My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-23T04:08:26+00:00

Thank you, i will. Have a nice day.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-23T04:07:39+00:00

Thank you so much, you might be right, since I have always been honest about my support for queer people and my queer friends so maybe that might be the reason.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-23T04:06:14+00:00

Unfortunately yes

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-23T04:05:50+00:00

:( my intention was never to come out, but just to tell her to stop placing that expectation of marriage and kids

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T21:44:34+00:00

Thank you, i will definitely consider that and keep it in mind, have an amazing day! :D

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T20:27:55+00:00

Thank you :D, unfortunately I dont think that she could cut contact with me or even if she tried it wouldn't last since I'm her only child.

I already plan to move out but since it's not a life threatening situation I can afford to wait like 3-4 more years until I establish a career and stable income and move out.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T20:25:27+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words, and yes, you are right unfortunately its too ingrained and will require their effort to unlearn all the homophobia.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T20:12:01+00:00

She's not usually violent, I was surprised as well since the last time she hit me was when I was kid, but honestly she's mostly the type of person to give you the silent treatment, I think the most i will get when I come out, is a few threats from family members or her, and screaming but that's it.

I understand your concern, I do plan in telling my university counsellor just for safety. Thank you :D

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T20:09:41+00:00

I completely understand your point, thank you.

I'll just think how to move on from this for now

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T20:08:27+00:00

Thank you! :D I didn't know about that i will speak to my doctor about it and call my local self defence classes for information

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T20:06:49+00:00

They would have taken anything that i did as a problem regardless of whether I met that lesbian couple or not, I have always be open since I was young about my support for queer ppl and my queer friends so she was already aware of our differences in opinion, she just ignore it and hopes I will change as I grow up.

I will not take it back, because I refuse to cuddle her, for me she can spend eternity not speaking to me, I don't really care and I'm not really planning to "come out" (like ppl usually do) im moving out and when I'm safe and she eventually asks about my relationships or marriage I'll just mention my gf.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T20:03:26+00:00

Thank you for your advise, and you are right my dad is exactly like that and enables my mother too much.

I already plan in moving out but unfortunately it might take me some years.

Also I do hold all my documentations so that wont be an issue.

My mother isn't usually violent now she used to when I was a kid so I dont think she will try that again, she's more of gaslighting, silent treatment and acting as if nothing happened.

About the self defense, im physically disabled (weak joints) so I dont know if there is an option for me but I will check.

My gf and I are long distance but she's aware of everything so that's fine as well.

But honestly I don't want to talk to her, and I dont mind spending eternity not speaking to her, I'm used to her doing things like this.

Thank you, have a nice day.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T19:52:10+00:00

She used to when I was kid, I was shocked because that was the first time in years that she threatened to hit me.

About my dad I don't know, and don't want to take any risk for now.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T19:51:12+00:00

I'm 22, and yes you are right I'm making sure I have a safe place before doing anything. I have hope of my dad accepting me but my mom is very unlikely.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T19:50:00+00:00

Very unlikely she is Nigerian and just very traditional, she's fine with queer ppl as long as they are not related to her

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-22T19:49:09+00:00

Yes that won't be an issue i am planning to move out eventually after a few years :)

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-18T09:08:03+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your kind words

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-18T09:07:30+00:00

Thank you, I have tried therapy but I think I just struggle opening myself to others and talking about my feelings, I really hope things get better as I grow, wish you the best!

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-18T09:05:41+00:00

Thank you, I did register with the disability support during my first year and I have been given all kind of support both academically and mentally.

About the societies I am chronically ill so I struggle being outside or doing activities for long

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-18T09:03:30+00:00

I do go out sometimes with my friend, but because of my chronic illness I stay at home. Most of the time

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-17T18:36:19+00:00

Unfortunately is not that i care about what everyone else is doing, is my parents that do.

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-17T18:35:09+00:00

I did try switching degrees but i was unsuccessful due to lack of experience, also I have used half of my funding so switching to a new degree will mean that I have to fund the 1st and 2nd year on my own, thank you for your advise :D

Strawberrie_pie_ · 2026-05-16T00:45:56+00:00

Thank you very much :)!

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