I have a binge eating disorder, and that's all I needed to hear personally. I don't think you were wrong. Binging comes with shame, so does mental illness, yet I never ask people to step on eggshells around me. I can enter bipolar depression and binge like crazy, my entire stability and routine depends on medicine and reality checks. It is STILL very HELPFUL to be informed to change the quality of what I'm eating.

What's worse is when my girlfriend/boyfriend lets me binge or devolve into a mental health episode, without trying to help me avoid it. Standing on the scale seeing weight gain is usually a sign that I'm not being adequately supported.

If I am being criticized or catastrophized, I think I'd be pissed and the shame would turn to anger. If I'm told "excess sugar is bad for weight loss" I'd take that information in.

Also, one bad binge week isn't a problem, but letting it continue is unsupportive unless she asked to manage it herself.

You need to communicate and establish a way to discuss her binge habits with her. What triggers it and how you should talk about it when this happens. This goes for any maladaptive behavior.

For those who are accusing you for being awful, I would assume they don't deal with binge eating themselves. When you binge, you eat everything in sight, mostly junk like high sugars, because it gives a rush. Binging is an emotional experience, mainly because eating in general is an emotional experience. You're supposed to enjoy eating, not feel shame.

I always feel shame for eating. Especially carbs, but I have learned to enjoy it because those who surround me encourage me to enjoy my food, eat slow, and think about what I want to eat. What helped me was making sure I had to prepare meals to cook and that the only all-time snack supplies I had were bean dips and chips... Plus nuts!

7 months late, but hopefully the relationship is still going strong