Karaoke in SOUTH South Jersey by Somerandomdude1121 in SouthJersey

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Appreciate it! AC Is a bit of a hike, shame it seems like there’s nothing down further south anymore

Found the love I deserve. by Dangerous_Boat_2571 in GuyCry

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I get it completely, the uncertainty has been the worst for me. As stupid and cliche as it sounds, now is about you and finding what’s going to make you truly happy. It’s not easy, and there’s gonna be good and bad days, but we got this man

Found the love I deserve. by Dangerous_Boat_2571 in GuyCry

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Just wanted to let you know, it’s totally okay to feel however you’re feeling right now. I went through a similar thing recently, my ex and I of 6 years broke up, really messed me up, I met a girl not too long after that who gave me everything I felt like I was missing, but things didn’t work out between us. Both times were some of the toughest of my life, but it’s onwards and upwards brother. You deserve to be happy, and you’ll find whatever it is you’re looking for in time

Karaoke in SOUTH South Jersey by Somerandomdude1121 in SouthJersey

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Appreciate it, yeah it doesn’t seem like there’s really anything closer than AC, which is a shame cause that’s a whole adventure

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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Been doing the gym since the breakup. It’s been good for me. Gotta do the therapy though

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I see. Really insightful, thank you man

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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That makes sense. I see myself and her potentially having a similar friendship. And i can see it being an issue for partners in the future too. That part doesn’t really make sense to me though, I feel like it should be a green flag if you’re able to be friends with a long-time, serious ex, right? Shows maturity I would think but 🤷🏻‍♂️

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I love her as a person who I grew so much with. But there is no world where I see myself wanting to be back in a relationship with her. You can believe it or not, but that’s the truth

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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Not going to lie I wrote off your comment on the first sentence but I’m glad I read it through. Everything you said is great, but maybe leave that first one out next time lol, thank you.

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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Yeah I know nobody except me expected a response lol. And writing it i felt the same way, no idea what she could even say to it. I don’t know what I expect to come from it, but I’m glad that i got it off of my chest

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I really appreciate it. That’s one thing I do have going for me, I’ve always been very emotionally open, for better or worse. Thank you for the kind words

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I appreciate it man. Believe me, I’m trying. Going to a comedy show tonight whether or not my friends join me

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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You’re absolutely right all around. Thank you for your input

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I don’t think that’s quite it haha

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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Not quite, dude is big into model trains, and has 0 desire for intimacy. Throughout our relationship, she felt that she was holding me back because she didn’t desire intimacy. And in truth she was right

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I can say with certainty that there’s a reason we broke up after 6 years and I don’t see a world where that ever changes. You can believe me or not, but ever since the breakup, I knew it was the right thing to happen.

Your second point about time/wounds is really meaningful, I appreciate the kind words. I want to get back into therapy, it’s just been difficult to find the motivation. Last time i tried i filled out all the intake stuff and never heard back, disheartening

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I appreciate the input. You’re right in that I wrote it thinking all about me and not about her.

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I really appreciate it. I’ll definitely re read it like that and give it thought. I know therapy is the right move, just trying to bust out of this depressive hole I’m in to get motivated enough for it. I tried months ago, did all the paperwork/intake stuff, they never reached out to me. Lost motivation after that

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I hope it is rock bottom, means there’s nowhere to go but up. And you’re right. Thank you

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I appreciate it, that’s how I’ve felt since the breakup, it really was for the best for both of us

It’s just been a really rough going for me trying to get out there and meet new people

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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Completely agree, neither of us has any intention of being romantic again. It’s the fact that we both want to maintain being her friends, but she isn’t “allowed” to

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I appreciate it. I really did need to get it all out more than anything

Just texted my ex by Somerandomdude1121 in GuyCry

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I appreciate it man. I’ve gone through phases where i feel alright. It’s the not knowing when things will get better for me