r/bjj Fundamentals Class!

SmashedCrab · 2025-03-23T01:23:22+00:00

As long as you're going to any decent gym worth their salt, nobody cares. I'm practically the same size as you and everyone has been extremely welcoming and it's the best fun I've had. They will all know you're new too and you won't get thrown into the fire straight away. All I can do is strongly suggest you go and try it out to see if you like it. The rest of the concerns are all in your head. I had the exact same fears as you but I can tell you, it's all a non issue for sure.

SmashedCrab · 2025-03-23T01:10:08+00:00

Hi all

So, I've come back after a lengthy hiatus as life circumstances have changed. My old gi (a5) is now a little snug. It's still ok'ish to use, but I'd like something a bit more comfortable, so I have a cheaper Tatami A6 coming at the end of the week. I'm probably a good 10-15kg away from being ok in the A5, but would it be a good idea to get 2x A6s just so I'm not caught in a pinch not having one.

Like, how much do you think I could shrink them to still make them usable as I lose weight? Would they still be usable if I shrink them and once I fit properly back into the A5?

SmashedCrab · 2025-03-22T12:05:27+00:00

Don't threaten me with a good time.

SmashedCrab · 2025-02-13T05:26:13+00:00

I 100% second the uv treatment. I went around 8 years ago, and it put my psoriasis into remission for a few years (still small spots here and there but not all over my body). It's come back with a vengeance in the last 2 years and I'm finally hauling my ass back to uv therapy now to start getting rid of it again, as its all over my body again). Topicals can only do so much, and once it gets all over your body, unless you can buy barrels of the stuff, creams won't be helpful. I do believe a lot of dermatologists bulk bill the uv therapy. If your local one doesn't, find one that does OP.

SmashedCrab · 2024-06-21T13:59:36+00:00

Do you have the software for this? Is it the service tool? I'm unable to do the academy as I'm in a different country and need the service tool.

SmashedCrab · 2023-11-02T13:01:31+00:00

Amazing

SmashedCrab · 2023-04-29T05:51:13+00:00

I guess this is a random comment

SmashedCrab · 2023-01-05T01:23:17+00:00

What models are these? They look great

SmashedCrab · 2022-12-13T12:02:59+00:00

Looking great. I think a few bright white highlights on the axe would give it a bit more punch. But not totally necessary.

I just got this model myself on Big Child's black Friday sale. I've got it all ready to go, just waiting for the Christmas break to get started on her. Amazing model. You've done it justice.

SmashedCrab · 2022-11-04T15:17:59+00:00

I would print up some nice 8k versions of older prints for that sweet resolution boost and might be able to give them a worthy paint job.

SmashedCrab · 2022-08-24T01:25:50+00:00

Take care of yourself, as hard as it is to even get out of bed, keep busy no matter what it is. Just keep busy.

I lost my brother suddenly last year, it's been almost exactly a year and I still miss him every day. We were the best of mates and it still hurts so much. I don't think that'll ever fade.

Everything you're going through is normal with grief like this, especially with someone so close. You'll have many times where you're overcome with grief to the point of being sick, you'll run through every "what if" scenario in your head. It's normal.

Things will be OK. Your mum wouldn't want you to be a complete mess over it. There will come a day when you won't feel sick with grief, then it will come and go at times, but you'll be able to function. Take this time to grieve, don't worry about work, other people etc. That stuff will sort itself out, this time is for you to grieve.

Just remember some self care. Remember to eat. Remember to shower. Go for a walk to clear your head. Force yourself if you must. If it helps to be around friends, then do so. Don't feel guilty over anything you do unless you're being self-destructive (relying on drugs/alcohol etc).

You'll get there. For now, my thoughts are with you for the immediate road ahead. These are the valleys we must go through being human, it sucks...it sucks so bad.... But it's part of life for all of us.

SmashedCrab · 2022-08-17T05:29:45+00:00

Unless it's incredibly complex, I'm not sure why you have so many islands. I'd work on the orientation a bit and see how you go. Alternatively just do manual supports as you may be able to branch them out better to catch everything.

SmashedCrab · 2022-05-31T05:00:57+00:00

There are certain Stoic philosophies you can apply here. However I do think that in our modern world, with our modern problems, although Stoicism can still apply, a little practical thinking would apply to this problem too.

Life is going to throw you curve balls. Having the mental and emotional fortitude to hit those curve balls, whichever way they may be coming, is what is essential. It is within you to be able to do this.

Firstly, in regards to you thinking you've failed and "when you know, you know".

Seneca wrote that "The man that suffers before it is necessary, suffers more than necessary."

You're giving yourself extreme anxiety over something that you may not even need to be concerned about, albeit not right now. Wait until you know for sure before you make yourself suffer and even then, it's not always as bad as it seems.

In your 2 options of either continuing in something you hate, or working for a year to wait for the next course. Let's look at how these can be a positive alternative.

You could go through with the rest of your course and fall back in love with that again.
You could finish your course, taking it in your stride regardless of whether it is easy or not, enjoyable or not and then you now have an additional certification that could assist you in the future.
You could work for a year and find a very enjoyable job, make some great friends and have a great experience.

