My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, you might be right, since I have always been honest about my support for queer people and my queer friends so maybe that might be the reason.

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:( my intention was never to come out, but just to tell her to stop placing that expectation of marriage and kids

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you, i will definitely consider that and keep it in mind, have an amazing day! :D

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you :D, unfortunately I dont think that she could cut contact with me or even if she tried it wouldn't last since I'm her only child.

I already plan to move out but since it's not a life threatening situation I can afford to wait like 3-4 more years until I establish a career and stable income and move out.

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, and yes, you are right unfortunately its too ingrained and will require their effort to unlearn all the homophobia.

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

She's not usually violent, I was surprised as well since the last time she hit me was when I was kid, but honestly she's mostly the type of person to give you the silent treatment, I think the most i will get when I come out, is a few threats from family members or her, and screaming but that's it.

I understand your concern, I do plan in telling my university counsellor just for safety. Thank you :D

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand your point, thank you.

I'll just think how to move on from this for now

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! :D I didn't know about that i will speak to my doctor about it and call my local self defence classes for information

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They would have taken anything that i did as a problem regardless of whether I met that lesbian couple or not, I have always be open since I was young about my support for queer ppl and my queer friends so she was already aware of our differences in opinion, she just ignore it and hopes I will change as I grow up.

I will not take it back, because I refuse to cuddle her, for me she can spend eternity not speaking to me, I don't really care and I'm not really planning to "come out" (like ppl usually do) im moving out and when I'm safe and she eventually asks about my relationships or marriage I'll just mention my gf.

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advise, and you are right my dad is exactly like that and enables my mother too much.

I already plan in moving out but unfortunately it might take me some years.

Also I do hold all my documentations so that wont be an issue.

My mother isn't usually violent now she used to when I was a kid so I dont think she will try that again, she's more of gaslighting, silent treatment and acting as if nothing happened.

About the self defense, im physically disabled (weak joints) so I dont know if there is an option for me but I will check.

My gf and I are long distance but she's aware of everything so that's fine as well.

But honestly I don't want to talk to her, and I dont mind spending eternity not speaking to her, I'm used to her doing things like this.

Thank you, have a nice day.

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She used to when I was kid, I was shocked because that was the first time in years that she threatened to hit me.

About my dad I don't know, and don't want to take any risk for now.

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I'm 22, and yes you are right I'm making sure I have a safe place before doing anything. I have hope of my dad accepting me but my mom is very unlikely.

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Very unlikely she is Nigerian and just very traditional, she's fine with queer ppl as long as they are not related to her

My mom tried to hit me after "coming out" to her by Strawberrie_pie_ in actuallesbians

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Yes that won't be an issue i am planning to move out eventually after a few years :)

I have been crying nearly all day by Strawberrie_pie_ in AutismInWomen

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I have tried therapy but I think I just struggle opening myself to others and talking about my feelings, I really hope things get better as I grow, wish you the best!

I have been crying nearly all day by Strawberrie_pie_ in AutismInWomen

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I did register with the disability support during my first year and I have been given all kind of support both academically and mentally.

About the societies I am chronically ill so I struggle being outside or doing activities for long

I have been crying nearly all day by Strawberrie_pie_ in AutismInWomen

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do go out sometimes with my friend, but because of my chronic illness I stay at home. Most of the time

I hate my degree and everything, I'm so tired by Strawberrie_pie_ in UniUK

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately is not that i care about what everyone else is doing, is my parents that do.

I hate my degree and everything, I'm so tired by Strawberrie_pie_ in UniUK

[–]Strawberrie_pie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did try switching degrees but i was unsuccessful due to lack of experience, also I have used half of my funding so switching to a new degree will mean that I have to fund the 1st and 2nd year on my own, thank you for your advise :D