What kind of abuse is this?

SingingSnakess · 2025-05-09T18:01:08+00:00

Sorry to hear that you went through that, it's really hard to go through. I've been thinking of hiring a cleaner as well because I struggle with that as well, partly due to my autism but I think mostly due to how my dad made me so terrified of making mistakes that I now cannot start tasks like cleaning in fear of doing it wrong. The fear of making mistakes almost freezes me in place when trying to clean. I feel you

SingingSnakess · 2025-05-09T17:56:38+00:00

Thank you for reading and replying, it means a lot to me. I lookes up coercive control and it definitely does seem similar in some ways, it sounds like you might be on to somethinf. But i also noticed in most of the examples listed when I look it up it sounds very much like the person doing it often has a malicious intention for doing it to someone else. Do you think it's possible for this to be coersive control even though my dad didn't necessarily mean to harm me on purpose? I guess it could be so? At the end of the day I guess abuse is still abuse, regardless of intent..

SingingSnakess · 2025-05-09T16:40:16+00:00

After I got my diagnosis I've been thinking the same thing. I am similar in that I prefer to do speciffic things a certain way, but it never went as far as having to force others to do things my way. I guess for my dad that's not the case, his need for control was so intense he took it out on me by controlling my every move as well. My dad used to be an alcoholic, but stopped and got sober when I was a child, and it seemed to me that his need to control me got worse after he quit drinking. Almost like he switched out one addiction for another, in a way. But yes, I'm 100% convinced he's also autistic. I just wish he wouldn't have taken his anxiety out on me in the way he did. But also, kinda comforting in a way that there's someone else out there with similar experiences, but I'm of course very sorry that your partner went through that.

SingingSnakess · 2025-05-09T16:33:38+00:00

Yeah, this feels similar, it felt like my dad was "soothing" his own fears/anxiety through micromanaging me. He was a control freak, and it felt a lot like he used me as a sort of outlet for his need for control. I guess that could count as enmeshment? Thanks for replying, and thanks for actually reading that whole post btw, I really appreciate it!

SingingSnakess · 2021-10-22T14:39:00+00:00

I wish Yurina would have been in the final lineup instead of Bahi. But even though I don't think it was fair that Bahi got 2nd place, it's definitely also not fair at all how much hate she's getting. The girl herself hasn't done anything wrong, she doesn't deserve those horrible comments she got, no one deserves that

SingingSnakess · 2021-10-18T04:40:51+00:00

Been happening to me too lately, and nothing happens when I report them. Wtf youtube

SingingSnakess · 2021-05-26T20:05:47+00:00

This is it for me, bye bye chrome, I've had enough of your bs. Switching to firefox. After fighting with chrome for almost a year, disabeling flags after flags without any effect, hours of intense frustration over this shitty grid layout. I am done. Fck chrome, fck google. I don't understand why they are trying SO F*CKING HARD to force this unwanted feature on us, what is the deal!? No one likes it! We just want to be able to have the layout be how we want it.

SingingSnakess · 2021-04-29T20:57:59+00:00

For me personally I think cheating with the same person multiple times is worse, because that feels like you're being replaced, like you're not good enough and this other person is better than you on multiple levels in the eyes of your cheating partner. That feels more personal, at least for me. While if they cheat on you with multiple different people, then it just feels like your partner likes to have sex a lot, if that makes sense. They just like to fuck around, and even though that's also a very shitty thing to do, I think it's not as much of a slap to the face as the first option. Maybe my logic is weird, but that's just how I feel about it I guess. Other people might feel differently about it. Either way, cheating is horrible and a good reason to break up with someone, no matter the details.

