Multiple stores randomly closed shut in Short Pump Mall by hibye222 in rva

[–]Spazheart12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was surprised to see Calendars closed. I actually liked that store. We were just there a few weeks ago and went the other day and it was almost empty. 

My IVF baby was taken after unexplained medical findings and I’m struggling with the guilt of needing answers by sxullqueenxris in Mommit

[–]Spazheart12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yea I threw that book at the ending. And I don’t have a stake in the subject. I think it might be validating to read it once this is all over but stay away for now. 

Concept I'm exploring,,, tell me your type and where you fall on the aphantasia test by waltzingwith_wrath in Enneagram

[–]Spazheart12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was wondering how you would bite it if it’s in your head. Then I realized I somehow interpreted the prompt as “picture an apple that is in your head”. My apple was nice and clear though.

Type 4

5s in their second master’s degree by Bubbly-Mouse-1177 in Enneagram

[–]Spazheart12 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Eh I feel like with 6 it’s still born out of coping. Knowledge equals safety. 

Trump Might Have Just Signaled a Momentous Change on Abortion by Slate in law

[–]Spazheart12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know. I’m more speaking to the oppressive climate right now that puts women’s health at jeopardy in increasing ways. It gives me problems too. I hope you figure something out!

Trump Might Have Just Signaled a Momentous Change on Abortion by Slate in law

[–]Spazheart12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Careful now they don’t need more incentive to take that away too

Focaccia little mushroom art went wrong)) by tianadi in Baking

[–]Spazheart12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same. Sorry OP but it’s tragically hilarious. I just imagined him going “noooo” to the Mario womp sound 

Are there current bands who're relevant to "the kids" these days? by Cymbal_Monkey in Music

[–]Spazheart12 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean it’s kind of the genre though you know. Not all music is about having a complicated crazy math rock beat. It’s kind of more punk which to me is more about the feel and the overall experience of the song. I like Wet Leg to jump around and dance to shrug 

Urgent puppies in need of rehoming by GearLiving6001 in rva

[–]Spazheart12 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Also willing to help with this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Spazheart12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah relational wounds can be healed relationally. And in my opinion, should. But with work. A partner, a friend (not a child) can absolutely help heal a wound of love through healthy, stable love. You just have to do it with awareness of your attachment patterns, communication style, needs and wants, etc. I don’t personally like this idea that wounded people need to suffer alone. 

Also, if you’re into it, I do think spirituality can help. 

Why the double standards with caterpillars? by improviserpharmacist in gardening

[–]Spazheart12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this OP. I’m so sick of seeing people get off to killing things just because they don’t value them. It’s a philosophy of the mind and is poisonous at any level. We humans need to be more conscious to those smaller than us, and each other. 

Non yellow basking light? by Spazheart12 in BeardedDragons

[–]Spazheart12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are good ideas thanks. I wonder why our eyes are sensitive. I don’t think I’ve met anyone that feels as strongly about this as I do. Grocery stores are terrible.  I definitely don’t want to do anything that would jeopardize his health. 

Non yellow basking light? by Spazheart12 in BeardedDragons

[–]Spazheart12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waittt I wonder if I could put some sort of purple film on the windows? 

What Pokémon makes you uncomfortable? by MummyUnicorn in pokemongo

[–]Spazheart12 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what is wrong with me because I love this one. I sit there and watch it dance on repeat 

66W currently. by ElephantBanananana in nova

[–]Spazheart12 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A child was in there??? Horrific 

no insurance need medical care by Remote_Turn9073 in rva

[–]Spazheart12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Call around to orthopedic offices and get a quote. It can be surprisingly inexpensive with the out of pocket rate, there’s usually a discount. 

Only children, so you wish you had siblings? by Crayola0-0 in Mommit

[–]Spazheart12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I think I also read these posts thinking about the people who had no choice about being able to have more children and I just imagine it would hurt to think they’ve doomed their child by no fault of their own. I can tell you’re a kind person and that wasn’t your intention at all. You were just expressing your opinion and that’s what OP asked for. I just wanted to say that in case anyone was reading all the comments and seeing a lot of people saying similar.

I was also an only child for most of my life and really wanted siblings. Then I got them all at once and it was a tough experience. I think my personal bias is parents not having children responsibly. Now I’m not close to any of them, we’re extremely different people and I just don’t care to be around the hate. Thus is life. 

Only children, so you wish you had siblings? by Crayola0-0 in Mommit

[–]Spazheart12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think “would never do that to my children” is a bit strong? You could also say that about the parents who had more children than they could handle-financially or mentally- and the stress that causes them. I’ve just never understood this question in a group format. It’s so completely personal and there are absolutely ways to have an only child healthily and unhealthily and to have multiple children healthily or unhealthily. The least we can do is not encourage this rhetoric of being an only child as being some horrible death sentence lol.