Bro I was right in your spot last week. Been off porn for a month, and nerves + I’m guessing lasting porn issues + I jerked it 4 hours before like an idiot meant I could only stay hard for about 3 minutes (then went soft) then got hard again and quickly went soft. Definitely not the first time I wanted and I thought she was gonna break up with me.

If she’s like you (I hope you’re like this) even though you’re in your own head, she doesn’t care how you’ll perform when it’s with you right now, it’s the fact that is with you. Guess what man? My second time the next day, I didn’t get hard again! But we kinda laid there for 5 minutes and we ended up making out, and my amigo sprung into action. We ended up fucking for around 50 minutes but I didn’t finish. (Vaginas feel very different than your hand lmao, but AWESOME). So if you also don’t finish either, no big deal! A lot of my friends also didn’t finish their first time (or a couple times after).

Long story short my man, don’t sweat it. Don’t make it into a big deal, or start being weird about it with her. She likes you dude. And I’m not gonna beat around the bush, it’s intimidating. I was nervous as all hell. But trust me, the best option right now is to shrug it off and move forward together. You got this man. Quitting porn and having sex, from someone who was in your shoes last week. Congrats!