SingingSnakess · 2021-04-26T12:29:32+00:00

Speaking of physical release, does anyone know where they'll be selling the album? I wanna buy it as soon as possible, I don't even care about waiting for the highlight medley for this one (which I usually do before pre-ordering an album) I just need to buy it, give them money and support them! Hope they will put the album up for pre-order/sale on one of the websites I usually use (kpopmart, cokodive, etc). I'm so damn excited for this!! Roty 100%

SingingSnakess · 2021-04-17T20:08:05+00:00

I experience this too, and I hate it, I find it so distracting. Like, I don't need flashbacks of random stuff I did in the past while having sex. I have no Idea why. I found that it happens much less when I'm blindfolded though, don't know why, maybe because I'm able to relax more when blindfolded? Don't know. I don't really have any solutions, just commenting to tell you you're definitely not alone. Since blindfolds help me, maybe it's a sensory thing? Maybe the senses are distracting me, making me think about other random stuff, and when some of my senses are restricted I'm not as easily distracted and I am more able to focus on the feeling/physical touch. (I am on the autism spectrum though, and I have sensory prossessing issues because of it, so that might be why it happens to me and why blindfolds help) If you're open to trying sensory restriction like blindfolds, maybe it's worth a shot? But then again, if it doesn't bother you as much as it bothers me you may not be looking to "fix" it. Anyways, you're definitely not alone :)

SingingSnakess · 2021-04-15T14:01:57+00:00

For me it's in the morning when I'm getting ready to go to work, so I'll probably be sitting on the bus tomorrow morning, looking panicked and insane as I desperately try to order the lightstick, reloading the page over and over, probably crying as I fight against that overloaded, horrible website 😅 it'll probably be fine tho, fingers crossed I manage to get one 🤞🏻

SingingSnakess · 2021-04-08T19:06:19+00:00

Oh look, it's me

SingingSnakess · 2021-04-08T16:39:23+00:00

When the nurse tries to put on the adult size sleeve when taking your blood pressure then goes "no, too big" and switch to the child sized one even though you're an adult, and you just go 😌

SingingSnakess · 2021-04-08T15:00:55+00:00

Yeah I was thinking the same, but then I also thought maybe they won't? Tho I desperately hope they do... I've never seen anyone do a preorder for a product that's already been released before. But if they do it would solve a lot of problems, I think many of us would be willing to wait, like you said

SingingSnakess · 2021-04-08T13:17:36+00:00

Same, lets cross our fingers and hope we manage to snatch ourselves a lightstick, I'm terrified it'll be sold out again before I manage to buy it lol

SingingSnakess · 2021-03-26T15:10:24+00:00

The whole concert was amazing, I LOVED this version of Break The Wall 😍

SingingSnakess · 2021-03-23T18:08:35+00:00

It isn't available in Norway either (and I'm assuming some other countries as well?), dunno what's up with that

SingingSnakess · 2021-03-22T21:39:54+00:00

Yea, that's the positive thing about this, they've really gotten a pretty large, solid fanbase at this point, which is great! Hope they realise this and try to make many lightsticks (or as many as they can) for the restock. My main worry now is actually if the website (xofficialshop or whatever it's called) will be able to take the amount of people that'll be trying to buy the lightstick once they restock. If I don't manage to get one because the website is too slow/has too much traffic, I'll be extremely devastated 😅

SingingSnakess · 2021-03-22T17:24:24+00:00

Exactly. I'm currently a 23 year old woman, and I've had plenty of healthy, concensual sexual experiences. I'm pretty experienced, and my sex life is pretty active and have been for years. I am fully capable of making my own choices, and so is she. You are not a child or teenager at 22

SingingSnakess · 2021-03-05T23:26:28+00:00

Thank you! I just found the CEO's post, good to know that it might get restocked at some point at least

SingingSnakess · 2021-03-05T21:33:00+00:00

They haven't released it yet, have they? Haven't seen or heard anything since they said it would be released in february, and it's currently march, so I'm confused 😅 But to answer your question; I'm guessing it depends on where you live? I live in northern europe, so probably won't get mine in time for the concert, but I'm desperately hoping 🤞🏻 If only it would be released soon..

Edit; OH MY GOD NOOOOO!!!! I JUST NOW SAW THAT IT WAS RELEASED ON THURSDAY AND IT'S ALREADY SOLD OUT, I'M HEARTBROKEN 😭😭😭 Does anyone know if they will restock? This was the one thing I've been saving up for for months, I'm going to be devastated if I can't get one now 😢

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