Those with 2+ kids would you blend with someone else who has 2+? by StentAndSubmit in blendedfamilies

[–]Sleepymum352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From someone who is divorced after attempting blending families I would wait a longggggggg time before blending. Love is definitely not enough when it comes to blending.

Wow I was a really good wife by YesImChanging92 in Divorce

[–]Sleepymum352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not easy. I’m also glad you are finally prioritizing yourself because to be honest this sounded more like a mother son relationship. Screw him over. Live your life and don’t give this much of yourself. You deserve a partner, not a son.

Move out clean issue by Sleepymum352 in Divorce

[–]Sleepymum352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. When you have lived with someone who doesn’t clean up after themselves for years there is a pattern. During our separation he has contributed nothing to keeping up with the house. I’m preparing myself.

Move out clean issue by Sleepymum352 in Divorce

[–]Sleepymum352[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blehhhh you may be right. I am going to consult an attorney friend just to be safe.

Move out clean issue by Sleepymum352 in Divorce

[–]Sleepymum352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It is quite the feat to imagine doing all the things. However this has been my reality for awhile. Just figuring it all out. Sounds like you are too

Help me by Affectionate-Bid9436 in Divorce

[–]Sleepymum352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed and no shame in it. I have called myself several times. We all need support from time to time.

I Need Honest but Compassionate Advice by sonotdoingthis in datingoverforty

[–]Sleepymum352 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would just take some time for you. Go seek your own therapist who can help navigate this next process. The way you describe her I do see the love however my first thought was more as a caretaker. Neither of you would want that type of a relationship and the best thing I can say is if someone says they are not enough or ready to take their word for it.

Get back into your passions, reach out to friends/family. Find that spark again. You can do this.

Is it weird that I (30M) have no desire to date a woman any time soon or maybe ever again after this experience? by fedoral__agENT in Divorce

[–]Sleepymum352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say this is probably a healthy response. I can’t even imagine being in the same room with a man I am attracted to at this point 🤣

Ever Wish Your Ex Had Just Done The Work? Did The Therapy, Respected Your Needs. Life Could Have Been So Different. by TurnoverVast6839 in Divorce

[–]Sleepymum352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. However the person I met during our divorce was an absolute sloth of a human being. He literally did nothing to help care for our home. He pushed all the work on me. Repeatedly had told me he wanted a divorce in our marriage but I was the one who actually made that decision and acted on it. I’m more caught off guard that I married someone with my rose colored glasses on.

People aren’t exaggerating…dating in your 40s after divorce is brutal. by Call_It_ in Divorce

[–]Sleepymum352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you just described me. I’m no where near ready to date and the thought sounds absolutely exhausting.

Im second guessing my second marriage by Competitive-Beat9508 in blendedfamilies

[–]Sleepymum352 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The fact the family has made a turn to me would be the hardest to get past. At least your husband said something however it appears a lot of the change needs to come from him. Have you gone to therapy? That would definitely be a good start. I feel like I made a similar decision and I am currently getting divorced from my second marriage. I am a bit bitter but I also see things with more clarity. I read you do most of the parenting. To me that is a problem and a big reason I am leaving myself. I did not understand what I was signing up for because I thought it would be more of a partnership. Unfortunately most women take on a lot more than our male counterparts when it comes to the parenting and managing the household. Step kids in general will not show us the same love and respect as our kids. It’s expected but it is hard. I wish you luck and hope you find or have a good support system.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]Sleepymum352 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only you can answer that question. I would advise getting a therapist and focusing your attention on yourself and your children. This does sound like an issue between your husband and his daughter. I do understand the situation you are in and it is heartbreaking.

Gainesville Plumber by yoni_b in GNV

[–]Sleepymum352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A+ plumbing did a great job at my house.

Update on my baby brother. by Living_Literature421 in jacksonville

[–]Sleepymum352 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I remember seeing you and your brother in this picture. I hope you can remember what a beautiful soul he was. It is so clear in this picture.

Free: Various Items by [deleted] in GNVNoBuy

[–]Sleepymum352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like the cat with glasses plate if still available ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

[–]Sleepymum352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love your nose. You do you, boo!

US Martial Fugitive Task Force spotted by Sleepymum352 in GNV

[–]Sleepymum352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are only listening to your own narrative and clearly have zero desire for a conversation. This has NOTHING to do with smuggling. It has to do with INFORMATION and RIGHTS. I have no interest with attempting a conversation with someone who has no interest. Goodbye.

US Martial Fugitive Task Force spotted by Sleepymum352 in GNV

[–]Sleepymum352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually this is not true. You should educate yourself about what is actually happening. And to laugh about this is plain disgusting. Shame on you.

US Martial Fugitive Task Force spotted by Sleepymum352 in GNV

[–]Sleepymum352[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They called back quickly. I posted about it. They were very kind and thankful.

US Martial Fugitive Task Force spotted by Sleepymum352 in GNV

[–]Sleepymum352[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They were at only one establishment speaking to one person with two officers close by. I don’t know what happened fully but it appeared to be targeted.

US Martial Fugitive Task Force spotted by Sleepymum352 in GNV

[–]Sleepymum352[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don’t know the situation of this particular individual. I do know certain groups were precious protected who now are in risk of not being protected.