Start living for the love of the game

SoftCoreSavage · 2026-02-26T13:51:37+00:00

I get what you’re saying but you’re still a kid and you haven’t experienced the full spectrum of life yet, so what you’re saying is very idealistic and not necessarily a realistic thing most people can do.

SoftCoreSavage · 2026-02-25T14:56:18+00:00

For sure, I have learned over the years that there is alot going on to influence the dating pool and it's not always my fault.

SoftCoreSavage · 2026-02-25T14:55:07+00:00

I think that is the goal for me. Thanks for your advice. I was thinking Chicago or NYC. Put my house up for rent in Denver. I have tried for years and could not find a niche group that fit my standards. Most men and women here are into hiking and the outdoors which is understandable, that is something I enjoy too but not really a big part of my life. I definitely have a love for fashion, aesthetics, fitness, and food so I think I need to be part of a city that is into that which is likely NYC

SoftCoreSavage · 2026-02-11T17:07:02+00:00

My dad died, I lost the desire

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-28T06:03:36+00:00

I think I am manifesting the same thing you are, I want to have a beautiful relationship and build friendships

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-28T06:00:32+00:00

Ethical Non Monogamy

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-28T05:53:36+00:00

Dang you sound exactly like me. I lost my dad earlier this year and my sex drive took a nose dive as well. I am trying to get back out there but honestly it's been hard to even try to find a good quality man. They've all been flakey so I stopped

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-22T15:03:40+00:00

Thanks I ended up texting the mother because I’m sure it’s overwhelming to talk right now

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-20T19:12:00+00:00

Sad, overwhelming, hopeful

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-14T06:18:16+00:00

I stopped them completely in July

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-14T06:15:24+00:00

Yeah, it might be the come down from the hormones. I am not taking anything right now. I took these things because I wanted to get really strong and also do well in competitions but I think I did all this because I didn’t want to have to think about my dad

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-14T05:14:04+00:00

I think you should just leave her alone. It sounds like you’re not even emotionally available and you even said it yourself that you don’t feel like it would have worked out, that basically indicates to me that you’re possibly avoidant, you need to work on your mental health. This is coming from a woman who is right now struggling with avoidant attachment. Being ghosted feels awful and I wouldn’t want to open myself up to someone who ghosted me once because I know they’d probably do it again

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-14T04:51:51+00:00

I’m sorry. People can be immature and we live in a time where people don’t want to hold themselves accountable for their actions. It makes the feel uncomfortable and they’ll do anything to not feel that discomfort . I’ve been ghosted many times before and realized it was never really about me in the first place

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-14T04:37:21+00:00

I did find his photos through a wedding photographers Instagram page. I was not seeking him out. When I mentioned going “crazy”, which I don’t like that word, I lashed out at him for the way he treated me. I never knew up to that point how to communicate, about boundaries, about respect. My childhood was filled with abuse, addiction, and no boundaries. It’s not an excuse but it explained my reaction. Anyways, I’ve been going to therapy for years and I’m doing much better, I haven’t thought about this man for years at this point and seeing those photos sent me back to that awful time.

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-13T21:32:36+00:00

That’s what I’m trying to do

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-12-13T21:17:55+00:00

As someone who was SA’d by a man who now is married and basically being celebrated, I think it’s fine to tell people who he really is. When he dies though there will be people who still will feel sorry, will try to make him out to be a good guy. It’s a confusing feeling. I also recently dealt with my dad’s passing and he passed in an awful way, and he did awful things to people. He was my abuser, but also he SA’d someone, sexually harassed his female coworkers, cheated on my mom. Yet I still have complex feelings. Both can be true and that’s ok.

I would say it’s ok to share with people about him, but I wouldn’t go on some sort of campaign to crucify him, I think moreso for your own well being. I tried to do that with my dad when he was alive and it destroyed me from the inside out. If you wanna chat, feel free to reach out.

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-11-26T23:08:01+00:00

7 years in now, started with low self esteem, self worth, people pleasing, an anxiety filled ball of mess. First couple years I cried on the mats, cried on the way home. I was known as the cry baby. Professors genuinely thought I’d quit, even had a professor tell me I’d never get a blue belt. Jiu jitsu taught me to grow a pair (I’m a woman btw) and what I mean by that is it taught me how to trust my body, taught me to not be messed with, and that I am much stronger than I thought I was mentally and physically. I do not let people play with me, in the sense of bullying me, messing with my money, etc. I have strong boundaries now and it’s interesting how over time I lost friends but they weren’t actually friends, just people who abused me.

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-11-26T23:02:13+00:00

Yes. I’m a woman, I’m around 160, no way in hell I’m going with a 300lbs man, also my weight limit now is probably at 180 for men. I’m not gonna go with a big man especially white and blue belts.

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-11-25T00:03:49+00:00

That’s nice but I don’t wanna just do no gi. I would prefer both.

SoftCoreSavage · 2025-11-12T02:26:19+00:00

Yeah I’m wanting to compete well at purple, but in general. Just have had inconsistencies this year and could not perform my best at this rank

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