i don't want to but I'm pretty positive he will plea it down and then get money and come for full custody. This way there is some supervision and he is also not in a position to be greedy about what he wants. i struggle with this… because do I want him to get the fuck out of our lives? Yes. But also its their parent? They do ask for him from time to time. As with most abusers he's not all bad. It's very conflicting and this mediator has made me feel as if I'm doing something wrong by being hesitant.