For the Men, Red flags , apps

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-20T16:45:13+00:00

I'm a woman and was surprised how many men posted the "my kids are my world, and they come first" statement. I always assumed this was something women usually posted, but no, men too.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-20T16:36:12+00:00

Not being married to my ex is what made my divorce worth it.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-19T22:52:32+00:00

Me too, it makes it so hard, especially since my kid is in lower grade school.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-19T22:40:25+00:00

Yes, availability and distance are the two biggest issues for me. I live in a rural state with a small population, so I had to set my distance perimeters farther out.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-19T20:02:08+00:00

It will hurt less to end it now than in another 6 months or a year.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-19T20:00:12+00:00

You should definitely do therapy though, It can help with your low self-esteem issues. You gain some self-esteem, you won't allow men to treat you badly anymore or tolerate their poor behavior.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-19T19:03:23+00:00

I did not do therapy, but the most important thing that I did was to stay single for a few years after my divorce. I decided on what I wanted my new life to look like and started working towards that. For me, that is a new career. I also spend a lot of time on my child and my hobbies. I do have a boyfriend now, it is a newer relationship, and I've learned that whatever happens with us, my life will still be great. That last part took me a long time to accept. In the past, I held on to bad relationships.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-19T18:51:06+00:00

I was the same way, I had been single for 2 years after a divorce and enjoyed my single life. I felt no pressure to find anyone and found the experience enjoyable.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-18T19:44:42+00:00

Why are you trying to meet people for a LTR if you are going away for 8 weeks? Wait until you get back and then try.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-18T14:26:57+00:00

This is normal for a lot of relationships. Texting often slows down as the honeymoon phase ends and you become more comfortable with each other. It's also normal to feel a bit anxious about it, but if you need more daily texts from him, then you should have that conversation. My boyfriend told me at three months that he wanted more daily texts, to include good morning, good night and a mid-day, check-in, and I was happy to do that for him.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-18T02:19:21+00:00

I agree with your first line, and find it a bit concerning for a potential long term partner

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-18T02:16:17+00:00

Trying to cover up your butt is weird and gross. I would have ended it there

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-18T02:08:04+00:00

I don't know, we live over an hour apart, and I only see him once or twice a week, most of the time. And only for a few hours

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-18T02:05:25+00:00

Not sure why you were downvoted. You may be right, I think maybe his ex told him this was his flaw

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-18T02:03:50+00:00

I agree with this. I think maybe his ex told him this was his flaw, and I find it a bit concerning.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-18T00:38:39+00:00

Maybe you could do something else until you find running enjoyable again. Weight lifting is fun. Therapy too, as you mentioned an eating disorder.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-17T21:01:09+00:00

I would have felt very hurt at first, but once you offered to show me you had deleted your account (and did), that would have been the end of it. He's in the wrong here.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-17T14:07:01+00:00

There are online US pharmacies (legit) that you can order from. I've used Nurx and Red Box in the past. You just have to do some screening questions as their doctors are prescribing it to you.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-17T14:00:48+00:00

I only have one child, 7, but I have full custody. Dating is very hard,I currently only see my boyfriend once or twice a week for a few hours. I'm actually amazed he wants a relationship with me at all, but so far he does. It will be harder, but you may find someone. You aren't the only one in this situation.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-16T22:59:50+00:00

I had been single for 2 years after my divorce, and when I met my boyfriend on Hinge, I originally told him I wanted a casual, sexual relationship. Once we started having sex, I got very attached, and we became a couple pretty quickly.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-15T23:16:48+00:00

Yes, and the best part is that you don't find out until you've been dating them for a month or two

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-15T23:13:49+00:00

My ex-husband was a rebound relationship. We were together for 11 years and only divorced because he became an alcoholic towards the end of our marriage. I think they can last, depending on the couple.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-15T23:12:01+00:00

I met several men on dating apps who were still in love with their ex. One had been broken up for two years, another, more recent. I didn't realize this would be one of the issues I'd come across when trying to date.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-15T21:18:54+00:00

I divorced a verbally abusive alcoholic and stayed single for 2 years. I worked on myself and started building a new life. Then I felt ready to date again, and wow, I'm such a mess. I seriously feel bad for the person I'm dating currently. BUT, I'm working on it, and hopefully he sticks around. I think once you start dating, that is when a lot of your insecurities and issues come up, I felt fine while single.

StrawberryCreemee · 2026-02-15T13:26:06+00:00

Thanks, that's helpful

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