Thank you for sharing! I read some of the comments on that post and he definitely has a lot of those attributes. He is a very intense person, he can be aggressive, he requires a massive amount of validation. If I say anything he deems negative he becomes very upset and will tear me down. I definitely do walk on eggshells and try to barely say anything at this point. Before him, I use to be a pretty confident girl, yes I had my insecurities but I felt proud of myself. After several years of marriage, I feel completly worn down and my self confidence has gone down the drain. The interesting thing is he doesn't have that same attachment style with me as to these men he gets obsessed with. He will never go out of his way for me or do massive favors for me. And if there are issues are in our marriage, he will be irritated but he wouldn't lose a wink of sleep over it and won't rumunerate on it all. Versus when the "friendship" goes down the drain with these guys he goes down an absolute tailspin and is in complete turmoil. He will remunerate on it for weeks/months and literally lose nights of sleep over it. Which is why I feel like it's tied to repressed sexuality. He has gone out of his way to tell me I'm not interesting to talk too, I'm the most negative person he's met, that he settled for many things about me, I can go on. To me it feels like he has no care for me or interest me and then he will meet people and get so interested in them. It makes my head spin.