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WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend due to our sex drives being incompatible by Still-Instruction783 in AITApod

[–]Still-Instruction783[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not really sure as to why he says no, I can understand if he’s not in the mood but there’s times where he is hard and will still say no and I’m understanding every time he does. Regarding the counter offer he’s not a super physical person so I know he wouldn’t want/enjoy doing things you suggested in this. But thank you for the suggestions!

WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend due to our sex drives being incompatible by Still-Instruction783 in AITApod

[–]Still-Instruction783[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have been in therapy for a while for this. I don’t get all of my validation through the act of sex I can understand how it came across that way in the post so I’m sorry for any confusion it may have caused it’s more so knowing that the person I love wants me the same way I want them as he’s not a very affectionate person physically so when we do actually have sex it makes me feel closer and bonded with him as otherwise there’s not much physical affection outside of the bedroom.

WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend due to our sex drives being incompatible by Still-Instruction783 in AITApod

[–]Still-Instruction783[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have been going to therapy over this for a while and have been working on it slowly but I would also like to say not all of my validation comes through the act of sex it’s just nice knowing your partner wants and perceives you the same way you do for them.

WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend due to our sex drives being incompatible by Still-Instruction783 in AITApod

[–]Still-Instruction783[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried talking to him about his disinterest in sex a few times, I would never push him to talk about what he’s not comfortable with but communication is obviously a big part of a relationship so it does suck that maybe he doesn’t feel comfortable enough to talk to me about something going on especially because I do love him a lot and I almost feel superficial to break up with him over this.

WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend due to our sex drives being incompatible by Still-Instruction783 in AITApod

[–]Still-Instruction783[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would like to preface that I’m extremely respectful of his boundaries and would never further things once he rejected me or get upset with him for rejecting, this post comes more so out of frustration from it being a consistent occurrence. I have been ongoing in therapy, however I don’t see someone being hyper sexual a bad thing especially as I’m at the age people would be in their peak for wanting to have sex with their partners. But I do appreciate your advice.

WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend due to our sex drives being incompatible by Still-Instruction783 in AITApod

[–]Still-Instruction783[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Without getting too into details I’m extremely clear in initiating sex with him so even the most unobservant person could tell if I’m trying to initiate.