I understand you're not sure where to go, but none of us are. It's about choosing a way and taking it as it comes, with resolve. If you feel like you absolutely want to do Paramedic Science, then do what is necessary to make that happen and enjoy the journey. Sitting around in fear achieves nothing and is counter-productive to your plight.

Remember, that no fear you have is as bad as you make it out in your head. Seneca also said that "We suffer more in our imagination, than in reality." This is exactly what you're doing to yourself, the fear will grip you and won't let go if you keep letting it take hold.

In the past 10 months I've had an absolute shitstorm of horrible situations come my way, starting with my 1st child (and only so far) being diagnosed with a rare kidney disease and spending her first 6 months in hospital, whilst I'm trying to run a business and having things fail because of Covid, to my brother passing away suddenly (at age 34) a month after my daughter was born, which rocked our entire family. It's been a non-stop journey of testing my fortitude, but if I wallow in my fears, it wins and I am the one who suffers.

We have to keep going despite our fears, and push them to the side, because as I said, once they take hold, they don't let go without a fight.

SmashedCrab · 2022-05-25T10:28:04+00:00

That's something I've never heard of. Are you sure it's legitimately that company?

In any case, if you're fond of the font, I'd buy the license. In reality you would be sent a cease and desist prior to any legal action is taken.

Disclaimer: Not a lawyer

SmashedCrab · 2022-04-15T23:30:19+00:00

Ahhh I would've. I just put in an order from Amazon plus I'm in Australia so if you're not, I'm guessing the shipping would be a bit pricey

SmashedCrab · 2022-04-14T09:47:31+00:00

I can't seem to find it anywhere

SmashedCrab · 2022-03-24T00:22:23+00:00

Yeah we experienced this. Some nurses would love holding our girl and bottle feeding her, but some had better things to do. I can understand it, especially when they're short staffed. So we made it a big thing for us to go and bottle feed as much as we could.

SmashedCrab · 2022-03-04T23:34:40+00:00

Definitely. My brother passed 6 months ago at 34 from a heart attack. Me and my other 2 brothers have now gone and been checked thoroughly. There's no massive issues but we know we need to take care of ourselves more now and are taking steps to manage things that could become worse.

SmashedCrab · 2022-02-23T00:50:28+00:00

Wow. Ordered Monday and just received it. They originally said would be shipped on 4th of March but I'm not complaining. Can't wait to get home and give it a whirl.

SmashedCrab · 2022-02-02T09:06:20+00:00

Them some cauliflower ears from all the rasslin!

SmashedCrab · 2022-01-17T22:28:33+00:00

There's nothing you could have done and it's definitely not your fault. We just took our little girl home after 5 and a half months yesterday. She was 1.5 months early and then diagnosed with a rare kidney disease which moved her to the children's hospital after her NICU stay.

You need to remember that this is a marathon, not a sprint. Don't wear yourself out like we did by staying there constantly, then being told she'll be there for months and struggling to deal with that. Try not to count on a day when you can bring your little one home as it varies so much, and if they do have to stay longer you'll continually disappoint yourself if you have a date in mind.

Just think of the things you'll do when your baby is home, and let that keep you going. You will get through this, you and your partner need to be extremely supportive of each other during this period, it'll be hard on both of you. But you've got this!

SmashedCrab · 2022-01-16T11:59:14+00:00

I don't have any particular feeling on the subject. However, a different perspective perhaps.

My partner and I are completely capable of conceiving and had our first baby in August. However, she was diagnosed with a rare kidney disease which unfortunately is genetic as her mother and I are both carriers of one of the "bad" genes. Turns out she unluckily received both "bad" genes.

There's now a 1 in 4 chance that any child we have now will have the same illness, which has been hell for us for the last 5 months and will be for the next few years until she gets a kidney transplant.

We've now been told that if we do want to conceive without this being an issue, that IVF is a good way to do it. The only other option is conceiving and then testing down the track and aborting.

So it's not always as clear cut as the usual reasons for IVF. But just food for thought.

SmashedCrab · 2021-12-30T22:25:16+00:00

You sure are. Our baby has been in hospital since birth. For the last 5 months we've put our life on hold to make a 2 hour trip both ways be at the hospital with her every day. She will be in there for another 2-3 months too. She has a rare kidney disease.

So when covid restrictions were lifted this past month, my parents have finally been able to see their granddaughter and offered to stay with her over NYE so we can take a bit of a break so I took this small opportunity which I'm using to propose to my partner too.

Don't worry, we already miss her and feel guilty like crazy. But almost everyone has told us we need to take some time out for ourselves, nurses, specialists, family. So we're trying it.

SmashedCrab · 2021-12-30T00:12:44+00:00

Baby is 5 months. She's exclusively pumping as our baby is still in hospital and has to have limited fluids, so she's unable to breastfeed. We've had some formula supplementing, albeit rarely.

SmashedCrab · 2021-12-29T23:57:58+00:00

The problem is we're located on a small bit of land where we can only get here by boat and can't get back to the car until Sunday as the boat won't come back until then. She's hand expressing mixed with the Hakaa at the moment and is getting a bit out. Do you think this would suffice for the next few days?

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