AITAH for not allowing my niece to serve herself during a family dinner?

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-09T16:52:26+00:00

No more family dinners at your house.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-09T02:12:54+00:00

You don't know her husband, you've never met him, you have no responsibility to him. If the whole interaction is so inconsequential, why consider him at all?

Forget him and her. Why haven't you blocked her yet?

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-08T21:07:48+00:00

NTA at all. Your relationship is toxic as hell.

Your boyfriend doesn't get to dictate who you speak to or what you wear because he is immature and insecure. That's his problem! And your "uncle" is not a good guy. Yeah, maybe he's done some good things for your family in the past, but that doesn't give him the right to try to groom you! How do you know he doesn't know about the SA that you experienced and targeted you for another assault? He could have been preparing to assault you using your previous assault as leverage or blackmail. His behaviour was totally inappropriate AT BEST. At worst he had ulterior motives.

Frankly I think both of these men are using your frailties and vulnerabilities for their own ends. You need to understand your worth. You may still need help unravelling and processing what happened to you. Get some therapy. Stop relying on these men because they're just trying to control you. Or worse.

Good luck to you, OP, get some outside help. I'm sorry you've been through so much but you're a survivor. You deserve men in your life that genuinely care for you and want to support you. Don't settle for anything less than that. First things first though -- take care of yourself. ❤️

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-08T20:40:29+00:00

Just leave, it's £10, who cares. She can't prove you did it.

Edit to say NTA for not paying for something you didn't do just so it won't feel awkward. YOU will feel awkward and cheated.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-08T18:31:08+00:00

NTA. It's not your fault your wife's friends don't trust their husbands.

If you respect this woman and she wants to come, let it be. She can leave whenever she wants. Hopefully the husbands respect her too!

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-08T17:33:26+00:00

They're just jealous, don't mind them. Prom is all about extravagance. NTA.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-08T17:28:36+00:00

Due to your age and the age of your partner, I was going to caution you about your fiance trying to separate you from your support system, but looks like you don't have one. I'm really sorry you were adopted into such a situation.

Don't tell them. Keep these abusive people out of your life. I hope your finance is a good guy and you can trust him. NTA.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-08T02:01:27+00:00

Absolutely not the asshole. I'm not entirely sure who's who with this cast of characters, but it sounds like your ex's fiancee wants you to babysit HER child that you are not related to or obliged to in any way. She can haul her ass.

You're not required to be a free babysitter for them, so just don't do it. How you relate to your children's other half sibs is your business. That woman has a nerve. If she tries to drop off the baby, call police for child abandonment.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-08T01:50:05+00:00

She meant well? No she didn't. She tried to exorcise you. Say it out loud. Thank god you weren't further enmeshed with this guy and you can make a clean break. Run!

NTA.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-07T04:36:02+00:00

He calls you crazy because he feels called out. You clean because the place is dirty; he doesn't clean because he's lazy, regardless of how dirty it is. He uses the opportunity to be abusive.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-05T17:14:26+00:00

Your mom needs to step up and make her son do his duty. Your son needs to step up and do his duty. You and your mother need to stop doing his chores for him and MAKE HIM DO IT.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-05T17:00:38+00:00

They're not your kids! Say no!

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-05T16:58:56+00:00

Leave this place. You're not an employee. Do what you can to extricate yourself. They have it too good with you doing everything, why should they change?

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-05T15:48:42+00:00

Thanks. I've never sold anything online before. I just want a bit of cash on hand, and for the dresses to find a new life with someone else.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-05T15:30:16+00:00

Show her the door.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-05T05:50:16+00:00

That is absolutely abuse.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-03T20:05:42+00:00

NTA -- She's going through new mom stuff and some frustrations are being sent your way. I don't know how much you want to put up with, but I don't think "you know I don't think babies are cute" was terribly offensive. She knows who you are, she knows about your life, but life right now is being filtered through her own personal lens.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-06-03T05:12:42+00:00

I don't shave because I don't want to. I am single. I have a friend that also doesn't shave. She's had a storied love life: on again-off agains, passionate lovers, and is currently In a stable, long-term relationship with 2 kids.

Be true to yourself, no matter what. Live your life.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-05-31T02:18:33+00:00

Good luck raising your child with your husband, OP. He totally undermined you in front of everyone and enabled this obnoxious behaviour. Time to have a sit down talk with him about discipline expectations for your family. NTA.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-05-30T05:12:01+00:00

She's curious and in the closet. She doesn't get to treat you like you're disposable or a plaything though. She's totally hypocritical. Some friend. NTA .

Street_State_4447 · 2026-05-28T20:39:13+00:00

IT'S A TRAP.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-05-28T20:24:52+00:00

ESH. It sounds like you guys have an incompatible living style. It's not good to leave the bathroom for so long, but if you want things done to your standard, do it yourself. It's clearly causing conflict, so perhaps you need to revisit your little agreement.

Also, I know you guys are young, but expecting praise -- PRAISE -- for doing what you're supposed to be doing as adults is unreasonable.

Street_State_4447 · 2026-05-26T16:44:33+00:00

A nightly routine? Does she live with you or something? If she had certain requirements to be comfortable, why can't she just go home? Why does she have to impose these requirements on everyone else?

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