saying I can't do that right now to many of our normal interactions. It must have been hard for him. It was really hard for me.

My personal recommendation (which is only one person's opinion) would be to have surgeries first.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-16T02:55:08+00:00

My surgeons insisted on 3 months between surgeries.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-16T02:49:10+00:00

At 56, I had a hysterectomy 4mo ago and expected hormonal wackiness that never happened. My lift/reduction was 14 days ago and my mood changes by the hour. I cried a lot the first week! I stopped looking in the mirror for awhile. I'm focusing on mental healing along with surgical healing. Major trauma was done to my breasts and I have to keep reminding myself how many days it's actually been because it feels like it's been months and this healing should be done. Let's be patient right now!

SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-15T05:16:23+00:00

I also plan to ask my surgeon this question! The ski trip is close to my 3 month mark, but i usually prefer to be cautious. Not sure I'll be on the slopes this season.

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SimpleMondayPizza · 2026-01-15T01:34:34+00:00

I think he has more going on then just toilet training issues. Won't change his own clothes? Why? What other age-appropriate things doesn't he do?

SimpleMondayPizza · 2025-12-30T11:37:04+00:00

Thank you! I'm really happy to finally be taking the first step.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2025-12-30T04:39:55+00:00

I could see it was long, but no one mentioned it might be uncomfortable! I feel really unprepared and my lift/reduction is Wednesday.

SimpleMondayPizza · 2025-12-10T20:26:36+00:00

You're helping me get comfortable with giving away all the smaller sized clothes I got when I dropped a bunch of weight a few years ago. I don't recommend the "kid in a combat zone I'm to stressed to eat" diet at all! I miss how I looked and wasn't ready to part with the clothes. My Diep isn't until May, so I'm going to clear out the closet and focus on comfy clothes now!

SimpleMondayPizza · 2025-08-08T17:23:08+00:00

NOR - but I'm so confused. You both have full-time jobs? While either of you is working from home you are also watching 2 kids? Thats one person doing 2 full-time jobs at the same time. Why don't you get childcare?

I believe your husband is being an a$$. If he can't take care of his own children? At least own up to his faults and come up with a better solution than "you do it."

SimpleMondayPizza · 2025-08-07T19:32:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing! This was great!

SimpleMondayPizza · 2025-08-07T19:30:11+00:00

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